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To end relationship over his irritating dog?

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MauledInPassing · 22/08/2017 20:43

Been together two years but do not live together. He has a dog (French bulldog) which is absolutely fucking crazy and is putting me off taking relationship any further.

Whenever I go to his house it goes nuts, attacks my legs and feet, launches itself at me trying to bite my hands, tries to grab the knees of my trousers - when I sit down it launches itself at my face, gets on the back of the sofa and attack my head, hair, bites my ears - all the while DP is laughing like a loon saying how cute and funny it is. The other day I got mad at it and knocked it off the sofa (a little harder than I should have done admittedly) and it fell onto its back. DP gasped and ran to pick it up. I was mortified and apologised straight away and asked if it was ok. He was really upset and said he was shocked that I could treat an animal in such a way. I felt absolutely terrible but as soon as he let it go it immediately carried on attacking me.

I've asked him to stop the dog from doing this and he makes a half arsed attempt but it just carries on. It runs off with my shoes or any object I happen to have brought into the house. The other day DP was literally crying with laughter in the kitchen. I went to see what he was laughing at only to realise that my hardback had been snatched and taken outside and it's contents all over the garden. Keys, phone, purse, NHS ID card!!! Then this stupid ridiculous animal stood shaking my bag to death growling like a thing possessed. I shouted at DP that this shit isn't funny but he couldn't even answer me for laughing.

He turned up here half hour ago, pooch in tow and asked if I wanted to go for a walk with them. I looked at its fat squashed up face and instantly felt irritated! I like dogs but this thing has something wrong with it, I'm sure.

Anyway I declined, saying I was tired and he said he was worried that I didn't like his dog and was hoping to try a bit of bonding. I don't want to bond with it, it tires me out. Apart from the biting it constantly covers me in an awful white slime which makes me wretch.

I'm seriously considering ending the relationship over it. I'd never expect him to get rid of it but I personally don't want to be around it. I feel awful because at heart I know it's just an innocent dog but I just don't like it. I've never felt like this about an animal before.

OP posts:
Willow2017 · 23/08/2017 09:49

Struggling to see what is attractive in this arsehole? I wouldn't have lasted 2 weeks never mind 2 years wtf were you thinking?
Having a mental dog attacking you every time you see it? Why on earth would you put up with that? Never mind the freaking arse laughing at your belongings getting trashed.

He is a total childish idiot find yourself a man and posdinly someone who doesnt trwat thier dog as a wind up toy to amuse himself with.

As for the dog I would have launched it into bloody space after it attacked me the first 2 times. All the angst over pushing it off the sofa ffs it wasn't off a high rise building people it was a SOFA! I don't believe for a second anyone with a dog attacking their face and head would sit there politely and not react. No wonder there are so many badly trained dogs out there.

And why the he'll should op pay hundreds of £ to have a behaviourist train that idiots dog? His dog not here and he clearly wouldn't keep up the training anyway its much more fun to piss yourself laughing at it attacking people.

OP please tell him and his dog to fottfsofatfosm.

AnUtterIdiot · 23/08/2017 09:52

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Nancy91 · 23/08/2017 09:58

It's his choice to keep the dog, instead of pushing it around and complaining, just leave.

I have a well behaved, well trained dog but even if she was naughty I didn't rescue her just to have a partner come into my home and treat her badly.

Willow2017 · 23/08/2017 09:59

Just read a few more posts.
Seriously it's ops fault for not understanding dog behaviour?
I have had dogs and plenty family and friends have dogs.

Amazingly all were trained NOT to attack visitors. Not to bite certainly not to jump on the sofa and attack peoples heads ears and faces. Mouthing someones face is still painful and completely not acceptable.
I just can't get my head around people saying op must hate all dogs. What a ridiculous thing to say. OP doesn't hate all dogs only the ones that attack her on a regular basis.

XJerseyGirlX · 23/08/2017 10:00

He sounds like a really irresponsible dog owner. He needs to learn how to control it , You cant expect to put up with that.

Gottagetmoving · 23/08/2017 10:03

I have a well behaved, well trained dog but even if she was naughty I didn't rescue her just to have a partner come into my home and treat her badly

Un-fucking-believable!
If your dog is well trained it wouldn't bother someone to the point they had to shove it away...but if it did YOU should step in and stop it before someone has to!
OP hasn't treated the dog badly...her DP is treating it badly. He is treating her badly too.
It's sad some dog owners are this irrational.

Nancy91 · 23/08/2017 10:06

The OP is continuing to go to this guys place and then complain about the dog. Why not just STOP GOING THERE. Yes he should train his dog, but it's not looking likely is it? So the OP can either complain or solve the problem by not being around the dog anymore.

Gottagetmoving · 23/08/2017 10:08

The people feeling most sorry for the dog in this scenario..... get a grip...and you shouldn't have a dog until you get your priorities right.

Ferrisday · 23/08/2017 10:09

OP hasn't come back to talk about the dog- whether it's a puppy or a new rescue.
The idea that he wants you to bond would suggest it's a new thing.

Willow2017 · 23/08/2017 10:09

Nancy if you cant tell the difference between a dog that attacks visitors every time they arrive and continues to try to dominate them during the visit and is destructive of their possessions and a bit of 'naughtiness' then I wonder if your dog behaved the same way as op's dp' s dog and you think its funny too.

Seriously you can't see the difference from some puppy silliness and being attacked every visit for 2 years?

borntobequiet · 23/08/2017 10:17

I haven't read the full thread but am amazed that you identify the poor dog as irritating, rather than its idiot owner.

morningconstitutional2017 · 23/08/2017 10:17

It's 'love me, love my dog' isn't it? But if he can't be bothered to train it to behave nicely I wonder why you've stuck it so long. He may have left it too long so its behaviour is ingrained.
I would give him an ultimatum - let's go to dog training classes together or the relationship goes no further.

Branleuse · 23/08/2017 10:18

Dump him. The whole situation sounds unpleasant. If he cant be arsed to train his fucking dog, he cant expect visitors to be having a good time.

BlurryFace · 23/08/2017 10:23

Can't stand nippy dogs. Most puppies go through a stage of nipping in play, but it really shouldn't be encouraged - which allowing a guest to be subjected to it without intervening is. And a dog's teeth making contact with your head/face area is going to be alarming and set off fight or flight instincts, so I can see why OP launched it, and the DP should have intervened before it got to that point.

OP, you should leave your DP, so disrespectful of him to allow it to ruin your things and laugh at it.

Him letting this dog get away with this stuff is cruel the dog too - one day it will start its bad behaviour with a bigger dog, or someone who will give it a good booting to get it away.

Seriously, he is not turning it into a nice dog that can go to fetes or parks and be petted by strangers or allowed off lead where other people and their dogs are present.

FluffyPineapple · 23/08/2017 10:24

I'm a dog lover. I have always had 2 dogs. They have all been well trained.

No way on this earth would I be in a relationship with the owner of a dog that attacks me, jumps all over me etc especially if its owner thinks it's funny and something I should have to put up with.

An untrained dog is a bloody nuisance and no pleasure to be around. Seriously, why have you stayed with that nob for so long?

imaddictedtomn · 23/08/2017 10:33

You don't have a problem with the dog - you have a problem with your DP.

He obviously has no issue with the dogs behaviour and isn't likely to change.

You could try sitting your DP down and explaining if things don't change then it'll be the end of your relationship- but if things don't change you really have no other option but to walk away.

ladyyyglittersparkles · 23/08/2017 10:34

If he finds this shit funny then he is obviously unhinged 😳

fannydaggerz · 23/08/2017 10:34

Yes his dog is not well behaved but you didn't behave well either when you pushed it off the couch.

End the relationship now, he will choose the dog over you.

BakedBeans47 · 23/08/2017 10:34

The bloke and the dog are both wankers. Sadly it isn't the dog's fault but it's still a wanker.

I'd get rid and I also don't get the problem with shoving it off a sofa if it was attacking her, whether it was just "mouthing" or otherwise

I would definitely get rid but not before you've thrown a lot of his personal belongings around the garden whilst cackling inanely

Willow2017 · 23/08/2017 10:36

Ferrisday
Its been going on for 2 years!

Hardly a new dog or a puppy.

Willow2017 · 23/08/2017 10:37

fanny
So you would sit there and let a dog bite all over your face, head and ears and smile politely?

Yeah right!

Willow2017 · 23/08/2017 10:40

For everyone who thinks this is 'normal doggy behaviour'

What would you do if you were in the park with your toddler and this dog ran up and knocked your toddler down and started 'mouthing' aka biting at their face while your toddler is screaming on the ground?

  1. laugh and say "stop screaming darling its only doing doggy stuff"
  2. Boot the thing into orbit and scoop up your child and give the owner a bollicking?

Cos this is going to happen some day as this owner is clueless as to how he is training his dog that attacking people is funny.

Pigface1 · 23/08/2017 10:41

I'm a huge dog lover but some of the posts on here blaming the OP and basically accusing her of animal cruelty are ridiculous.

The only person guilty of animal cruelty is her OP - he's a bad, irresponsible dog owner. Poorly trained dogs are not happy. The behaviour the OP is describing is the behaviour of an unhappy, jealous, anxious dog.

OP - unfortunately I think you're probably going to have to end this relationship. I can't really see a way round it I'm afraid.

Ferrisday · 23/08/2017 11:02

Willow- She says they've been together for 2 years, she doesn't say how long he's had the dog.
And as it sounds like puppy behaviour to me and he wants her to bond with the dog, I asked OP to answer.
If the dog has been behaving like this for 2 years then obviously that's not acceptable

DopeyDazy · 23/08/2017 11:22

You beed to him him by the beck and rub his face in some shit to show him whos boss. Then I would sort the dog out after that Smile

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