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AIBU?

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Letstryagainshallwe · 21/08/2017 21:28

I went out with my friend on Saturday night. Rare for me as I hardly ever go out. We went to a club had a good time then got to her car and she had a parking ticket. She was pissed off and moaning about how it's unfair that she has to pay out and none of us do as none of us drive except her (there was 4 of us out.) we get in the car and her sister suggests that we all pay some of it spilt between us. I said I couldn't as I don't have the money to pay out and it's not my fault she parked where she shouldn't have anyway she went ballistic! Because I refused. And kicked me out of her car at 4am in the middle of the street. Literally stopped the car in the middle of the road and told me to get out. I was miles from home and had to get out and ended up having to call a cab to pick me up. I haven't spoken to her since. Wibu for not contributing?

OP posts:

LadyMaryCrawley1922 · 22/08/2017 10:21

You weren't all in the parking together. And its not things going wrong ,its you being stupid.

MsGameandWatching · 22/08/2017 10:22

Lady are you as charming as this in RL?

LadyMaryCrawley1922 · 22/08/2017 10:28

I'm very charming. I would never dream of asking passengers to pay for my parking mistake and I wouldn't kick a dog out in the middle of the night, let alone a friend.
Some people on here have a very fucked up view of how to live, this is just one more example.

MsGameandWatching · 22/08/2017 10:29

Some people on here have a very fucked up view of how to live, this is just one more example.

Indeed.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 22/08/2017 10:30

I'm very charming . Your posts aren't reflecting that.

BlondeB83 · 22/08/2017 10:33

You should have contributed. Depending on where you were sometimes parking restrictions can be confusing. I've been caught out once in 15 years of driving, the road markings/signs were very unclear. It is her responsibility of course but you should have offered.

BlondeB83 · 22/08/2017 10:34

You didn't have to offer but IMO it's the right thing to do.

Serialweightwatcher · 22/08/2017 10:35

If she had told the passengers that she knew she had parked illegally and you had all said "leave it where it is" then you are all at fault, but she parked it without assistance and it's completely her responsibility. She had no right to demand you all help out, but may have been nice for you all to offer a bit to help with the cost. But no, YANBU, she is

Penny4UrThoughts · 22/08/2017 10:38

Sorry, I hadn't read every post, but I scanned all the ops ones, and clearly missed that.

Apologies for being imperfect...

JacquesHammer · 22/08/2017 10:42

No way should the OP have to contribute towards a driver's parking fine UNLESS the OP had badgered her to park somewhere that turned out resulted in a fine.

The OP had already contributed to petrol. Why should she cover someone else's lack of ability to park correctly?

Ledbury · 22/08/2017 10:44

the friend didn't ask for the contribution, her sister suggested they all chip in, which you should have, it's just decent manners since she has probably taxi-ied you about a fair bit. Presumably it would have cost you well over £20 to get there and back if she hadn't offered a lift.

She was wrong to chuck you out at 4am though, i would have driven you home and then never offered you a lfit again

Neutrogena · 22/08/2017 10:45

Surely it's the drivers duty to make sure she's parked correctly since I don't drive so wouldn't be aware of parking restrictions.

Nonsense - it's everyone's duty.
Would you be happy if she parked 1.4km away? I doubt it!

JustAnotherPoster00 · 22/08/2017 10:49

OP can you please drip feed some more, I still think YABU, but I'm wavering so another drip might help.

Amaried · 22/08/2017 10:53

I would have offered to pay but think in her shoes I'd have dropped you home but made sure never to give you a lift again.

Jaxhog · 22/08/2017 10:58

You should have offered to contribute, not waited to be asked. Unless you knew she'parked where she shouldn't and told her so at the time. To not offer makes you a pretty rubbish friend.

BTW, do you contribute to her petrol or parking costs? My guess is that you don't do that either.

Chucking you out was unreasonable though. I'd have just not offered you a lift ever again.

arethereanyleftatall · 22/08/2017 10:59

A good friend would have:

Offered to contribute
Not kicked you out at 4am.

So, neither of you were particularly good friends.

Ceto · 22/08/2017 11:01

If as you say you were near a tube station it must have been very easy to work out where you were.

grannytomine · 22/08/2017 11:01

Bit late now but I'd have asked someone, DH, to call her Sunday morning and say they were worried as you didn't get home and does she know if you stayed over with someone. Make her realise what a dangerous thing she did.

arethereanyleftatall · 22/08/2017 11:03

The op did say she gave petrol money but that came so many posts in, and after so many people asking had been ignored, that it probably isn't true, just made up as all the answers weren't going her way. Possibly. Possibly not.

AnnetteCurtains · 22/08/2017 11:03

Seriously Granny ? What a spiteful thing to do

MsGameandWatching · 22/08/2017 11:05

I honestly don't understand how some people's minds work.

Mountainviewloo · 22/08/2017 11:07

Not RTFT but who the hell drives to a club in central London

Bluntness100 · 22/08/2017 11:08

The thing is she's a mate doing you a favour, helping you out, even if petrol money was provided. She is absolutely not a taxi driver. As such as a mate it would be the decent thing to help her out in return.

Shocked at rhe minority of people who would take the approach of "screw her, I wouldn't pay, her fault" whilst happily sitting in the back of her car expecting to be driven home. That's not how mates treat each other.

And as said, I'm sure this woman didn't stop the car and chuck the op out for saying politely " sorry I can't afford it". The op is likely presenting herself in the best light possible and not wanting to say how she was behaving that made the woman stop and chuck her out, but I'd bet it wasn't pleasant and the other woman's side would cast a very different light on this little tale of woe.

MsGameandWatching · 22/08/2017 11:11

Reading back there's a lot of responsibility put on the drivers shoulders isn't there? She's responsible for picking OP up and getting OP home safe, even more so because OP was wearing heels and dressed for clubbing and driver should have thought of that, she's responsible for parking and paying the resulting fine. What is the OP responsible for? She's given the driver a lot of responsibilities for the night out but won't even cough up £20 when things go wrong?

gingergenius · 22/08/2017 11:12

I've had tickets when I've been ferrying other people. Wouldn't occur to me to expect them to contribute. My car, my problem. Petrol money would be different but I DON'T think yabu

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