ExH kissing DD15 on the lips

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I know there's been a lot in the press recently about "celebs" kissing their young children on the lips, but what about older teenagers?
ExH turned up to pick up DD15 yesterday and kissed her on the lips as they walked to the car. The more I think about it, the more uncomfortable I am with it. I love my Dad with all my heart, but kissing him on the lips would just seem wrong.
AIBU to think it's weird or is it quite normal?

he will do until they don't want to anymore.

Why might they not want to anymore?

We never leave each other without a kiss goodbye whether it's from the home or elsewhere.
DS1 always bends down and offers his check bud DS2 will kiss on the lips. No one is uncomfortable.

YANBU. I think it is weird and far too intimate. (shudders)

Cailleach666 - sorry should have said if. Some kids when they get older find it " embarrassing" to kiss their parents at all. That's what I meant

It is ok to kiss on the lips.

It is ok to not kiss on the lips.

It isn't ok to make comments such as "gross", "weird" and "ugh disgusting" about how other people choose to kiss their own family members.

The only person that matters in the OP is the DD - if she is comfortable with it, then there's no issue.

makes me wonder what goes on behind closed doors

Funny - this comment made me wonder whether you'e being deliberately goady or you're really obtuse enough to equate a kiss with sexual abuse.

I say "wierd" as I have only seen a tiny minority of people/families do it and it is so against my ususal experience (and tv etc) that it just immediately stands out as being very odd and unusual.

I kiss my dad on the lips and always kissed my grandads on the lips. I'm 34.

I kiss DS (3 months) on the lips, and he opens his mouth wide and looks very pleased and surprised in response. I don't know what he thinks is happening but it's adorable. All of you non-lip-kissers should try it, you are really missing out.

Grew up kissing all of my family, we've mostly swapped to hugs and cheek kisses now but I don't see anything wrong with lip kissing.

I don't think it's weird at all, I wouldn't personally kiss my dad on the lips but my daughter kisses her daddy on the lips and it's fine.
I don't see the issue at all.

I personally wouldn't do it but I don't think it's weird or wrong for others to.

I have never kissed my children on the lips, but I know people who do. It's not a problem, and it's not weird.

Unless your DD is uncomfortable with it and/or he is using his tongue, YABU

YABU

There is nothing wrong with it. But it totally depends on how you were brought up.

We were brought up in a very loving and tactile family, got no problem kissing my parents on the lips.

It's only weird if they find it weird. It's really up to the kissers and the kissees on their preferred place of kissing, be it lip or cheek or air kiss.

I would neither kiss either of my parents on the lips. I never tell them I love them either, and never hear it from them. They're not 'bad' parents, they're just not that type and not overtly affectionate at all. Awkward with hugs. Never mind kisses.

I'm fairly emotionally detached from people as a result (I think as a result anyway) and kissing people, hugging people when they're upset etc is very difficult for me. I have to work at it to not appear a robot tbh.

I kiss my dc on the lips and tell them I love them every day. I hug them often and make a massive effort to talk to people when I'm with them, engage in chat in general and try and set the opposite example to the ones my parents set me.

I'd rather see affection between adults and children into adulthood than a tail off to nothing tbh.

Ha, I still kiss both kids (7 and 5, different sexes) on the lips on a regular basis. A peck isn't a snog.

I kiss my dad on the lips and I am 43. Different families do different things. YABU. Try not to judge others by your standards always. It's hard, but try.

God, does it really matter? Why has everything got to automatically be sexualised. Some people kiss on the lips,others don't simple.

DD is 15 and will still kiss her Dad goodnight on the lips.
I don't see anything wrong with it - but we kiss on the lips in our family and everyone is happy with that.

Always kissed my parents on the lips until they died; kiss my 6 year old on the lips now and will only stop if she ever expresses any desire to do so. Assuming he is her father and she is ok with it (and there is no other drip feed worrying behaviour) I really don't see the problem.

I kiss my brother on the lips. They are just lips.

Lips are for lovers

Brilliant. Oh well, it's catchy, it must be conclusive.

Maybe you only kiss your lovers but it's obviously not true of others.

I'm actually finding use of the word "lovers" more uncomfortable to be honest.

What does your daughter think?

If she's uncomfortable with it she should turn her head if she's not happy just telling her dad. If she's happy with it, then yes it's just you.

FWIW I don't kiss my mum or dad on the lips but I did my grandad and I do my own kids (younger though). It's not weird unless there is an abuse element which there doesn't seem to be here.

It doesn't look as if the OP is coming back, but she surely wouldn't have thought anything of it, let alone start a thread about it, if it was normal in her family. Unless she thinks lip-kissing should stop when the child reaches a certain age, but she hasn't said that.

Super weird.