To be pissed off?

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I'm prepared to be told that I need to chill the f out, but would just like to know what people think before I lose my shit when dp gets home.
I'm 39 weeks pregnant and DP has been at a wedding all day - I kindly declined the invite as I've been having a lot of twinges and cramps for the last week and as I don't know anyone at the wedding I thought it'd be better to be at home (just incase).
Anyway, I had no problem with dp going, but did ask him that he just makes sure he doesn't get pissed - just incase I did need him to make a swift exit - and also that he just makes sure his phone is charged - again, just incase I needed to get hold of him (as I say I have had quite a few pains and pangs).
Anyhoo, I was heading to bed about an hour ago and notices dp's keys in the bedroom so gave him a call to.find out what time he was planning to go home, seeing as now I'll have to wait up for him, and his phone is off!
AIBU to be pretty pissed off? I'm 39 weeks pregnant for God's sake and I know he'll have got himself pretty much steaming if his phone has died and he hadn't even bothered to get in touch. Plus now I've got to wait up to let him in which could be God knows what time!
WIBU to give him some shit when he finally stumbles in or am I just being a sensitive pregnant idiot??

OP I personally would've been raging 😤.. and it doesn't matter if your labour takes ten hours.. he needs to be there from start to finish supporting you end of. What's he had to say for himself (hope I've not missed that.. skim read the thread as been up with 6 week old all night 😭) x

Sorry just read that! Glad he was apologetic & upset too! And bonus the house was clean to. X

Glad he was apologetic and is taking your upset seriously. Best of luck with everything OP x

Glad to read that he has made it up to you, too right. The fact that he's usually supportive of you makes me think this is out of character for your OH, and there would be an underlying reason why this occurred. How is he feeling about the upcoming birth, about having a newborn and the financial worries that go with it? It may be that he's feeling stressed and just needs to have an open discussion with you.

Good luck with your birth and for both of you to enjoy your newborn cuddles 👶🏻

I'd lose my shit - totally irresponsible on his part. Keys, phone, stay sobber - not freaking hard! Especially as it's for your partner and unborn child!!

My first was born at 39 weeks - 5 hrs from start to finish! My second was 3hrs which included complications! She would have arrived in about 30 mins otherwise!!!

He was an arse. I hope you locked the door, went to bed and left him out in the rain!!

reminds me of when my son was born, our first baby.. my DP had been really worried the whole pregnancy about being away and missing it and I was sooooo blasé. baby will be late, we will know when he's coming etc etc etc... well my DP got home from work (works away 6 weeks at a time) the friday evening . i met him in town and we had a warm discussion about something he had done to make me think he wanted to go out on the lash (can't remember what, i was pretty batshit when i was pregnant tbh), which culminated in me threatening to leave him there and go home without him. i even said "don't expect a phone call if the baby comes!"

anyway, he came home with me, his choice I would definitely have left him there to crack on, we picked up some thai food on the way, by 11pm I was throwing up my thai and in labour ward by 1pm. baby arrived at 10am, 6 days early! so he literally could have missed it had he gone out for the night!

just seen your update. glad you are feeling better. they are prats, aren't they good luck with the birth, you are in for a treat!

So glad to see your update and also that his mates had words.
Yes he behaved stupidly but lesson learned by the sound of it.
Good luck with the birth.

Good luck OP.
There will be plenty of things you'll need to forgive him for when the little one comes along, so start practicing now.

It's good that he's seen the error of his ways. Means he does have a conscience!

Good luck with the baby OP

Neutotgena you talk absolute rubbish constantly!!!

Eh? You don't agree that forgiveness is part of a good relationship, and the stress of an infant means both OP and OH will be having to forgive from time to time.

I don't agree that he will need plenty of forgiveness when the baby is born!! Why would he?

Nor do I think it's a small thing to miss the birth of his baby due to being pissed.

Nor do I think that "let him have his fun" Is a sensible comment!

You just love to cause a stir!

@Stressalot42 I think @Neutrogena meant that when babies are born parents can sometimes get tired and have tiny little 'tiffs' that mean nothing and then both parents make up and forgive each other at the end of the day...

I don't think it was a malicious comment towards the OP and her partner.

Thanks Bell. I think Stressalot either doesn't like me or is in love with me by the way she follows me about on Talk.

Bellaboo101, I disagree thats what neutrogena meant, it's just not his style.

But I wish OP all the best for the forthcoming birth and I'm sure you won't have lots to forgive your DH for.

Neutotgena you talk absolute rubbish constantly!!!

^^ This

Glad he apologised op and realised how much it upset you. Hope you have a bit of a relax before the little one gets here

That's good, as my kids' cartoon says: he felt sorry, said sorry and "did sorry" (cleaning, Asda, etc). I'm glad he saw it was wrong and didn't try to excuse his behaviour and turn it on you being unreasonable. You were completely reasonable! You kept it together.

Did he say anything about ex? Or did you drop that part, given that he was so apologetic?