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To end relationship over his irritating dog?

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MauledInPassing · 22/08/2017 20:43

Been together two years but do not live together. He has a dog (French bulldog) which is absolutely fucking crazy and is putting me off taking relationship any further.

Whenever I go to his house it goes nuts, attacks my legs and feet, launches itself at me trying to bite my hands, tries to grab the knees of my trousers - when I sit down it launches itself at my face, gets on the back of the sofa and attack my head, hair, bites my ears - all the while DP is laughing like a loon saying how cute and funny it is. The other day I got mad at it and knocked it off the sofa (a little harder than I should have done admittedly) and it fell onto its back. DP gasped and ran to pick it up. I was mortified and apologised straight away and asked if it was ok. He was really upset and said he was shocked that I could treat an animal in such a way. I felt absolutely terrible but as soon as he let it go it immediately carried on attacking me.

I've asked him to stop the dog from doing this and he makes a half arsed attempt but it just carries on. It runs off with my shoes or any object I happen to have brought into the house. The other day DP was literally crying with laughter in the kitchen. I went to see what he was laughing at only to realise that my hardback had been snatched and taken outside and it's contents all over the garden. Keys, phone, purse, NHS ID card!!! Then this stupid ridiculous animal stood shaking my bag to death growling like a thing possessed. I shouted at DP that this shit isn't funny but he couldn't even answer me for laughing.

He turned up here half hour ago, pooch in tow and asked if I wanted to go for a walk with them. I looked at its fat squashed up face and instantly felt irritated! I like dogs but this thing has something wrong with it, I'm sure.

Anyway I declined, saying I was tired and he said he was worried that I didn't like his dog and was hoping to try a bit of bonding. I don't want to bond with it, it tires me out. Apart from the biting it constantly covers me in an awful white slime which makes me wretch.

I'm seriously considering ending the relationship over it. I'd never expect him to get rid of it but I personally don't want to be around it. I feel awful because at heart I know it's just an innocent dog but I just don't like it. I've never felt like this about an animal before.

OP posts:
user1496777666 · 22/08/2017 22:03

Have you ever mentioned to him about his dogs behaviour? Ermm, OP says: I've asked him to stop the dog from doing this and he makes a half arsed attempt but it just carries on.

Not to mention the fact that it should be apparent to any grown adult, or responsible dog owner.

OP. I would end this too. I am not a dog person admittedly but I would not tolerate the lack of consideration your DP displays by allowing his dog to behave like this.

oldmums · 22/08/2017 22:04

i think you have to leave him,if you hate his pets its never going to work. French bulldogs are crazy dogs,but they just want attention, not usually vicious .

Slimthistime · 22/08/2017 22:04

Actually op now I'm wondering the age of your partner?

Ceto · 22/08/2017 22:06

When an animal is going for someone's head, they aren't pushing it away out of annoyance, but out of the automatic instinct of self-preservation. And it doesn't matter if it is play fighting or genuinely attacking, when you have an over-excited dog's teeth around your face it doesn't really make that much difference.

Bergamot2017 · 22/08/2017 22:07

Badly behaved dog aside, why have you spent two years with someone who laughs at your discomfort and clearly lacks any kind of sensitivity or empathy? Imagine what this pillock would be like as a dad - would he be standing there crying with laughter while his out-of-control dog ripped your baby's face off?!

reallyanotherone · 22/08/2017 22:07

Is the dog actually aggressive? Is it attacking as in trying to bite and hurt you?

Or is it one of those really annoying dogs that is very persistant in it's greeting, trying to lick your face and get close to your head, play with your clothes, and will not give up.

Two very different things. The former will end up with someone being bitten, and i'm suprised you haven't been. The second is just fucking annoying, and i can really see why someone doesn't like it.

kali110 · 22/08/2017 22:12

Dump him.
He's never going to change and you could hurt his dog.
I feel sorry for this dog. It has a crap owner.
The other day I got mad at it and knocked it off the sofa (a little harder than I should have done admittedly) and it fell onto its back
There's a difference between protecting yourself and hurting an animal because you're mad.
girty what Confused

AufderAutobahn · 22/08/2017 22:16

Crying with laughter at the dog destroying your possessions, with no attempt to stop it? How disrespectful, I would be furious.

missiondecision · 22/08/2017 22:19

What the hell has he got going for him in order for you to put up with this shit ?

CreamCheeseBrownies · 22/08/2017 22:21

Dump him for his lack of respect and consideration for you.

Who would want to be with someone who laughs at them having their face snapped at, ears bitten and handbag trashed? Not bloody funny IMO.

Nomoreboomandbust · 22/08/2017 22:22

you are crazy to have put up with this bloke for 2 years! You should rescue the dog and yourself from this idiot

Silverthorn · 22/08/2017 22:29

Your bf has no respect for you or your belongings. The dog is a bit of a red herring here. Dump him because if he has no respect or love now (he can't love you if he has no inclination to make you comfortable in his home) he never will. He is taking the piss out of you.

Questioningeverything · 22/08/2017 22:32

Does your man have a big willy or what?

Cause I can't see any other reason you'd have stuck around putting up with this shit

Mulch · 22/08/2017 22:44

Your partner sounds a wank stain and his badly behaved dog is unlucky to have such a crappy owner. You however have a choice

GabsAlot · 22/08/2017 22:45

was th dog there before you

just thinking is it jealous-not that thats your problem your dp needs to train him or hes going to bite someon and that will be it

ForagingForFaerieGold · 22/08/2017 22:52

He sounds very childish.... actually scratch that. Anyone who finds amusement in another's distress or discomfort is a nasty bit of work. Would he laugh if the dog actually injured you? If some one knocked you over with their bike? If you scalded yourself? You see what I mean.

I don't like the sound of him at all.

InvisibleCities · 22/08/2017 22:59

How he didn't dump your sorry arse there and I don't know.

She should dump his "sorry arse" for not bothering to socialize his dog so that it can cope with people, that's what's causing the issues.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 22/08/2017 23:05

I can't argue with that Cities but she hasn't and it is ongoing.
The only one I feel bad for in all this is the dog.

PidgeonSpray · 22/08/2017 23:06

Frenchies are the cutest and have awesome personalities!!

How old is the dog?

Try distracting him. Put a toy or bone in his mouth .

Sounds like your bf is more to blame than the dog though if he isn't telling him off.

But maybe the dog is more fun Grin

Snausage · 22/08/2017 23:31

I'm trying to figure out why you've remained with him, OP...

What size shoe does he wear?

Poshjock · 22/08/2017 23:42

That poor dog has issues with respect and jealousy and unfortunately his behaviour is enabled by your BF failing to direct him to the correct behaviour and sadly this will be as stressful for the dog as it is for you. Your BF is 100% to blame for not taking this seriously and seeking help from a behaviourist to get the correct guidance as to how to train the dog properly. Unfortunately it is a process which is very committed and time consuming requiring consistency and persistence from both of you - the results would be stunning and you would both get to see a different dog - but it sounds as if you BF will not apply the effort required and until he does this dog will not change his behaviour. After all he's a dog and doesn't know how to until he is taught properly.

I think you need to spell this out to BF - take this seriously and get professional help in or its curtains for the relationship!

Namesarehard · 23/08/2017 00:13

I have a dog, i love animals. If a dog was to continually bite me and destroy my stuff both the dog and the bf would have my foot up their ring. Seriously, walk away. He's a man child who shouldn't be responsible for a dog. He's a twat from what you're saying.

MsGameandWatching · 23/08/2017 00:23

I love dogs and walk a French Bulldog who I adore but I couldn't tolerate this. Honestly though it's not the dog, it's your boyfriend, he sounds like a complete fool.

Gallymum1 · 23/08/2017 00:32

If he's that rubbish at keeping a dog in line just think what he'd be like with kids! Get rid.

eatabagofdicks · 23/08/2017 01:24

The dog was attacking her. She has every right to push it off her.
Dump him. He doesn't respect you. Laughing at your stuff being damaged by the dog was ridiculous. What a knob. Imagine if you had kids!

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