To think that it IS rude?

[Dancingfairy]

A friend posted on facebook the other day about having a work man other who pooed in her loo without asking. The comments were all saying how rude and disgusting it was. Some even saying to report him or that they would have kicked him out. Anyway I mentioned it to a friend who didn't see the problem. But I do think that it's rude aswell so aibu or is it rude not to ask?!

hit with the stench and "I'd rather die than fart in front of my partner"

For god's sake OP you need help with this. This is ridiculous. Either that or go hiking round the australian outback and you'll have to poo behind a bush then.

You are being beyond ridiculous and please stop putting your poo-fears onto other people, especially workmen. We and they don't have those daft fears

I don't get this, everyone farts, pees and shits, it's a NATURAL bodily function, as long as he hasn't made a mess and has cleaned up after himself, than meh!

Ofcourse I would refuse a delivery driver using my toilet!! I had a tescos delivery earlier no way would I have let him in. You hve to draw the line somewhere.
So if farting is so natural I take it you would be ok with a waiter handing you your dinner whilst farting? It's natural after all.

Harking back a few pages to Dancingfairy saying that if you're in a public area with no public loos then you wait...

I've just been to my mum's and there were lots of council workmen outside digging up the road and pavement. I'd been there about an hour when one of them knocked on the door and asked if he could please fill up his water bottle and also use her loo.

She said of course because she's a decent human being and not a weirdo

Well nobody wants to be unexpectedly hit by the stench of shit do they?? A little warning would be nice.

I cant believe you expect someone to 'warn' you that theyve had a poo!! How about, whenever you enter a loo, you just always prepare yourself for a smell? Sure it's not pleasant, but it's in the room specially built for the purpose of pooing in! So the smell of poo should hardly be a surprise!

So the issue is that it smelled, not that he had to do it? Bloody hell, if you can control whether or not your poos smell and when you need one I am impressed.

The poor guy needed the toilet at work. FFS.

There's a difference between letting a delivery driver use your toilet compared to a workman who is in your home for an extended amount of time. Use common sense OP.

But imagine letting a random passer by use the loo?! I only have one upstairs most normal people would say no.

Also I would never refuse a delivery driver my toilet! They are people! FFS!

My ex was a postie, and then (don't know if this has changed) they were advised if they needed to go they should ask at a house.

Dancing get a grip! There is a massive difference between farting while serving food and a workman needing to use bathroom facilities while working with no other facilities to use!!!

Honestly some people need to get a grip with reality and give there head a proper wobble, precious much!

Demirose87
I was replying to someone who mentioned delivery drivers asking to use the loo! So you use common sense :)

Oh don't be so silly Dancing.

Why are you picking extremes?

Of course I wouldn't want a waiter farting as he served me a meal but I certainly wouldn't be classing him as the spawn of the devil if he did because he obviously couldn't help it.

Sometimes it can't be helped and as much as you have Hyacinth Bouquet control over every single bodily function of yours, not everyone has.

Do you know what... must let you into a secret... sometimes I sneeze. It's involunatry. Awful that isn't it... I'll beat myself up about a sneeze too. To me... wanting to go for a dump and having to do it, is no different. Sometimes you have to go.

I do suggest you get some help with this. Maybe CBT might help. Then you can join the rest of the world and not find bodily functions so revolting and abhorrent that it's ruling your life.

You're not exactly nice are you? Where's the empathy for your fellow man? A delivery driver nicely asks to use you loo and you refuse? Lovely! I hope you don't lose control of your bowels/bladder one day and have someone not help you.

Dancingfairy is picking extremes because very few others are agreeing with her.

It's a natural bodily function and we all have to do it, OP. Would you have the poor man uncomfortable or in pain trying to hold it in for hours while he finished his work? It's a toilet. His will not be the first shit it has ever seen.

I can understand annoyance if the person in question has been completely thoughtless and left a mess behind them, but if folk give the bowl a swish with some bleach and a brush (hopefully always readily available) and crack open the window, I honestly don't see the issue at all.

I don't understand how anyone can be so precious, tbh. It's not like roses bloom from your friends backside!

Are you kidding me? No, I wouldn't see an issue with another human being using my loo to defecate in? If it wasn't left to my satisfaction, I could easily remedy it with bleach, brush and spray. There really are some uppity women in this world. Get over yourselves!

toilets are for pooing in, unless on a coach someone took a dump on a coach I was on and stunk the whole coach out! desperate or not a coach is not the place to poop! it was the smelliest shit ever and blocked it too, was disgusting, so a workman using your bathroom is fine there are windows and air freshener imagine a coach on a hot summers day meh was vile

Everyone said it was disgusting on the Facebook page so I'm not bothered that people don't agree with me on here IRL people obviously agree that bodily functions are disgusting hence why people don't go around farting and burping, it's done discretely.

And what's not discrete about sitting behind a closed door using a toilet?

If I smell poo in public toilets I just think "oh god really?!" As I can't quite get people who are comfortable enough to do it. Or if someone takes to long in the toilet so it's obvious there pooing also makes me abit sick.

Really OP? Comfortable or not, some of us don't have the opportunity to 'hang on'. I have IBS, reflux disease and have had issues in the past caused by 'hanging on' until I got home - fissures and anal tearing is not pleasant due to constipation from 'hanging on' - let me tell you that for free. Now I suffer, at the age of 31, and if I have to go, I have to go. There's no hanging about for me, I'd be doubled over and crippled if I dared to try and hang on, not to mention probably shitting myself! I'd never leave the house if I wasn't able to use a public toilet or a friends/family members toilet without prejudice. Sadly, it's attitudes such as yours and your friend that make people feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. I'd give anything to have 'normal' bowels and habits, like my DH can be timed precisely to go to the loo, same time, every day, doesn't matter where he is, regular as clockwork. I just have to eat something out of the ordinary and I'm running for the nearest loo! I do carry deodorant and body spray with me to minimise any smells, however, perhaps it's best that I just stay at home, just in case!!!

I'm very territorial, a control freak and very sensitive to smells. But I'd feel an awful snob if I said a workman couldn't shit in my toilet.

OP you sound about 12.

I'm amazed the OP is still arguing the toss on here. I can only think you can't have had child or pets, or elderly parents needing assistance with the toilet. That's what toilets are for, fgs! As for judging others for doing poos in public toilets, how completely precious can you be??? And how do you yourself manage to poo?

You have some very odd friends, that's all I can say.

Everyone on her facebook agrees with her her friend that should say OP is not bothered what we say Mittens so much so shes not that bothered that she started a thread about it

Nothing wrong with it IMO, it's what loos are for.

However, they should have the good manners to be hygienic and leave the loo as they found it.