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Friend telling my child off?

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JuniperGrey · 18/08/2017 23:18

Just been to see a show with friends and our children.

Children sat on the front row, and us behind. There was a scene with smoke coming off the stage. My dd was moving her hand (not dramatically) to move it out her face.

Friend then taps her on the shoulder and tells her to stop doing that right now as she's wafting smoke into her dds face.

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ClemDanfango · 18/08/2017 23:49

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llangennith · 18/08/2017 23:50

YANBU. If smoke was wafting in my direction I'd have tried to wave it away too. Your so-called friend was out of order to say anything to your DD. Rethink that friendship.

MrsOverTheRoad · 18/08/2017 23:53

It would have been dry ice. Harmless. I'd probably tell my OWN child to stop it. It's an silly, dramatic thing to do.

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JuniperGrey · 18/08/2017 23:54

And I have no issue with a friend disciplining my child. If it's required and they were genuinely doing something wrong.

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WorraLiberty · 18/08/2017 23:59

If your problem is that your friend 'was really sharp with her'

Why did you leave that most important point out of your OP?

BasketOfDeplorables · 19/08/2017 00:01

It may have been dry ice, but there are other things it could also have been. But all would be harmless, yes. If you want to be able to see better, no harm in moving it out of your face, though - it's an instinctive reaction.

MrsOverTheRoad · 19/08/2017 00:02

Basket there are very strict guidelines about what theatres can waft at audiences. Dry ice is what's used.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 19/08/2017 00:05

Okay I'm not going to tell you not to be so precious. You're a mum. Mums are precious, and The claws do come out. Despite what anyone says.Its an animal instict.
That said however I don't have any issues with discipline, but. It does depend how its done. I mean if some one said to my dd Stop doing that it's getting in x's eyes. No problem, but. Its the 'right now' bit that would piss me off. I mean I'd understand if she'd be doing it all night.

echt · 19/08/2017 00:05

I don't get this. It's entirely instinctive to waft smoke out of your face, no matter what it is. Also the friend's child would presumably already have face full of the stuff anyway.

Your friend is an arse, OP.

BasketOfDeplorables · 19/08/2017 00:05

MrsOver it could also have been haze. I don't think there's enough info in the OP to know it's dry ice.

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echt · 19/08/2017 00:09

It's also inconsiderate if what you doing is pushing it into someone else's face.

This breathing we're talking about, not holding back a fart, or belching discreetly.

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gillybeanz · 19/08/2017 00:10

She wasn't telling her off, more like being precious from the sounds of it.
If it was in your dd face it would have been in the other girls face too.
Your dd couldn't have been wafting it into her face.

IamAporcupine · 19/08/2017 00:11

what ClemDanfango said

BasketOfDeplorables · 19/08/2017 00:11

Yes, there's no way a bit of hand wafting is going to do much compared to the direction the effect is already taking.

BasketOfDeplorables · 19/08/2017 00:14

And adults do an awful lot of unnecessary coughing when fog and haze are used, all psychological, so not odd for a child to wave their hand in front of their face.

WorraLiberty · 19/08/2017 00:19

Okay I'm not going to tell you not to be so precious. You're a mum. Mums are precious, and The claws do come out. Despite what anyone says.Its an animal instict

Wow! Seriously?

I must have missed the memo telling me that as a mum, I should be so precious as to have a problem with a friend of mine, telling any child of mine to stop wafting smoke in their child's face Confused

Do you have any stereotypical statements to make about dads in a situation like this, or is it just women whose 'claws do come out'?

BasketOfDeplorables · 19/08/2017 00:22

It's precious to tell a child to stop inefficiently wafting a harmless stage effect near your child, particularly when the effect is already in their face anyway.

It's highly unlike it was actual smoke, so even if you were really precious about smoke theatrical fog or haze wouldn't be a problem.

WorraLiberty · 19/08/2017 00:28

Meh! She could see the wafting was making her child uncomfortable.

It's no big deal

Tbh I think there's way more to this 'friendship' than the OP is letting on.

Probably a bit of rivalry regarding the kids, which is not uncommon but at the same time, best ignored imo.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 19/08/2017 00:28

I think friend was BU as was a bit stupid. You can't waft smoke, dry ice or what have you into another face. It's not a flock of birds. By the time it's wafted away from the original face it's practically no longer there!

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 19/08/2017 00:29

I think friend was BU as was a bit stupid. You can't waft smoke, dry ice or what have you into another face. It's not a flock of birds. By the time it's wafted away from the original face it's practically no longer there!

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