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To end relationship over his irritating dog?

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MauledInPassing · 22/08/2017 20:43

Been together two years but do not live together. He has a dog (French bulldog) which is absolutely fucking crazy and is putting me off taking relationship any further.

Whenever I go to his house it goes nuts, attacks my legs and feet, launches itself at me trying to bite my hands, tries to grab the knees of my trousers - when I sit down it launches itself at my face, gets on the back of the sofa and attack my head, hair, bites my ears - all the while DP is laughing like a loon saying how cute and funny it is. The other day I got mad at it and knocked it off the sofa (a little harder than I should have done admittedly) and it fell onto its back. DP gasped and ran to pick it up. I was mortified and apologised straight away and asked if it was ok. He was really upset and said he was shocked that I could treat an animal in such a way. I felt absolutely terrible but as soon as he let it go it immediately carried on attacking me.

I've asked him to stop the dog from doing this and he makes a half arsed attempt but it just carries on. It runs off with my shoes or any object I happen to have brought into the house. The other day DP was literally crying with laughter in the kitchen. I went to see what he was laughing at only to realise that my hardback had been snatched and taken outside and it's contents all over the garden. Keys, phone, purse, NHS ID card!!! Then this stupid ridiculous animal stood shaking my bag to death growling like a thing possessed. I shouted at DP that this shit isn't funny but he couldn't even answer me for laughing.

He turned up here half hour ago, pooch in tow and asked if I wanted to go for a walk with them. I looked at its fat squashed up face and instantly felt irritated! I like dogs but this thing has something wrong with it, I'm sure.

Anyway I declined, saying I was tired and he said he was worried that I didn't like his dog and was hoping to try a bit of bonding. I don't want to bond with it, it tires me out. Apart from the biting it constantly covers me in an awful white slime which makes me wretch.

I'm seriously considering ending the relationship over it. I'd never expect him to get rid of it but I personally don't want to be around it. I feel awful because at heart I know it's just an innocent dog but I just don't like it. I've never felt like this about an animal before.

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NewBrian · 22/08/2017 21:02

I've stopped seeing someone because his dog drove me mad. Your boyfriend is a twat just letting this go on, it's not cute or funny just because it's a small dog.

gamerchick · 22/08/2017 21:03

Just dump him. Badly behaved dog with a dick for an owner.

I fell out with a friend once because their GR was a persistent crotch sniffer. I swear it was either fall out with him or move this dog away rougher than i should have. Ill mannered dogs suck to be around.

Just tell the daft twat to fuck off and take his slime producing specimen with him.

monkeywithacowface · 22/08/2017 21:05

He sounds like an immature prick. If you are hoping to have children at some point in this dogs lifetime do you really want it to be exposed to a badly trained dog and a toss pot dad who is going laugh when the dog chews on the baby.

BackieJerkhart · 22/08/2017 21:06

Why don't you hire a dog trainer?

It's not the dog that needs the training! It's her DP!

DownstairsMixUp · 22/08/2017 21:08

I would dump to. He sounds like an annoying twat tbh, if you end up moving in together you'll have to see him and the dog all the time. Sod that.

Greyhorses · 22/08/2017 21:10

I would leave him too.

My DH dosent particularly like my dogs but no way would I allow them to behave like that towards anyone especially him!

nocoolnamesleft · 22/08/2017 21:11

The dog is badly behaved because its owner is a dick. Dump the dick. And pity the dog, that can't.

DezTheMoaner · 22/08/2017 21:11

Definitely a deal breaker.

SoPassRemarkable · 22/08/2017 21:12

Can you start training the dog if your DP isn't doing so?

Bag of treats, dog gets a treat when he's behaving. Starts arsing about dog is firmly told no and removed from the sofa, your feet, handbag, etc. When he stops being naughty he gets a treat.

I mean ideally your DP should sort his dog but to be honest if you do it then the dog may well start to like you a bit more because at the minute it sounds like the dog dislikes you and is jealous.

I had a dog that hated my dh and attacked him constantly. Dog psychologist said it had to be dh that gave the dog treat as it would help dog make a positive association regarding dh.

BeepBeepMOVE · 22/08/2017 21:14

Oh give over some of you! Who hasn't pushed a dog of a sofa- she didn't throw it to the floor.

All the dog's behaviour is down to him being a shite dog owner ho clearly cba to put any work in. His attitude to the dog misbehaving is awful. I'd definitely be leaving and make it clear that it is his actions and lack there of than the dog who can't help it. Imagine how he'd be with kids!

ChasedByBees · 22/08/2017 21:16

I also would have LTB after the handbag incident. Ditch him.

BackieJerkhart · 22/08/2017 21:16

Who hasn't pushed a dog of a sofa

Err, me! Hmm is that something you do regularly? You shouldn't be around dogs either.

Hassled · 22/08/2017 21:17

The thing is the OP could train the dog all she liked, if she could be arsed, and it may or may not work, but that wouldn't make the guy less of a dick. He really doesn't give a shit what she thinks or how she feels.

Mrscropley · 22/08/2017 21:17

Imagine adding a baby to this. . .

Walk away. .

JaneEyre70 · 22/08/2017 21:17

The very fact that he thinks it is funny to have an untrained dog that attacks people means he's a total tosser anyway. I love my dog, and he gets very excited when visitors are here, so I hold his collar until he's calm then he gets to say hello to everyone. It's cruel to have a dog and not train it. It will never work if you feel like this, but the issue is with him and not the poor dog.

Ceto · 22/08/2017 21:18

I think I'd dump your boyfriend just for his infantile sense of humour. Who on earth thinks it's funny seeing a dog destroy someone else's belongings?

mmmmnuts · 22/08/2017 21:20

I would say you could tell him you want him to get a behavourist in to help him train the dog, but the fact that he just laughs at it all is worse than the dog's behaviour itself. Shows a lack of respect IMO.

mmmmnuts · 22/08/2017 21:21

Who hasn't pushed a dog of a sofa

What a bizarre question. I'd imagine MOST people have never pushed a dog off a sofa!

iMatter · 22/08/2017 21:21

Your dp is a prick

Walk away

Ameliablue · 22/08/2017 21:26

It's not the dog that's the problem, is the owner, so yes end the relationship as he is obviously too irresponsible.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 22/08/2017 21:28

I'd leave him. Not because of the dog, but because of his reaction to it. He's a twat - why have you put up with this shit for 2 years?!

thereallochnessmonster · 22/08/2017 21:29

Haha, if a dog had been biting me and all over me, I'd have pushed it off the sodding sofa too. Stupid, ill-trained brute. And so is your partner.

Can't train an aggressive dog, thinks it's funny when dog destroys your things? Tell him to fuck off.

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Wdigin2this · 22/08/2017 21:31

I hate when someone invites you into their house, their dog jumps all of over you, and they just say.....oh he wouldn't hurt a fly!
Damn wrong!

RaspberryBeret34 · 22/08/2017 21:32

God, it sounds horrendous. I love dogs but he needs to at least pay lip service to trying to get it to behave a bit around you. I think the biggest problem is not the dog but your BF's lack of respect for you and your stuff - he was laughing as the dog tore into your handbag and scattered everything inside it?! He let's it bite and slobber over you! I would definitely end the relationship, it just doesn't sound like it's working for you.