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Child allowed to go home with a stranger

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Emmie412 · 08/08/2017 16:17

I signed up my 7-year-old for a sports camp, 3 hours a day, five days a week. I enquired in advance whether parents had to stay and they said no, most parents dropped off their children.

Fast forward to the first day and my child is brought home by a mum, who had a kid in the same camp but who is COMPLETELY UNKNOWN to us and my child. My child had gotten upset and the coach had asked her to sit on the side. The other parents who had been present had been trying to talk to her, which in turn made her more upset. The mum in question had then announced to the coach that she was taking my child home to which the coach had simply said fine. At no point did anyone ring us although contact details were provided during booking process.

I raised my concerns directly with the coach whose only (morose) response was to say there was no refund and that he didn't 'send her' home. It is obvious that he had a duty of care so I escalated this to the manager who swiftly responded by confirming that the coach had been reprimanded, refund had already been processed and that they would instantly review their safe-guarding processes and policies.

Luckily my child was fine and while I hope this coach gets the sack, am still left wondering what sort of mum thinks it is ok to take an unknown child without the permission of the parents, without knowing where she lived and without knowing whether parents would be home? (My child had to guide her through the park to our home address). Although she was upset, she was not lost and the coach had our phone number (which he clearly failed to use).

The whole incident has left me full of unease. We are very lucky that nothing happened but this has truly put me off any sort of holiday camps.

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smellyboot · 10/08/2017 20:02

Alltheworld - is it just for club registered DC? Whatever the set up they must be able to account for DC in their care and have personal info to hand in case of an accident. As a coach who has witnessed broken wrists, concussion and bad asthma attacks at well run football, sessions, they are being negligent and naive. The first port for call with any football club is the club welfare officer, which they have to have in place.
I'd contact them and highlight your concerns immediately.

lalalalyra · 10/08/2017 20:08

@alltheworld Have you filled in a registration form? Do they have your emergency contact details? Did they take a register?

Who runs it? Not seeing themselves as childcare doesn't mean they can just do what they like. There are procedures and rules that they still have to follow.

alltheworld · 10/08/2017 22:36

I didn't fill in any forms. They wrote down names of children there but no signing in. It's open to anyone. Unsure if there is a club welfare officer as this was the first time I had used it.

alltheworld · 10/08/2017 22:36

They had my mobile.

smellyboot · 10/08/2017 23:11

All FA registered clubs have to have a welfare officer - at least one. The persons details should be on their web site etc. They offer a confidential ear for any safeguarding queries or concerns. They have specific training for safeguarding in football.
It sounds very lax to me as some one involved in these types of things; I can see it being more informal with age 11+ but not under that age due to the risks of injury / kids wondering off etc

alltheworld · 10/08/2017 23:12

I will check. It is a local football club so don't know if it is Fa registered

smellyboot · 10/08/2017 23:13

And they will be FA registered BTW if they have team, play in leagues etc etc as they have to be for their insurance. Football is really quite heavily regulated behind the scenes.

flowergrrl77 · 10/08/2017 23:13

Blimey! Yea, I refuse to take a child home with me from school where the teacher knows I know the child and parent unless SHE has had notification from the child's parent!

The kids often try to sneak a 'miss miss, I'm going home today with xxx's mum'
'Are you? Nobody told me'
Me: 'yes, this is true, but if you've not been informed we shall wait here whilst you check'

lalalalyra · 10/08/2017 23:16

That seems incredibly lax. No allergies? No medical details?

Not knowing if Billy is asthmatic or Tommy is allergic to anything is ridiculous in a setting where they'll be risking injury due to the nature of kids being kids and sports being sports.

Also having your mobile number is absolutely no use if you have no signal or if - and this is something very few people think about - anything happens to you. That's why they should always take an emergency contact.

smellyboot · 10/08/2017 23:26

I am generally not the paranoid type at all but have seen enough, in well controlled circumstances to agree 100%. I've dealt with the asthmatic child dropped off with no inhaler and, as I said before, the broken wrists and head injury. In all cases luckily we knew the child's medical stuff and two contacts etc

Katemustsew · 11/08/2017 15:15

This is abduction, call the police and teach that dogooder a lesson she won't forget.Wink sorry I've come over all mumsnetty

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