To think that it IS rude?

[Dancingfairy]

A friend posted on facebook the other day about having a work man other who pooed in her loo without asking. The comments were all saying how rude and disgusting it was. Some even saying to report him or that they would have kicked him out. Anyway I mentioned it to a friend who didn't see the problem. But I do think that it's rude aswell so aibu or is it rude not to ask?!

Ffs. What a weird thread. Op you have some mental health issues surrounding going to the toilet.

Yes, if in someone's house it's polite to ask to use the loo. However if a workman was upstairs and I was down I would not expect them to come all the way down to ask if they could use the loo. I'd think they'd gone mad if they did.

It's beyond weird to think people can always hold it or there is something wrong with pooing when you need to if in someone's else's loo. It's also beyond weird to expect someone to ask to poo or to take objection to it.

It is not the same as eating your food or standing next to you and farting. It's what the room is designed for.

Why do you have such issues with pooing? Was there something in your childhood?

It's a basic human bodily function, how can it be rude? Wow some people actually amaze me. Toilets are for these bodily functions. What would you expect him to do? Crikey, the world is so upside down sometimes.

If i had workmen in, I wouldn't expect them to have to ask to use the loo, they're not at school! I would expect them to take dirty shoes off to go up the stairs and clean the loo if needed, other than that, I don't see a problem.

It's a toilet. He didn't shit in her bread bin.

"I would have to throw myself bodily into the nearest lab."

Now, there's no need to make a specimen of yourself.

Not come down. They could call down?? No nothing happened but I'm just quite poo shy I'm find it embarrassing sorry! And it really isn't unusual like I said. I'm on another forum and a lot of people didn't feel comfortable pooing in the house with their partners at home. And all the comments on the woman's Facebook were saying how vile it was so definitely isn't just me!

Exaggeration alert - "stunk the house out". FGS it's a bodily function that everyone does. OP I take it you're not into scat sex and I suggest you don't google it

(Disclaimer - I'm not into it!)

Only on MN is such a thread. Even the Queen shits.

Are you saying OP that you expect the workmen to make sure you know they want a poo and not a wee?! How embarrassing for all concerned if that's the case and bonkers

But you would know cos you would hear it flush??

I tell workmen where the toilet is on arrival, all human beings need to wee and poo!
I on the other hand poo in any toilet that is free when I need to go. I have Crohns and if I've got to go I've got to go. Thank god I'm not friends with you or your bitchy mate Op, or I'd be poo shamed everyday of the week. For a pair of adults you should both be ashamed of yourselves.

liz, I'm intrigued at your 'preliminary flush'. Do you mean before you shit? Genuine question as I do have some stinkers and cringe a bit if they're in public loos.

OP, it may not be just you, but rest assured those who don't feel comfortable pooing in the house with their partners at home and all the FB comments saying it was 'vile' are weirdos with issues too.

Ofcourse some peoples poos stink to the high heavens! Are you saying it doesn't?! I've had people poo in my toilet and I can smell it downstairs!
Engineers here now he said it will take 45 minutes let's hope he doesn't need a poo

So a person should be shamed for having a poo that smells? Something they have no control over and would be embarrassed enough without someone spraying air freshener everywhere.

How mean. How rude.

No, not before, just after "eliminating", but before wiping. The idea is that while your arse is parked on the loo seat, the whiff from the waste is relatively contained, then flushed away before you start shifting about and releasing the Defcon vapours all over the place. I think it sort of helps to lessen the niff.

Lovely subject for a Thursday morning natter.

I have read threads on MN where op would LTB if he broke wind in front of her. This sterile world without bodily functions is alien to me. Where do you stand on that OP?

I mean, I am quite partial to my DH anyway but if I wasn't the thought of having to go through all the anxiety about when is the right time to do one would put me off dating.

I honestly do get the anxiety about pooing in unfamiliar places but projecting those anxieties onto others is not really ok

If someone didn't flush the toilet that is gross, it's a pet hate of mine in public toilets and there's no excuse for that. I always clean the toilet after doing a poo and make sure I leave it as I found it, it would be rude not to do that in someone else's toilet, imo.

But you can't object to workmen using the toilet at all imo, that's just odd.

"let's hope he doesn't need a poo"

Clingfilm over the pan. That'll learn the dirty bastard.

liz, I see. Good tip1

at 'Defcon vapours'.

That should be 'Good tip!' not 'Good tip1'. I'm not ranking your tips or anything.

You are, in the nicest possible way, very odd OP.

My ex knew not to fart infront of me and I wouldn't do it infront of him I would seriously rather die.

"I'm on another forum and a lot of people didn't feel comfortable pooing in the house with their partners at home."

Christ on a bike. (I guess he never took a shite either.)

I think it's polite to ask if you can use the bathroom, but it's really just a courtesy. I mean, no one would refuse, surely?

Are there actually people who would turn around and say, "no, no you can't," or, "it depends; number one or number two?"?

OP, if your workman asks to use your bathroom, what will you say?

OP would you have made such an issue if he was going for a wee? Cos the workman is not obligated to tell you specifically if its a piss or shit he's going for.

So a skilled workman is ok to come and sort out a problem in your house (that you aren't skilled enough to do) but is then relegated to 'a stranger' not worthy to use the one thing in your house that's one and only use is to dispose of bodily waste cos some people's waste is inferior to others?

Are we really in the 21st century? Are people still hung up on bodily functions to this extent? After a few thousand years i would have hoped we would be able to accept the fact if we didnt crap we would die so it's a pretty important function.