To think this new wave of Gender Reveal a bit crap?

[PoppyH56]

It just seems so impersonal. I think it should be a special moment between just you and your partner if you do find out. The whole popping a balloon in front of your family to screams of delight really makes me cringe. AIBU and a total spoil sport here? 😱

AngharadTheSplendid
There's a point to celebrating a wedding.
Celebrating that your baby does/doesn't have a penis (remember people celebrate either way) isn't really party worthy.

It has nothing to do with not being excited about friends having babies. I enjoy baby chat and being excited with them. I'm not entirelu convinced that parties about genitals and staged social media announcements about said baby's genitals are really a cause for celebration.

What I don't understand about raising your child gender-neutral (sex-neutral??) is why?
I've never had my son's hair. It (he is only 2) and won't bother until he wants it doing. DH has long hair so we're clearly relaxed on this point. I just don't get why I'd choose to cut it yet. Last night he had doll in his cot for company but also his toy car sneaked in. He lives in trousers and leggings and I get that's because of societal expectations but right now he's too young to care. He has a few "girl" pairs because they were in the sale and to mind thear neutral.

Isn't raising boys and girls to believe they have choices better than raising children with secrets to prove a ppont given its too late for most of us to conceal it?

Isn't raising boys and girls to believe they have choices better than raising children with secrets to prove a ppont given its too late for most of us to conceal it?

The thing is that other people will, without your consent, gender stereotype your child, and they can't do that if they don't know which sex your child is.
So that's where I can see the point.

But I think keeping a child away from gender stereotyping people for the early formative years is probably better, if at all possible.

Raising a child without gender just means no gender stereotyping, which is fine and feminists have done it for decades without attaching a label to it.

People who don't tell the child their own sex are rather bonkers if you ask me.

This is one of the things that annoys me about Peppa Pig. George is only 2 and he already says "Yuck!" to anything pink or in anyway girly, he hates the smell of flowers, will only play with dinosaurs and wears blue everyday. I think mummy and daddy pig need to open their minds a bit.

This gender secret business... you'd never be able to ask anyone to help change a nappy?!

Awful and tacky, why the screaming and so on...ridoculous behaviour!

YANBU OP.

I've got a now unfriended friend on Facebook who had one of these last week and posted 'Cant wait 2 find out if the babies pink or blue!!!!!!!!!!!'

It'll be human flesh coloured, the shade of which will be decided by the blending of DNA between the parents and this will determine the pigmentation.

Cant wait 2 find out if the babies pink or blue

Crikey I should have got a 'greeny,brown,whitish,pink, blue & red'. coloured cake for my first then! Distressed, covered in merconium, blood and the white stuff they all have when he was pulled out me

That would have been a naice cake

Cant wait 2 find out if the babies pink or blue

YABU for using 2 instead of two.

Having said that, I would never want a blue baby. Blue means it's not getting oxygen, fgs. It's just weird.

Cant wait 2 find out if the babies pink or blue

Do i win cake? Mine was born blue. Tell your friend its shit. First time I saw him properly he was on an oscillating ventilator with tubes and wires everywhere.

I don't get it. It's so OTT and Americanised. I wanted to be the first to know what gender my kids were rather than this bollocks!

Tacky

I'm with you on this one. As well as cake smashing party when the kid turns one. Waste of a good cake in my opinion. But each to their own I guess...

Just had to google cake smashing party. Just can't believe how wasteful some people are. It's like 'trash the dress' parties. No how about you donate it to charity if you don't want it yourself, twat

First of all, as an American, im sorry for inflicting this tradition upon you all. But at least we like to throw parties - Pinterest definitely wouldn't exist without us, considering the options for party decor over here are usually extended to a pack of 99p foil banners fro my Card Factory and a (horrifically boring) Victoria sponge.

Couldn't agree more. I am 28 weeks with first and chose not to announce on social media and also won't be having a baby shower either. I find all that stuff to be a bit shit!

pumkin
Whilst I dont get gender reveal parties, i do think baby showers make more sense in America than the UK because of poor mat leave etc.

Ah, I saw an advert for "gender reveal" party accessories and I thought "I wonder what age you do that and if, at nearly 50, I am too old to reveal my gender".

What a stupid pointless new trend.

SomeBerryJam - Laughed so hard - "I'll just wait to read it on your gold encrusted easle board" - exactly that, I am not telling people my baby's name till the birth but I have said literally that "no we haven't chosen one yet" ...

I did a short live video on FB revealing the sex mainly because I'm in network marketing and have loads of followers who WERE interested (and taking bets lol) - but to my famo I texted them after the ultrasound... a big party seems a lot of attention seeking faff to me.

My main issue with baby showers is that birth could go horribly wrong and you'd be left with lots of baby stuff around the house.
I didn't buy much stuff myself pre-birth, only the essentials because of that.

But I also get it that it's easier to have a party pre-birth than post-birth.

As for reveal parties, ultimately, couples trying to conceive could have a pregnancy test result reveal every month.

Some people are so self absorbed, they act as if they are the only ones who anything happens to, having a party/get together to announce the sex of their unborn baby just shouts out 'me me me', next will be a baby shower and later on an extravagant wedding or christening, I don't want to sound like a boring old fart but some people just need to get a grip on reality and not make everything about them.

On the subject of parties, my Canadian friend on Facebook was sharing photos of her Jack and Jill party. Think they're bigger in Canada than in the US but they're essentially pre wedding parties where you have to buy tickets to attend and the money goes towards the costs of the wedding/honeymoon. Her tickets were the equivalent of about £25. She also had an engagement and bachelorite party so this wasn't instead of that. Do you think that will make it to the UK?

Don't have a problem with baby showers

I just saw a cake smash outfit for sale
There's all that too. Sigh

Gilly
I couldn't agree more!! This is my point. To DH and I and a FEW close friends and family it is is a big deal that we are having a baby... but I don't think for one minute that anyone else really cares that much as it's so mundane! Hence the decision to not announce on social media and not do gender reveals or baby showers etc etc!!