Anybody else on holiday with a miserable bastard husband?

[Nettletheelf]

I seem to have found myself on holiday with Victor Meldrew. Tell me that I'm not the only one.

On a hot Mediterranean island suggested by DH. We return to the UK tomorrow, after a week's holiday. Just him and me: DSD and DSS are too old to go on holiday with us.

I'm 45, he's 52. Both very fit and healthy. Happily married, except on this holiday, when I have been tempted to murder him!

His complaints during the week have included the following:

1. Too hot. We're in the fecking mediterranean in August. Of course it's sodding hot.

1a. Too hot to sleep well, thus making him "a bit grumpy".

1. Beach too sandy (I HAVE NOT MADE THIS UP). Sand too fine and gets stuck to things, causing dismay.

1. Beach, specifically sand, too hot to walk on.

1. Has been "too full" to properly enjoy dinners at range of lovely restaurants.

1. Claimed to be 'delirious with the heat' today after leaving air conditioned coach for two hours in historic town.

1. We went on an organised long walk through an area of outstanding natural beauty, just up his street, I thought. He was disappointed in it. The gorge was "too stony".

1. Following gorge walk, his legs were "a bit sore" when descending stairs.

1. Foreign chocolate not up to UK standards.

1. World heritage site "a bit boring" and "just a load of stones".

10. Doesn't like "being told things by people" i.e. tour guide with expert knowledge of ruins.

Etc etc. I'll spare you the rest.

Is this inevitable? Do they all turn into whinging bastards? We know loads of them, and I always thought DH compared well. He doesn't!

It's enough to put me off going on holiday with him again.

Do I need to put LIGHT HEARTED, LIGHT HEARTED to prevent people telling me that my marriage is over and I should leave him? I have, just in case.

Tell me that I'm not the only one!!

You're not the only one, I came home from holiday this year determined to go alone or with a friend next time!

Ah my sister has one of these! Send him back and ask for a refund!

Lol at "being told things by people". Is he Michael Gove?

I don't know why people insist on dragging partners round things they know they have no interest in. I like old ruins and museums, DH likes golf courses. No way I'd be trudging round golf course, no way he'd be looking at old ruins.

It did make me laugh, so I'm glad you are laughing!

Doesn't sound much fun in reality, so a stern word might be needed at some point before the next holiday.

Mines a bit like that. Too hot usually no shit sherlock. Going away in May next year so I don't have to listen to the constant whinging about the weather.

beach too sandy
Leave him in his bedroom for the rest of the holiday, while you enjoy the place.

Tbh, if I was dragged on a guided tour, I'd be grumpy too!

Do you just have different ideas of what holidays are about?

Not at the moment but I will be next week . DS and I just ignore him and get on with it now. Something strange happens to DP when he's on holiday - at home he is outgoing, extrovert and has a sense of humour. On holiday he morphs into Victor Meldrew and would happily (or grumpily) spend the whole time in the room/apartment watching TV . Odd. And I cannot be arsed to try and work it out.

I met my DH on an adventure holiday. Holidays we're good with. We start to get to the murdering stage if we have to live too much boring everyday life without one.

And he is definitely BVVVU foreign chocolate and sweets are streets ahead of British crap im looking at your cadburys or are you American now

Oh dear, he sounds a bit like me in the heat!

HAHAHAHAHA at Michael Gove! No. I think Gove would be less curmudgeonly.

DH actively suggested trip to archaeology site. If he'd said he didn't want to go, I'd have gone alone and left him skulking in a darkened, air conditioned room!

Please don't spare us the rest. I was enjoying that list. Number 10 is especially funny.

I have the converse. Grumpy git in the normal run of things, chilled and happy on holiday.

Sadly, we can't go on holiday for 52 weeks of the year.

Sothern Europe is at the tail end of a heat wave which has killed a record number of people, so he's entitled to feel hot.

Why not show a bit of understanding instead of moaning on the internet whilst your supposed to be on holiday? Just a thought.

Cheers!
M.JD

Mine starts.the holiday absolutely exhausted from the five hour drive. That's the drive I do while he snores. (He can't drive.)
Even ds has joined in the "aren't you making mum a cuppa" when we reach the cottage. This is totally ignored. Things don't get much better!!

Oh god martin here to piss on another parade are we?

@LakieLady I've got one of those too!

OK. There is much more:

11. Coke "tastes weird"

12. Coffee "tastes a bit funny", with speculation over root cause (condensed milk currently prime suspect).

13. Russian tourists "talking too loudly".

14. Wifi in hotel room not fast enough.

Quite like the refund idea. I'll look into that.

This is why I leave mine behind every year and just go abroad with the DDs for the week, as he'd hate every minute of it.

Difference is: he knows it so doesn't want to come in the first place. We have a family week somewhere else in the UK in May (when it isn't too hot for him!)

MartinJD - it's the med in summer, what did he expect?! And you can bet he'd moan twice as much of it rained the whole time!

I have the opposite problem. 50 weeks of Victor Meldrew at home, then 2 weeks away with Pollyanna. It's like going on holiday with a stranger. He gets animated and into things .

🙄 Oh OP you have my sympathy, it would drive me insane!

A sandy beach too sandy? Well it's a sandy beach what did one expect? 😂😂

Too hot? Well it's the middle of summer in the Mediterranean again what did one expect? 😂😂😂

Poor man, how dare these foreign types put sand on their beaches and stones in the gorges? He needs your help to recover from such affronts to his sensibilities.
Either that or he needs to wake up to reality.
YANBU he sounds like a perfect dick. I hope you escaped and had some good times.