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Babies on the tube at 11.30

270 replies

CoughLaughFart · 08/08/2017 23:53

I've just spent 20 minutes on the tube listening to not one, but two babies screaming at top volume. It's nearly midnight! Who is that irresponsible?

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Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 09/08/2017 08:39

Not at all, but OP, you asked for everyone's opinion. That's the whole point of AIBU. If you can't admit you were being unreasonable then maybe this wasn't the place to post?

missiondecision · 09/08/2017 08:41

Get over yourself.
Your travel arrangements are no more important than anyone else.... whatever age or however loud their voice.

BarbaraofSeville · 09/08/2017 08:42

point is there could be reasons why parents are still out with kids at late hours. Hospital/ heath, late shifts, holidays etc..etc

Or they could just be of the opinion that having children doesn't mean that for the next decade they have to be confined to their house from 6 pm every evening to spend hour going through an elaborate and prolonged 'bedtime routine'.

YellowFlower201 · 09/08/2017 08:46

YABU and pretty judgmental too...

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 09/08/2017 08:53

All this focus on routine makes me wonder if you are she who cannot be named (one for longstanding MNers Wink)

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CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 08:54

Well you'll have to name her for me - no idea who you're on about!

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SchnitzelVonKrumm · 09/08/2017 08:55

I love to see a baby on the tube, most people do I reckon.

FreudianSlurp · 09/08/2017 08:56

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Berrybrambles · 09/08/2017 08:56

I've been out that late with mine as babies. Not on the tube because I don't live in London and hate the tube anyway but still..

It was usually because we had been to the walk in centre or hospital or on the way back from a holiday or a day out or rare visit to friends that had ended up lasting longer than planned.

If you have a decent comfy pram babies will sleep.

Not sure what the issue is. Is it that you don't agree with babies on tubes late at night or is it that you are annoyed you had a tube journey with two screaming babies.

Switching your argument to be about older children is irrelevant. Your aibu post was about babies.

aramintafatbottom · 09/08/2017 08:59

Not all babies need the same routine and there is a million and one reasons why a baby might be out at 11:30pm. None of which are any of your business.

I also cannot believe you are seriously trying to compare this to domestic violence.

MeltorPeltor · 09/08/2017 09:00

I had a baby once and he regularly got up at 11pm, 2am and 4am. They're really not as bothered as you are about being up late at night.

NicolasFlamel · 09/08/2017 09:00

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ashotofespresso · 09/08/2017 09:00

Wow!!!

I had my baby on the tube after 11, it could of been me you saw!

I had suffered a 4 hour delay in getting to kings cross, and trust me crossing London with a pushchair is nothing but a necessity!

Come on OP, irresponsible? How close minded!

HeyBigSpender · 09/08/2017 09:01

Oh I wish I had this little to worry about....

TenForward82 · 09/08/2017 09:04

OP, do you have kids?

Some babies don't sleep til late, especially when very young. Or it could be an emergency. Or it could be parents working night shift. Did you see the babies? How old did they look?

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CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 09:08

Farty mcfart pants has a very similar posting style to another miserable GF on here. I suspect it's a very bored individual.

Really? Sock puppetry allegations?

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PinguForPresident · 09/08/2017 09:10

Oh dear, OP. Oh dear.

One of the best things about bahies is that they're small nad portable. And they generally don;t have any pressing early morning engagements that necessitate their routine being bed at 7pm SHARP so they're bright-eyed and bushy-tailed for 7am the next day. Their routine could be staying up late and getting up late. Or they could be out for a special occasion. Or an emergency. Or any number of other things.

It's not the slightest bit irresponsible to have a baby on the tube at nearly midnight. Babies don't give a shit about what time it is.

Oh, and babies don;t need routine. Any routine that a young baby has is for the benefit of the parents who feel the need to get them into one to suit their own lifestyle. Toddlers and upwards need routine - hell, yeah - but babies really have no concept of it.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 09/08/2017 09:15

Well you'll have to name her for me - no idea who you're on about!

Oh well I guess you don't know much about this site then.

SheSaidHeSaid · 09/08/2017 09:16

My friend on occasion has to do this with her DD. Trust me, she would rather not but she has no choice. What a shame that she's being judged whilst doing so.

PsychoPumpkin · 09/08/2017 09:17

You have no idea why they were out so late OP. My baby was in bed on the dot of 7 every night except the night we came home from a holiday and after a huge delay, had to get the last train home (close to 11). It wasn't ideal but neither was it a regular occurance. You know nothing of the routine these babies usually follow.

SnotGoblin · 09/08/2017 09:19

Oh I was that mother. Waving, over here. Send your judgement and pursed lips this way.

Babies don't know whether it's 1130 or not, especially really young ones that wake and feed whenever they need to. I hauled mine round in a sling at all hours of the day and night. They're incredibly portable when they're young. I often wondered if I was getting stink eyed from snidey judgies. Turns out I was [laugh].

NicolasFlamel · 09/08/2017 09:20

Really? Sock puppetry allegations?
Take from it what you will. Only you know what you're up to but you're looking a bit pathetic to everyone else.

Fossilshavenomemory · 09/08/2017 09:23

"Are you happy for them to be out at this time hours before school?"
"Yes, thank you; I have heard of August."
Then, why ask?

EdmundCleverClogs · 09/08/2017 09:23

CoughLaughFart, do you always stick so rigidly to an opinion once you've decided it? Or are you just always deliberately obtuse? Must make you rather a difficult person to be around.

If a large majority of people were telling me I was unreasonable, I'd not dig my feet in deep, otherwise why ask on AIBU? You are unreasonable by the way, for all reasons mentioned above.

FittonTower · 09/08/2017 09:23

This is a very strange post. Did you see actual babies on the Tube last night? Or school age children last September? Or is it more of a general "no children under 16 should be out after 8.30" sort of thing? I can't work it out. Would you like to clarify or are you just enjoying the argument?
For what it's worth I'm born here to a Spanish mother and she has Never ever understood the British obsession with getting children to bed early evening and I do see her point....