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Letstryagainshallwe · 21/08/2017 21:28

I went out with my friend on Saturday night. Rare for me as I hardly ever go out. We went to a club had a good time then got to her car and she had a parking ticket. She was pissed off and moaning about how it's unfair that she has to pay out and none of us do as none of us drive except her (there was 4 of us out.) we get in the car and her sister suggests that we all pay some of it spilt between us. I said I couldn't as I don't have the money to pay out and it's not my fault she parked where she shouldn't have anyway she went ballistic! Because I refused. And kicked me out of her car at 4am in the middle of the street. Literally stopped the car in the middle of the road and told me to get out. I was miles from home and had to get out and ended up having to call a cab to pick me up. I haven't spoken to her since. Wibu for not contributing?

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Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 18:12

Wear and tear is more than petrol money. That's why mileage rate is higher than just petrol if you get mileage on expenses from work.

Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 18:14

see when I had a belligerent mouthy shite in my car who was arguing the toss with me about going for chips - damn right I put him out and I'd do the same tomorrow.

The op has been drinking. She's unlikely to have been as calm as she thinks she was. People who have been drinking never are. If the drive had been that out of order, the others would have spoken up

IneedaMagnum · 22/08/2017 18:20

grand - who are you to think you can speak for everyone Hmm

Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 18:22

*had

arethereanyleftatall · 22/08/2017 18:22

It costs me £1500 a year in tax and insurance. As a new car, it also depreciates by £1k per year. £2500 per year, £7 a day. Before petrol, congestion charge, parking.

Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 18:23

What about repairs? Tyres? Brakes? Bulbs?

OhOfCourse · 22/08/2017 18:26

You deserved it. I wouldn't have done the same but I would never speak to you again.

Fines in central London are at least as high as your friend implied, and as others have said she's saved you cab fares.

A good friend would have insisted on contributing.

arethereanyleftatall · 22/08/2017 18:27

True. I'm on your side here true.

arethereanyleftatall · 22/08/2017 18:27

'Slow cooker heaven' not true. Damn autocorrect

IneedaMagnum · 22/08/2017 18:28

grand why is it rude? The driver wasn't doing her a favour. 'She was going anyway'. So how on earth could the driver be inconveniencing the OP? Unless... Unless the OP was being done a kindness by the driver. And repaid her by being an absolute d-bag. If she hadn't had her very kind friend to rely on she would have had to get herself home anyway, at 4 am, something which is straightforward and easy in central London, close to home. Takers will never realise that they are in the wrong, and as soon as a person who's previously allowed other people to take advantage puts a stop to it, the freeloader tries to guilt-trip them, bully them, apply emotional blackmail, goes on MN to complain about how rude and horrible their previously compliant friend has become etc. Meh, I hardly expect people I got rid of, to all of a sudden understand how entitled they are. That's precisely why I don't allow them in my life anymore. Life's too short to be a doormat.

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arethereanyleftatall · 22/08/2017 18:29

Oh yes, plus service £100, mot £40, and say £150 for repairs annually.

Nearly a tenner a day to keep a car.

Wow. Never worked it out before.

Do non drivers know this?

arethereanyleftatall · 22/08/2017 18:33

Magnum - I totally agree with you re free loaders.
They just move from 'friend' to 'friend' staying with them only as long as they can sponge off them. As soon as they get rumbled, they move on to their next victim/friend blaming the other person.

grandOlejukeofYork · 22/08/2017 18:37

The op has been drinking. She's unlikely to have been as calm as she thinks she was

All the less reason to abandon her in the middle of the road.

Driver is a cunt. End of story.

IneedaMagnum · 22/08/2017 18:40

Oh give over grand. End of your story fine, but not for those with some sense.

IneedaMagnum · 22/08/2017 18:43

(Also typical freeloader language: the person who doesn't want to do me favours anymore is a c*nt)

JessieMcJessie · 22/08/2017 18:44

RhiWrites. Ubers are very much licensed, in exactly the same way as a minicab from a company with an office on the street is licensed. Drivers have to be registered with TFL and pass certain checks and tests, albeit nothing like the Knowledge that the black cab drivers do.

You might be getting mixed up with unlicensed minicabs which are just blokes in cars who hang around nightclubs on the offchance and are illegal and very dangerous indeed. Fortunately the ease of use of Uber means that people now have to resort less often to unlicensed minicabs. Black cabs are often very hard to come by in certain areas at certain times, and they were like this before Uber started operating.

Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 18:45

Really grand? So I should have kept the man in my car?

grandOlejukeofYork · 22/08/2017 18:46

Projecting much? Someone who gets one lift and won't pay your parking fine is a "freeloader"?
Nah, give your head a wobble.

No-one in real life acts like the lunatics who post on aibu. No-one in their right mind would act like such a cunt.

grandOlejukeofYork · 22/08/2017 18:48

Really grand? So I should have kept the man in my car?

OP's a woman. No-one gives a shit about you fighting with weird men in your car about chips, whatever amuses you but we don't all need to hear about it.

Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 18:48

Lunatics who post on Aibu - what did the op do again, remind me?

eloisesparkle · 22/08/2017 18:53

If she was my friend I would have offered to pay some of it because I had benefited from the lift.

IneedaMagnum · 22/08/2017 18:53
Grin
arethereanyleftatall · 22/08/2017 18:57

I wouldn't call it projecting - rather 'reading between the lines'.

IneedaMagnum · 22/08/2017 18:57

Men are much more likely to get mugged than women actually grand. You have such strange logic/morals but you are certainly keeping me amused. And every day I am grateful that irl I don't have to deal with people like you and the OP, because I am strong enough to stand up to them. And I also don't allow myself to get manipulated. Entertained though, yes Wink