To not pay friend back?

[Forevergazingupwards]

Going through a bad break up and asked to see friend but she was busy that night and invited me to go with her to London the following weekend to visit a mutual friend.

I asked her about train tickets and at the end of the week she bought and paid for us both.

The night before my grandma died and so I didn't go. Now a month later and friend is chasing up the money for the train ticket. I don't think I should have to pay, aibu?

Firstly, you didn't think you needed to pay her back at all......now, it's that you think her timing is off.

It's really fucking hard to ask someone for the money they owe you.....especially as she knows you've suffered a loss.

Of course you should pay her.

How much was the ticket?!

Sorry, you need to pay for the ticket. She shouldn't have to ask more than once, regardless.

Of course you should pay her. I'm sorry about your Gran but you can't use it as an excuse not to pay.

Don't be a shit friend.
Your grandma dying doesn't affect your friends finances, you not paying what you owe does.

I also agree you should pay.

Of course you should pay! Why on earth should she be out of pocket?

I call reverse too. No one is this stupid to post this and think a death and a breakup absolves them from owing a friend money.

Shes been a good friend... shes left it a month before chasing it.

When would have beem ok with you 2 months.. a year??

Or is the real problem that you cant afford it?

I'm sorry, but this is adult life for you. Loss and grief come to us all and as hard as it is, the world keeps turning. Good friends will support you when they can, but you can't expect them to let absolutely anything and everything go. You're not a child to be sheltered from all life's demands.

Your friend's been pretty decent as far as I can see. Tried to make arrangements to be around for you through your nasty breakup. Sorted out train tickets for your trip. Gave you a month to gather yourself before mentioning that you still owed her for the train. I for one could definitely not afford to let the cost of a train ticket go - they're blooming expensive these days. If it wasn't a gift originally, it still isn't and you do need to pay.

I'm sorry for the hard time you're going through.

I call Reversy Percy...

Surely this is a reverse

Sorry for your loss but that does not negate the fact you owe her money, money she probably needs so if it isn't a reverse pay her back. If it is sorry

Did you say it was a month ago? I see she kindly waited a month to even ask. I think you should pay her back. She probably worried about asking but she might need the money. I wouldn't let a few quid ruin a friendship, pay her back.

I'm sorry your grandmother died but obviously you should pay. Waiting month is more than kind from your friend's POV.
I can't understand why she didn't claim a refund though. In such circumstances you sometimes don't even have to pay the admin fee, depending on the rial company and your existing relationship with them.
Please pay your friend back.

It must be a reverse, surely.

Sorry for your lost
But you need to pay the money back.

loss

Of course you owe her the money!!!

Don't be a knob, pay up.

Yes you should pay. Sorry to be blunt but why should she be out of pocket because you had a personal issue?

What shitorbust said

A good friend would be mortified she'd forgotten to pay what she owed!

WTF. Of COURSE you need to pay up. Sorry to hear about your nan but that's completely unrelated.

I just feel a good friend wouldn't chase this up when I'm going through such a shit time.

A good friend shouldn't have to chase this up.

A not so good friend shouldn't have to chase you up.

It's not her fault your nan died. It has nothing to do with the fact you owe her money, money she obviously needs. Get a grip. The world doesn't revolve around you, even when someone dies.

Won't have friends for much longer if you honestly think you don't have to pay her back and she's the problem.