Anybody else on holiday with a miserable bastard husband?

[Nettletheelf]

I seem to have found myself on holiday with Victor Meldrew. Tell me that I'm not the only one.

On a hot Mediterranean island suggested by DH. We return to the UK tomorrow, after a week's holiday. Just him and me: DSD and DSS are too old to go on holiday with us.

I'm 45, he's 52. Both very fit and healthy. Happily married, except on this holiday, when I have been tempted to murder him!

His complaints during the week have included the following:

1. Too hot. We're in the fecking mediterranean in August. Of course it's sodding hot.

1a. Too hot to sleep well, thus making him "a bit grumpy".

1. Beach too sandy (I HAVE NOT MADE THIS UP). Sand too fine and gets stuck to things, causing dismay.

1. Beach, specifically sand, too hot to walk on.

1. Has been "too full" to properly enjoy dinners at range of lovely restaurants.

1. Claimed to be 'delirious with the heat' today after leaving air conditioned coach for two hours in historic town.

1. We went on an organised long walk through an area of outstanding natural beauty, just up his street, I thought. He was disappointed in it. The gorge was "too stony".

1. Following gorge walk, his legs were "a bit sore" when descending stairs.

1. Foreign chocolate not up to UK standards.

1. World heritage site "a bit boring" and "just a load of stones".

10. Doesn't like "being told things by people" i.e. tour guide with expert knowledge of ruins.

Etc etc. I'll spare you the rest.

Is this inevitable? Do they all turn into whinging bastards? We know loads of them, and I always thought DH compared well. He doesn't!

It's enough to put me off going on holiday with him again.

Do I need to put LIGHT HEARTED, LIGHT HEARTED to prevent people telling me that my marriage is over and I should leave him? I have, just in case.

Tell me that I'm not the only one!!

My kids are turning into mini-DP as well.

Famous examples:

• In China: "It's just a wall, I don't get the fuss"
• The beach in Spain was simultaneously too sandy and not sandy enough.
• On a 'once in a lifetime' whale watching trip, DP was too busy taking photos of the boat.
• When we went to the Vatican City to see the pope, all three of them complained that it was 'too busy'.

It's amazing I haven't committed triple homicide!

Christ missharry I'm sick of people on other threads too, posting a link to the BBC website. It it WRONG
Just come here. It's 40 degrees in Spain. Minimum, 30 degrees at night
THERE IS A HEATWAVE. Why would I lie? Why would I want to?

Hows about, walking boots with insoles that have been left in the ice box overnight?

WineAndTiramisu what a great name, might change mine to TiramisuWithExtraChocolate

OP you have a tricky husband, but it IS bloody hot at the moment. Despite what websites say. If he was expecting 27 he got 47. It's hideous.

But each to their own.

Babycham, I hear ya!

DD:
Grand Canyon? But what is there to do there?
Phuket? Hmm, alright I'll go, but only if I can have sweets after my jabs.
Skiing with family friends: Humph, so I'm the only girl again.
Pompeii (in fairness it was over 100 degrees): Kill. Me. Now.

DS: A California road trip? Us 4? In the same car? For over 2 weeks? Are you serious?!

I used to sign my posts with my initials when I first got here (different name though). I had defected from a tiny forum where everyone did it. The difference is I learned after my first few posts got baffled "what does MMM mean?" responses!

M.JD (forget the dot at your peril) makes me yearn for the days of GabbyLoggon.

MJD is clearly OP's DH 😂

Faith77

He pulled out of the finances and left you to pay the lot, BUT IS STILL COMING???????

I have to admit my hubby was annoyed with me when we went to Thailand and kept asking what was wrong; I found it too hot to eat, didn't fancy alcohol at all and was generally too exhausted to do anything but lie on the beach and go into the sea to cool off. I felt guilty but there was nothing I could do. Then in New York he was off for a few days (I think maybe the air con in the plane affected him) and so he spent two days in bed! Travelling is not always easy for us humans! I suggest leave him in the room for a day to acclimatize while you do your own thing? x

Actually with so many different things brewing, if this is a first ,maybe something is brewing inside him, could be anything from prostate , mid life crisis, high blood p.hypothyroid, I would have him checked out on return if this is a bit weird for him.

Great thread, Nettle!

'I've noticed a correlation between how husbands behave in holiday, and how they behave in Ikea '

^

This. We nearly get divorced too.

And to the poster who said why do you bother going on vacation with him, my response is as soon as DD (currently 6 months) is big enough we'll be going just the two of us for girls weekends to NYC etc.

'Pompeii (in fairness it was over 100 degrees): Kill. Me. Now.'

The kid had a point, in fairness.

Sighing loudly when I ordered another drink, looking at his watch (it was 9.30!!)

DS1 in Vietnam: "This is nothing like the films I've seen"

Yeah don't worry, we're being locked into bamboo cages later and you and dad will be playing Russian Roulette...

DS2 in Croatia: "It's King's Landing from Game of Thrones!"

FFS.

Pmsl at Abraham the Stick Whittler and Banjo Dad

DS2 in Croatia: "It's King's Landing from Game of Thrones!"

It is though. What's wrong with noticing that?

Being as every second shop in Dubrovnik is selling GOT tat, it'd be really hard not to notice it.

To be fair, I thought he might be more interested in the history of the area but I forgot he's quite a big GoT nerd. I hadn't seen it at that point so was oblivious to why he was so excited.

My husband's family came to England on holiday (from Canada) when he was little, in Cambridge his sister complained 'seen one quadrangle, seen 'em all'. We now use it for any trip....canals in Amsterdam- 'seen one quadrangle', hexagonal stones at Giant's Causeway- 'seen one quadrangle', ruins in Parthenon- 'seen one quadrangle' etc etc

AKA 'fresco fatigue' - poor FIL could not understand why we chose to go shopping on our 3rd visit to Florence, rather than visiting important churches.

DH & I had a bloody good laugh about the "shops in Pompeii" anecdote above & the holiday-Ikea correlation. DH wanted me to post something witty about Ikea being like holiday because of the foreign food & booze, but he's gone out for a walk & I'm not his damn PA.

You're lucky it's Just holiday I'm sat here with golf on and him being on phone, I wanted to enjoy a drink together for once but he doesn't like to drink in doors, well in doors apart from work and kids is all I have, should life be this boring

I actually was happier on my own, we are not married but together fir a few years but same routine every eve is just boring if I drink on my own I will just lay into him

Thank God my husband fucked off now I go on as many guided tours and coach trips and gardening related events as I feel like without a miserable whiny bastard in tow.
i can't tell you how much better life is.

My H is a holiday moaner too. On one holiday he even complained that the birds tweeted too loudly in the morning, then got in a huff with me because I laughed at him.

I have a bit of sympathy for the husband woken by birds as I used to get irritated at getting disturbed every bloody morning.

Worse when we had a night bird that sounded like a squeaky door on top.