To think this new wave of Gender Reveal a bit crap?

[PoppyH56]

It just seems so impersonal. I think it should be a special moment between just you and your partner if you do find out. The whole popping a balloon in front of your family to screams of delight really makes me cringe. AIBU and a total spoil sport here? 😱

There is nothing like the view of your Dr waving baby genitals at you, in the operating theatre 😉 why can't people wait?

It's sex anyway, gender is a social construct.

I thought a gender reveal was about some coming out as trans, so I would guess as a pregnant female you were becoming a trans man and you wanted to chest feed etc.

There is nothing like the view of your Dr waving baby genitals at you, in the operating theatre

Ever had this immediately after a traumatic birth when your baby is immediately whipped off to be resuscitated because she isn't breathing and is completely floppy and unresponsive? Not so fucking fun-emoji-worthy then. Maybe reread the thread a little more carefully before you throw around your "why can't people wait?" judgements.

Can't stand them the same as baby showers. Nobody else really cares about your baby. They get a bit excited in a oooh wonder if it will be a boy or girl, but within days/weeks of it being born it's just another baby.

Nobody else really cares about your baby

C'mon... You don't really mean that

Chattynummyhere- you sound a barrel of laughs(!). Maybe no one cared about your baby but I can assure you people do care about their friends or family's baby.

People do care about babies, but do they feel strongly about the sex of the baby?

YANBU my cousin had a gender reveal party a few weeks ago and I just received an invite to her bloody baby shower next week too?! WTAF

I'm sure most people will care enough to go to a party where there's free food and drink.
I hope they are not expected to also take presents.

Decaff try not to let it bother you. It has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else whether people choose to find out the sex of their baby via a scan. You don't have to justify it, nor is that what the thread's about.

Scans are an amazing technological advance and if it's possible for parents-to-be to find out the sex, why the hell shouldn't they?

Thanks Althea. You are right.

I didn't have one for my dd but if I had a 2nd child I'd do it for my daughter to find out at the same time as me and my boyfriend. Not for anyone else though just the three of us.

I really dislike being told the sex of the baby and what it will be called, before they're even born. I don't know why, it's probably me being superstitious. But then I wanted to keep most things about my pregnancy private between my partner and I, no Facebook announcement, no plastering scan photos all over the internet, no baby shower, no finding out the sex or telling people our name ideas - so the idea of a gender reveal party brings me out in a cold sweat. Hopefully doing so means I'll rake in all of the presents I would have got once we have the baby christened

Ever had this immediately after a traumatic birth

Yes I have, I have a sense of humour.

I am genuinely sorry I upset you, not intended, it's how I got through it, so please respect t that, it's not top trumps.

It's not that people don't care it's the sheer commercialisation of it all.
Gender reveal, card and gift.
Baby shower, card, gift possibly bottle of fizz
Naming ceremony/ christening, card and gift.
Hen party, very expensive trip plus expensive, useless costume/tat /trimmings
Wedding, card and cash request as the couple have it all.
I'm wondering what will be next. Separation party followed by decri nisi party followed by decree absolute party.
It fine to be excited about the sex of your baby but I think these parties have replaced the old selling parties such as Tupperware where guests felt pressurised to buy something. Now it's pressure to provide gifts.

Actually I can see the point of a separation party. That's when you really could do with people buying you stuff.

Emilybronte I saw these mugs in Liberty a while ago.

Floisme- you could be onto something there!0

Floisme- you could be onto something there!0

A separation reveal party?

You could a. Get everyone to guess if you're staying together or not.

Or b. Give the reasons for the separation.

Now that would be my kind of party!

@serf
You could google the pink for girls/blue for boys.
It is genuine.

Before chemical dyes became common (late 19C early 20C) red/pink dyes were more expensive. Blue was typically for girls. Interestingly the chemical dyes in the late 19C stank but gave us mauve and aniline green.

Middle/upper classes with servants put children in white dresses until 6/7 when boys would get "breeched". Anyone else put them in clothes they could get hold of

NY, you've irritated me a little now.

Of course it's not top trumps , but surely you could have read the thread and made an attempt to empathise with those of us who wanted to find out the sex, and gave reasonable reasons for wanting to do so. Your "why can't people wait?" came across as quite judgemental and not very understanding. If you really can't think why some people would choose to do something differently to you, that is quite surprising, I wouldn't say "why can't people just find out the sex beforehand"? because that really isn't any of my business.

Well done for your wonderful sense of humour btw, but no, I don't find my baby not breathing when she was born terribly funny, if that's all the same to you.

You find something about your traumatic birth funny? That's a truly amazing sense of humour you have and I (genuinely) applaud you for your resilience there.

Maybe though, you can accept that your experiences and opinions aren't the same as mine and can therefore maintain a non-judgemental attitude towards my choices. Apologies, if I misread your earlier post. Maybe you didn't mean for it to come across as judgemental, but that is how it came across to me. Happy to be corrected if you meant something else.

Member of my family did a non reveal followed by a reveal, they decided for the first month no sex or name would be discussed and it would be announced at a family gathering on the baby's first month birthday. To make it worse they would interchange he and she (whilst smiling at each other) like a bloody game. It was really hard to pretend I gave a shit other than the child was healthy and happy.

A 'Guess who had the affair' reveal party? People could even stick to the pink/blue thing if they must!

No matter what I say, you're determined to take out your trauma on me, I am not your scapegoat, I wish you well and that some day you feel better x

Boulshired

I actually did a halfway to this face when I read that. Why on earth did they do that?