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I've got an hour before I get to my mums. Please peel me off the ceiling before I get there.

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TippyTinkleTrousers · 22/08/2017 19:50

We have two boys 10 and 6.

The six year old has multiple severe allergies and an immunodeficiency and been out of hospital a lot of his life.

He's anaphylactic to dairy, egg, banana, nuts, shell fish with a moderate allergy to wheat, soya, pollen, animal dander and more.

He sees a specialist in London Eva Lina and they test him annually. The allergies are getting worse but we are aware and in control of them.

He's never stayed away from us ever.
When we go somewhere I provide all food for him to make life easier for everyone. Mainly him!

Last night he stayed at my mums because I'm on a placement. I provided all food, said he just eats that.

She called me and asked if he could have lemonade. I say yes as long as the ingredients are just water sugar etc and no allergens.

She called me later and said "Can he have Rowntrees Ice Cream?"

I said "you don't mean ice cream do you? You most mean ice lollies, just the fruit juice."

She said "yes ice lollies."

2 hours later she calls me to tell me it was 63% skimmed milk powder in it and he's fine.

Doctors have specifically told us to totally avoid milk because we tried a baked milk challenge gave him baked milk and he had crippling stomach ache and dihorreha the next day for hours it was horrible.

We are now flooring it down the motorway telling her to give him antihistamines, it will take an hour to get there.

I was angry very very angry (though didn't shout at her I had to be calm and tell her what to do in case he started reacting) but now I'm sick with worry.

I mean this is fucking life or death. I'm astounding, shocked and relieved that afte 2 hours he has no symptoms but all is not over.

I will have to take tomorrow off because with experience he will be in screaming agony like last time.

For fuck sake.

This is his first every night away from me. I really trusted my mum. I really thought she knew that ice CREAM was a sign and she knew to read labels.

OP posts:
Bigoldsupermoon · 22/08/2017 22:30

Sending all good wishes, OP: hope you and your wee boy are home soon x

hunnypots · 22/08/2017 22:36

I did this with my friends child. I was looking after her and spent all of the previous night looking up what I could give her to eat. I felt so out of my depth. When my friend dropped her off I said where can I take her out to eat. Friend told me a place so I assumed she meant the kids menu was safe. I was wrong. Luckily after I'd ordered her the food I asked if it had any allergens in it and embarrassingly had to cancel the order. I honestly think you're best not leaving a child alone that doesn't know what they can and can't have yet ie this girl was 3 and already knew she mustn't have ice cream and made it really clear to me so I felt safe on that one but I am clueless and I just forgot as might happen to anyone who never has to worry about checking labels etc .I would never do it on purpose but I don't think I'll be comfortable looking after the child again in case I forget again. It scared me so much. I hope your ds is ok. Or maybe just provide everything he is going to eat to whoever is looking after him.

trixymalixy · 22/08/2017 22:40

OP, I totally feel for you as my DS has multiple severe allergies and his slow onset anaphylaxis doesn't present in a way that most people would understand to be anaphylaxis.

I'm glad you're going to hospital and I really hope your DS is ok.

aintnothinbutagstring · 22/08/2017 22:41

Hope he is ok OP. We have a peanut allergic DS. However when he was little, he would get delayed reactions to milk, particularly skimmed milk so would be fine and then have an almighty reaction the next day which could be likened to an acute asthma attack so we'd spend all day with him in A+E on repeat nebs and prednisolone. Was awful but lessened with time, 'only' gets eczema and mild coughing. Now left with his peanut allergy which 'touch wood' we have avoided any major reactions for years but have been told it's severe. I worry for his future, when I'm not there to check what he eats. Big hugs to you and ds Flowers

AtHomeDadGlos · 22/08/2017 22:42

Good luck OP

Butteredparsnip1ps · 22/08/2017 22:44

My very best wishes to anyone in this awful situation Flowers

OP concentrate on your family now, not the thread

Mrsbclinton · 22/08/2017 22:44

What a scary experience for you all. I hope your little boy is ok.
Im sure your Mum is devastated that this happened the very first time she had him over, but I honestly would blame you if you never let him out of your sight again.

Mrsbclinton · 22/08/2017 22:45

Wouldnt blame you

loveastorm21 · 22/08/2017 22:51

Hope your little boy is ok op how scary Flowers

InvisibleCities · 22/08/2017 22:52

I hope he's okay OP Flowers

SideOrderofSprouts · 22/08/2017 22:54

Hope he's ok

babyinthacorner · 22/08/2017 22:56

Can't believe some of the responses you've had, OP! What an awful situation, hope he's ok.

DragonmotherKhaleesi · 22/08/2017 22:56

hope you're little man is ok

YellowLawn · 22/08/2017 22:56

reading labels is difficult for some people.
the amount of people who assure dh (allergic to egg) that the meal is fine because it doesn't contain dairy is staggering.

YellowLawn · 22/08/2017 22:57

hope your ds is fine.Gin

DearMrDilkington · 22/08/2017 22:58

I really hope his ok op, I don't think your overreacting at all and I say that as a parent of a child with no allergies.

I can't imagine how scary it must for you all, your mum fucker up massively and I'd be absolutely furious.

Let us know how his doing Flowers

Haudyerwheesht · 22/08/2017 22:59

Hope he's ok

CatsPurr · 22/08/2017 22:59

I hope your son and you are doing alright OP. Hope you can come through this x

DearMrDilkington · 22/08/2017 22:59

Fucked, not fucker.Hmm

Nettynet12 · 22/08/2017 23:04

Hope he'd okFlowers

UnicornGlitterTheBaneOfMyLife · 22/08/2017 23:05

Hope your little man is OK OP x

ChevalierTialys · 22/08/2017 23:07

Cant believe how many inconsiderate, nasty people jumped on here just to criticise you. Unbelievable!

I do hope he's alright OP Flowers

MirriVan · 22/08/2017 23:08

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MoreProseccoNow · 22/08/2017 23:10

Hope your DS is ok, OP.

Namechang31235 · 22/08/2017 23:11

Oh poor thing. I hope hes ok. Ignore all the Bitches supermums. You sound like youre doing an incredible job of handling a lot of allergies. Your e incredible

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