To think this new wave of Gender Reveal a bit crap?

[PoppyH56]

It just seems so impersonal. I think it should be a special moment between just you and your partner if you do find out. The whole popping a balloon in front of your family to screams of delight really makes me cringe. AIBU and a total spoil sport here? 😱

It sounds like a rubbish import we don't need.
A few people will have seen it on some shite reality show from the US, most likely and now think it is a good idea.
Stop the madness and at least use 'sex'. If you are going to assign girls pink then I just don't know what to say.
No one I know has had one of these so I can only imagine I am too old for all this.

Meh, can't get worked up about it myself (except that I would rather they were sex reveal not 'gender'). I've never been invited to one of these, but yeah, I'd go, if it was someone I liked.

Would I do it? No, I'm terribly introverted.

Re waiting till birth to find out the sex though; my DH felt strongly that's what he wanted with dc1. I didn't especially care, so that's what we did. We had an extremely traumatic birth and I was off my face on morphene by the time DD made an appearance. When they said she was a girl they also told me she wasn't breathing. A joyous moment it was not. This time (dc2), we found out the sex at a private scan. It was lovely. I cried. I was overjoyed. I don't regret it for one moment. People who would prefer me to tow the line, stick with tradition and wait till birth can frankly go and fuck themselves .

Which colour do you use if you find out your baby is intersex?

Lots of people saying 'nobody cares' - I don't think that's true I've always been very happy and excited for friends/family when finding out the sex of their babies.

We did a gender reveal during a party we were already hosting for one of my other childrens bday. I thought while we had all our close friends and family together anyway it would be nice to find out together. It was so exciting and I much preferred finding out the sex of my baby that way, than in a scan room like previously.

Nothing grabby about it either, no one buys anything for a gender reveal? Im not a grabby person I declined baby showers for all 3 of my children.

I have been genuinely astonished that a couple of people I know have had these parties. Normal people that I would never have expected to go in for this rubbish. It's a party about an unborn infant's genitals. How is that not the strangest idea ever?

Seems odd to me to find out beforehand at all tbh.

I just can't see the point.

Nothing grabby about it either, no one buys anything for a gender reveal?

They do in the current themed ones I've heard of.

diddl

Meh. I enjoyed finding out (see my pp). If you think that's odd, I don't especially mind .

shadow
I dont care enough for a party to be thrown announcing penis or vagina to the world. It's just another pre-birth event in my opinion. One day I'd love it if aomeone threw a sex reveal party 2 days after baby is born.

I'm interested in talking tk friends about their scans and if they find out. Just it's not party worthy/worth a big fuss in my opinion.

It's a sex reveal
Tacky imo
It's all 'oohh look at me being all special' these days
Ditto baby showers and huge hen/stag parties which cause no end of grief when some invitees can't afford to come etc.

I don't get it, simple as that. The only benefit I can see is you are essentially saying "Hey, I'm having a boy/girl, as my closest friends you must now go out and buy me blue/pink stuff, off you trot."
I have ten nephews and nieces. The only ones we've known in advance were my brother's twin boys.
When he said "the twins are boys" I said "great". That was it.
Had he said "the twins are girls" I would have said "great". It makes no difference, the baby is what they are.
How else are you supposed to react?

Shadow no offence, but how old was your older child when you did that at their birthday party?
Did you not think it would take the limelight off the birthday child a bit? "Happy birthday, oh, now let's talk about the next child instead?"
Each to their own and all that, I guess.

YANBU. One of life's wankier imports

Oh! Presumed it was a party at which you reveal which gender you identify with. Sounded like quite a nice idea.

I guess that this is a good sign as it shows that many people feel certain that a pregnancy is going to end with a healthy baby. Not the case, obviously, but the fact that people feel so certain is a sign of what great improvements there have been in medicine, and specifically in this field.

Can't stand them.
Sonographers are now being told they HAVE no tell them the sex because they have a party happening. I shit you not.

I have had several occasions when a baby is curled up and not wanting to show it's bits and been told by the parents that they are not leaving until leaving until they find out because they have a party all planned at the weekend. They get this face

I'm amazed these people find enough guests that give enough shits to go to these parties tbh!

I hate them, as much as I hate baby showers. I think baby showers are grabby, and I don't see the need or point of finding out the sex before the birth.

I think it's just a bit of fun, don't go if you hate them that much or if there is a history of the person being grabby/attention seeking. A friend of mine had one after her 20 week scan, she'd had an awful pg and I think just wanted an excuse to see her friends and be excited together. It was only her good friends invited so all people who were happy just to celebrate with her and support her and not care whether it was 'naff' or 'grabby ' because she's our friend

It's not something I would have had or would attend.
I understand that some parents might want to know the sex of their unborn baby but I don't get the need to make such a big thing about it. I don't really get the need to make such a big thing out of being pregnant full stop. You're pregnant and then (hopefully) you have a healthy baby at the end of it. Thats it.
I realise I sound like a grumpy old cow but I don't like this modern trend of making a 'thing' out of absolutely everything. Just get on with things, ffs.

YOU found out at the party, Shadow? Did you invite the radiographer along to do the reveal, or what?

I think what fizzy said re "great" either way is exactly right. The relatives I've told are happy we're having a boy, but they'd have been equally happy if we were having a girl. I am delighted to be having a boy, but would have been equally delighted to have a girl. But it was still lovely finding out the sex of dc2 in a calm setting. I can call him a him instead of it for a start; something which kind of bugged me when I was pregnant with dc1 and didn't know what we were having. Probably because the rest of our nct group knew the sexes of their babies so said "he" / "she" etc.

Thank god. I have found my people.

I fucking hate them. Not only is it hugely attention seeking - it's going to be one of two known options for fucks sake - it's also ridiculous to start gender seterotyping a child when it's still in utero.

Coloured cakes for gods sake. What's wrong without people ? Can they really not see how ridiculous it is ?

Maybe it's all about social media and about liking to have something to plan.
It also seems to be a thing driven by women. I can't see many blokes insisting on a sex reveal party. That's not a criticism or a value judgment of either sex, just an observation.
There seem to be more and more things that need to be organised and planned for - the Christmas Eve boxes, baby showers, sex reveal. Is it filling a 'gap' or just a cash cow thing?

Besides which. Sonographers can get it wrong. My lovely cousin was supposed to be a little girl. Nope.

It happens.

On the whole I think that it’s information that few outside the immediate family are champing on the bit to know. Maybe have a number reveal party if the news is you’re having quintuplets - but otherwise desist!

What happened to the anticipation of finding out what sex the baby is after he/she is born??

Never understood the whole gender reveal thing and frankly, I couldn't give a flying fuck......

Never understood people who are like " yes we've picked a name, but its a secret, we're not saying what it is untill they're born"
"Oh, I'm sorry your majesty, I'll just wait to read it on your gold encrusted easle board"

Why can't they just lie and say ""naaa no name yet"
Really annoys me.