To think that it IS rude?

[Dancingfairy]

A friend posted on facebook the other day about having a work man other who pooed in her loo without asking. The comments were all saying how rude and disgusting it was. Some even saying to report him or that they would have kicked him out. Anyway I mentioned it to a friend who didn't see the problem. But I do think that it's rude aswell so aibu or is it rude not to ask?!

for god's sake it's a TOILET - if you are expecting to sit there and enjoy a steak dinner then you have issues

Weird as these threads are, they do bring out the best and funniest in a lot of MNetters.

Just to ask to use the toilet, no need to state what for but if it's a poo then yes you should ask so people can be prepared.

if it's a poo then yes you should ask so people can be prepared.

Prepared how? With breathing equipment? Fumigating machinery? A priest to exorcise the Stranger's Poo?

I wouldn't say that he's someone with serious mental health issues tbh. if he'd be willing to do jail time because somebody did a shit in his toilet??

Thank you Wizard I do like to bring a sense of moderation to these discussions

Just to ask to use the toilet, no need to state what for but if it's a poo then yes you should ask so people can be prepared.

So they do need to state what for then: so you can "prepare"

Indeed Wizard

It's very weird to expect people to announce they're going for a poo! Even I can see that.

I did force myself to wait for 3 days before pooing when the only option was a latrine when working in Uganda, and I couldn't face doing it in a place where there were cobras outside sometimes. But it created awful constipation and it's not something I recommend at all.

So yes I get it. But I would never cause inconvenience to someone else because of any issues I might have, and forcing a workman to go and find a public toilet or to wait a whole day possibly is just not on!

They don't need to specifically say to do a poo but I do think if they are planning to do a poo they should mention they are using the toilet otherwise your just gonna be hit with the stench.

So when you say you would like them to ask to do a poo, please word exactly what you want them to say. Just in case I'm ever in this situation

But OP they are using the toilet if only having a wee too!

I would actually find it very weird if a workman said to me, 'Excuse me, I'm going to do a poo now,' lol. That's what my DDs tell me, but I really don't want to hear it from a workman.

An apology if it does smell a lot is appropriate though.

I simply don't understand how or why you would interpret the words "I'm planning to use the toilet" as "I'm going to do a poo". OP, you simply live in a different world.

These threads are hilarious

Just to ask to use the toilet, no need to state what for but if it's a poo then yes you should ask so people can be prepared.

How, exactly are you going to prepare ???
I'm laughing out loud now. This is hysterical.

OP you have issues.

Are people really spending hours with their bumholes clamped shut because it's rude to poop anywhere but your own toilet?? That cannot be good for you...

30 pages about one mans poo 😂
Is this thread going to make loose women ?

Well nobody wants to be unexpectedly hit by the stench of shit do they?? A little warning would be nice.

The poor man I do feel sorry for him though really. If only he knew what he has caused.

Pengggwyn, I have to say that my whole family makes the toilet have a 'stench', especially me. Just I suppose a little harder to take mouthfuls of the fragrant air of someone else's bowels maybe? But everyone's poo smells!

This is not about feeling a bit weird about poo - you can't help how you feel, although the childishness about it is wearisome. What is totally unreasonable is calling others rude and disgusting because they don't happen to share your hang ups about a totally normal bodily function.

I agree with this. As I said earlier, I think your friend has been incredibly rude, and it's highly ironic that she's done so whilst calling someone out for something that most people don't find at all rude.

Merchant You have been completely reasonable and haven't accused anyone of being disgusting. I have never come across this phenomenon outside of Mumsnet.
I'm a community nurse so often spend 6 or 7 hours doing home visits before I get back to my team base. I regularly ask to use patients' toilets. I have even, shock horror, done a poo sometimes.
I have seen posters on here saying that they would refuse to let a delivery driver or salesperson use their toilet. In the 18 years I've been doing my job, nobody has ever refused to let me use their loo.
I had a friend who didn't 'go' for 8 days as she was staying with her ultra posh boyfriend's parents who made it very clear that they thought she wasn't good enough for their son. She ended up needing mega doses of laxatives for ages.