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To end relationship over his irritating dog?

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MauledInPassing · 22/08/2017 20:43

Been together two years but do not live together. He has a dog (French bulldog) which is absolutely fucking crazy and is putting me off taking relationship any further.

Whenever I go to his house it goes nuts, attacks my legs and feet, launches itself at me trying to bite my hands, tries to grab the knees of my trousers - when I sit down it launches itself at my face, gets on the back of the sofa and attack my head, hair, bites my ears - all the while DP is laughing like a loon saying how cute and funny it is. The other day I got mad at it and knocked it off the sofa (a little harder than I should have done admittedly) and it fell onto its back. DP gasped and ran to pick it up. I was mortified and apologised straight away and asked if it was ok. He was really upset and said he was shocked that I could treat an animal in such a way. I felt absolutely terrible but as soon as he let it go it immediately carried on attacking me.

I've asked him to stop the dog from doing this and he makes a half arsed attempt but it just carries on. It runs off with my shoes or any object I happen to have brought into the house. The other day DP was literally crying with laughter in the kitchen. I went to see what he was laughing at only to realise that my hardback had been snatched and taken outside and it's contents all over the garden. Keys, phone, purse, NHS ID card!!! Then this stupid ridiculous animal stood shaking my bag to death growling like a thing possessed. I shouted at DP that this shit isn't funny but he couldn't even answer me for laughing.

He turned up here half hour ago, pooch in tow and asked if I wanted to go for a walk with them. I looked at its fat squashed up face and instantly felt irritated! I like dogs but this thing has something wrong with it, I'm sure.

Anyway I declined, saying I was tired and he said he was worried that I didn't like his dog and was hoping to try a bit of bonding. I don't want to bond with it, it tires me out. Apart from the biting it constantly covers me in an awful white slime which makes me wretch.

I'm seriously considering ending the relationship over it. I'd never expect him to get rid of it but I personally don't want to be around it. I feel awful because at heart I know it's just an innocent dog but I just don't like it. I've never felt like this about an animal before.

OP posts:
BeepBeepMOVE · 22/08/2017 21:33

Yes Backie ban me from being around dogs because I've pushed a few off of sofas Confused You want to come round my mates house and try not pushing his chow off the sofa- it will literally sit on top of you until you give him an actually push!

Seriously pushed off a sofa is not exactly flinging one across the room. They are about a foot off the floor and a dog will just hop off it.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 22/08/2017 21:34

The other day I got mad at it and knocked it off the sofa (a little harder than I should have done admittedly) and it fell onto its back

Animal abuse. Delightful. How he didn't dump your sorry arse there and I don't know.

Then this stupid ridiculous animal

Even nicer. You're a real catch. I hope karma bites you on the arse let alone the poor pooch. What a nasty way to treat the dog. Leave and do them BOTH a big favor!

As for you beep Biscuit

Misswiggy · 22/08/2017 21:35

I've pushed a dog off a sofa more than once and consider myself an animal lover. Cannot stand these people who treat their dogs like babies. If a dog is jumping on the sofa (which it shouldn't be on anyway) and biting you of course it should be pushed off and told firmly no. I would do the same if it was a child too before you ask(Amount of force would depend on age of child and how bad the biting was). But it should be the dickhead boyfriend doing it, not the OP!

Girty999 · 22/08/2017 21:36

You need to show the dog who is boss, Cesar Milan always grabs them on the neck and pins them down like a pack leader would x

pictish · 22/08/2017 21:38

Come on love - he was crying with laughter at the spectacle of your bag and personal possessions, including your work ID card, being shredded by his untrained nuisance of a dog. He's a fuckwit.

RebelRogue · 22/08/2017 21:39

@Fluffypinkpyjamas the real abuser is the dog's owner who can't be arsed to train the dog,allows him to be aggressive,muck about,bite and destroy other people's property and taking great enjoyment in it.

One day that dog will bite someone and end up PTS,through no fault of it's own.

OP LTB.

NewBrian · 22/08/2017 21:39

I had the pushing dogs dogs off sofas/beds argument with the man I was seeing, who told me to shove his bullmastiff off if it refused to budge Hmm. InOPs case yes I'd have pushed the dog too, it was biting her!

LEMtheoriginal · 22/08/2017 21:40

Girty that is terrible advice and ceasar Milan used some barbaric training methods

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 22/08/2017 21:40

If it hasn't got used to you after two years then it never will. I think that that's rather strange. I also think there might be something behaviourally wrong with the dog, quite apart from having a useless irresponsible owner who clearly has never taught it how to behave. What if it attacks someone else? It'll be getting put down if it bites someone.

I'm a dog lover and I have a dog but I would draw the line at that.

When I was young I had a friend with an irritating yappy little dog. It used to like to jump into my lap and then jump up and try and bite my face. One day when my friend had left the room it tried it again. Without thinking I slapped it away and it flew across the room. I felt awful but rather relieved as it didn't try it again.

tropicalfish · 22/08/2017 21:42

I cant believe you've put up with such a lack of respect for so long. That is no way to treat anyone op and I think you need to just get rid of him. Life is too short to waste on losers like him.
I would have walked out a long time before the first time the dog tried to bite me.

MistressDeeCee · 22/08/2017 21:43

I like dogs but would have pushed dog off the sofa too if it was slobbering and biting me.....since when is animal aggression not to be reacted to? I can't abide the kind of dog lover who completely ignores someone being hurt, in favour of a dog. The dog bit OP it knew what it was doing so don't try it

Oldraver · 22/08/2017 21:45

^You knocked the dog so hard it fell off the sofa? Yes, yes you do need to leave if this is causing you to hurt the poor thing.

I get that it is annoying but you have a DP problem, he should be stopping it - you don't hurt an innocent dog because you're mad. That's horrid^

Are for fucking real ? Which bit of when I sit down it launches itself at my face, gets on the back of the sofa and attack my head, hair, bites my ears did you not understand.

If I had a dog launching at my face and biting my ears it would be more than pushed off the sofa

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 22/08/2017 21:48

You are right Rebel that's true, he shouldn't allow the dog to behave that way and be clearly hated by his gf. Tells me you're desperate though OP to put up with such terrible disrespect to you. Don't take it out on his dog.

BackieJerkhart · 22/08/2017 21:48

Seriously pushed off a sofa is not exactly flinging one across the room

Except in the OPs case that is exactly what it was. She flung him off and he landed on his back. She didn't nudge him so he would jump off her knee!

BackieJerkhart · 22/08/2017 21:49

You need to show the dog who is boss, Cesar Milan always grabs them on the neck and pins them down like a pack leader would x

BackieJerkhart · 22/08/2017 21:52

If I had a dog launching at my face and biting my ears it would be more than pushed off the sofa

Fair enough if it was the first time you met the dog. But to keep going back knowing the dog does this and then lose your temper? Well there has to be some personal responsibility there. This wasn't something OP couldn't have predicted and thought "you know what, I'll meet you somewhere your dog isn't". It's madness to keep going back into that situation. I really don't understand why OP did. And worse why she permitted him to bring the dog to her house!!

Cessj · 22/08/2017 21:54

A few years back,husband and I made the decision to get a new dog to replace my old dog whom I'd had since he was five weeks old. Old Basil had to be put to sleep after his arthritis and cancer became too much for him...We researched the various breeds and f decided we would like a beagle. Which we duly did. As husband was working away from home most of the time, I was responsible for him. I spent a lot of time and money and put a lot of effort into training him, paid for various training courses, did everything...however, husband is a softy and wouldn't be consistent in training, so dog was getting mixed messages. Five years on, and dog has more or less forgotten everything that I spent months teaching him, and he is a nightmare. I should say that in that time, I've spent a lot of time away so it's just been husband and dog...dog does what he likes, and in general is a nightmare...thinks he is the alpha, whines incessantly if he doesn't get attention for couple minutes, is a nightmare to walk, and is a general pain in the ass...when he's around me I can get him to be reasonably well behaved but the minute he sees husband everything he has ever learned goes out of the window...husband allows him to jump on visitors, to howl away at birds etc when in garden, and generally doesn't check his behaviour..to be honest, I am at the stage where is is becoming me or the dog..I seriously now dislike the dog and it makes me feel awful because I have always loved dogs and I've always had dogs...but this dog is something else...so I feel for you

MudCity · 22/08/2017 21:56

Stupid ridiculous animal? Knocked it off the sofa?

Absolutely end the relationship. It isn't going to work.

magoria · 22/08/2017 21:57

Poor dog is going to attack someone one day who won't put up with this shit and the dog will be put to sleep because it's owner is a moronic prick.

Dump your BF. He has zero respect for you. He is making it your fault, not liking the dog when it attacks you not his for being a shit owner.

Imagine if you ever have a child with this man. The dog could easily kill it.

Ceto · 22/08/2017 21:57

I seriously struggle to get worked up about a dog getting knocked off the sofa when it is attacking someone's head. Maybe it would actually learn from that that it's not such a good idea - which could save it from being put down if it goes for a child's head.

Cheripie64 · 22/08/2017 21:58

I love my dogs to bits, but biting and attacking is just wrong, what if a child was visiting, would it be so funny then?
I would be totally embarrassed if my dogs behaved in that manner. I would push it off of me as well. Certainly needs some training and discipline.

Bumdishcloths · 22/08/2017 21:58

Some of you really need to have a word with yourselves.

If a dog is attacking you, your instinct is to push it away. Knocking it off the sofa was an unfortunate consequence of this but it's hardly bloody animal abuse and it is THE OWNER not the OP who is to blame. If the dog were correctly trained there would not be an issue in the first place!

honeyroar · 22/08/2017 21:59

I'm an animal lover, I have three bouncy dogs myself, but this dog does sound annoying. However, to push a dog off a sofa out of annoyance so hard that it lands on its back is pretty shit.

Whatever you say, you are not a dog fan and there is no point to this relationship. If you don't want anything to do with the dog, why bother? It's there, he loves it. You're never going to move in together without a big fight, upset and an abandoned dog/resentful boyfriend. Move on, find someone more suited to you.

Slimthistime · 22/08/2017 22:00

Dump him OP
There's something wrong with him that he finds this funny

Btw I'm vegetarian and even I understand how you ended up pushing the dog so hard, it was self defence!

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 22/08/2017 22:00

I assume the dog is playing rough rather than actually attacking you, otherwise you'd have been injured by now? Does your DP 'play fight' with him?