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Original poster

Babies on the tube at 11.30

270 replies

CoughLaughFart · 08/08/2017 23:53

I've just spent 20 minutes on the tube listening to not one, but two babies screaming at top volume. It's nearly midnight! Who is that irresponsible?

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BarbaraofSeville · 09/08/2017 09:28

Maybe babies on the tube is the London version of parents driving the baby around in the car in an attempt to get it to sleep that some people do sometimes?

DownstairsMixUp · 09/08/2017 09:29

I bet you're fun at parties.

Nakedavenger74 · 09/08/2017 09:32

Arf. We were at a campsite in France last year me and the man. Great restaurant on site and we at at 9 finishing around 10.30 just as 3 families pitched up with babies and toddlers to eat.

All impeccably behaved and interacting with parents at the table. Lovely to see whereas the British parents were all crouched in their tents whispering furtively to another as their kids has been in bed since 7pm

MsHooliesCardigan · 09/08/2017 09:54

Cough You got your arse handed to you on a plate on the kilt thread for telling Scottish posters to stop saying 'wee'. I believe your post was deleted?
Everyone on this thread is telling you that YABU. Why not try posting something that isn't angry or judgemental?
You don't sound very happy. Is everything OK?

Original poster
CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 10:13

You got your arse handed to you on a plate on the kilt thread for telling Scottish posters to stop saying 'wee'. I believe your post was deleted?

Not sure how that's relevant here. And if it's been deleted, what's your issue?

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CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 10:14

I bet you're fun at parties.

Yeah, I can't tell you how often I've had to turn down invites to 'Bring a Baby' parties on late night Tube services.

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 09/08/2017 10:18

If babies bothered you that much you can always not use public transport and drive everywhere instead Confused

IamaBluebird · 09/08/2017 10:21

People will have many valid reasons they need to travel with their baby at all times of day. Not sure why you're bothered op.

blueskyinmarch · 09/08/2017 10:32

Cough You are being very aggressive in your posting style. If you ask something on AIBU then you have to accept that some pretty much all the posters might not agree with you.

my2bundles · 09/08/2017 10:33

There are so many reasons why a parent would travel at 11pm with a baby, tot, school age child. They really are non of your business. Its called public transport for a reason, it's not only certain age people at certain times transport. I travel about once a month my my school age child to visit family elsewhere in the country. We usually arrive home around 11pm Sunday night after 4 hours travel nvolving 3 trains and a bus. Either that or my son never sees some family members. He has also been on a bus at 11pm after a trip to a and e and after shows. He is certainly not scarred in any way by this, shock horror.

Edsheeranalbumparty · 09/08/2017 10:39

Why are you being so aggressive cough?

Lots of people post on AIBU (the clue is it's a question), get told they are being unreasonable and will say 'oh, it seems IABU, I will get my coat Smile ' and that will be that.

Do you get something out of being so rude? not just on this thread

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CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 10:51

It's a shame you dismiss any disagreement as aggression.

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GahBuggerit · 09/08/2017 10:52

I just don't understand why this would bother someone Confused

GinIsIn · 09/08/2017 11:00

I repeat my previous question-

Might I ask what you hope to gain from this thread if you aren't a goady fucker?

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CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 11:05

What's your problem Fenella? Just because you don't like the question you dismiss me as a 'goady fucker' (another phrase no one uses in real life)?

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GinIsIn · 09/08/2017 11:06

Please do read properly. I didn't call you a goady fucker. I asked what, as you claim you are not a goady fucker, you hope to gain from this thread. I note you haven't answered....

Edsheeranalbumparty · 09/08/2017 11:10

It's a shame you dismiss any disagreement as aggression.

You are not just disagreeing though are you? You are being very rude with it.

Do you lack this sort of self awareness in real life as well? You are getting your arse handed to you in a plate, but apparently we are all the ones who are wrong. And yes you are being goady. Deal with it.

NotACleverName · 09/08/2017 11:13

Don't want to see or hear babies on the tube after some arbitrary cut-off point? Learn to drive. Problem solved.

Alternatively: remove the stick from up your arse.

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CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 11:14

I note you haven't answered

I'm not up in court.

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Birdsgottaf1y · 09/08/2017 11:15

""I'm born here to a Spanish mother and she has Never ever understood the British obsession with getting children to bed early evening ""

In days gone by, when we were a farming nation early bedtimes were for everyone. There wasn't much to do in draughty/heating in one room, houses with no television, in parts of the UK, anyway. In some parts it was dark by 5pm and families had to be frugal.

It's just been passed down as that's the way you do things, without question.

I was thought a terrible Mother by my neighbours, in the 80's/90's because I didn't enforce bedtimes (which made no sense to our lifestyle).

Living somewhere with a different climate, alone, would mean different Parenting styles.

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CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 11:19

You are getting your arse handed to you in a plate, but apparently we are all the ones who are wrong.

If you find it so offensive, you could simply stop reading the thread instead of chiming in to 'hand my arse' to me, as you do delightfully put it.

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EdmundCleverClogs · 09/08/2017 11:20

CoughLaughFart do you really not recognise how you read as rude and abrasive, rather than just disagreeing? The latter usually includes valid points of opinion and counter-opinion, the former is how you reply to posts (or completely ignore in some cases).

MrsWhatToDo · 09/08/2017 11:21

OP I'm sorry but you are not making sense.
The point of AIBU is to ask others if they they think you are BU. Everyone does.. for varying reasons and each of the reasons you have offered for thinking it was irresponsible have been responded to. But you seem to be opting out of your own discussion in favour of picking on the irrelevant parts of the responses you are getting. Also, objecting to posters that are attempting to keep you on your own topic. I would like to know, I'm guessing others may too but not going you speak for everyone! -

  • Do you accept that these people could have been placed in an extreme/ difficult situation that lead to them being on the tube?
  • Do you realise that them being there doesn't necessarily mean they have no routine?
  • Has an extreme or 'out of routine' situation honestly never happened to you before? (I ask this only to, hopefully, help you understand why you are also being called judgemental)
  • What exactly is it that makes, children/babies being taken anywhere past a certain time, seem irresponsible to you?
  • AIBU is generally about asking for other people's opinion. Those opinions appear to be making you a bit defensive. If tha4t's true it can't have been your intention. So what we're you hoping for/ expecting?
GinIsIn · 09/08/2017 11:23

So you want people to believe you haven't started the thread for goady fucker purposes but refuse to give any other reason. You're no public debate champion, are you?! Grin

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CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 11:23

I've responded in the exact same way I was spoken to by certain posters. Several others have disagreed with me without resorting to insults.

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