Anybody else on holiday with a miserable bastard husband?

[Nettletheelf]

I seem to have found myself on holiday with Victor Meldrew. Tell me that I'm not the only one.

On a hot Mediterranean island suggested by DH. We return to the UK tomorrow, after a week's holiday. Just him and me: DSD and DSS are too old to go on holiday with us.

I'm 45, he's 52. Both very fit and healthy. Happily married, except on this holiday, when I have been tempted to murder him!

His complaints during the week have included the following:

1. Too hot. We're in the fecking mediterranean in August. Of course it's sodding hot.

1a. Too hot to sleep well, thus making him "a bit grumpy".

1. Beach too sandy (I HAVE NOT MADE THIS UP). Sand too fine and gets stuck to things, causing dismay.

1. Beach, specifically sand, too hot to walk on.

1. Has been "too full" to properly enjoy dinners at range of lovely restaurants.

1. Claimed to be 'delirious with the heat' today after leaving air conditioned coach for two hours in historic town.

1. We went on an organised long walk through an area of outstanding natural beauty, just up his street, I thought. He was disappointed in it. The gorge was "too stony".

1. Following gorge walk, his legs were "a bit sore" when descending stairs.

1. Foreign chocolate not up to UK standards.

1. World heritage site "a bit boring" and "just a load of stones".

10. Doesn't like "being told things by people" i.e. tour guide with expert knowledge of ruins.

Etc etc. I'll spare you the rest.

Is this inevitable? Do they all turn into whinging bastards? We know loads of them, and I always thought DH compared well. He doesn't!

It's enough to put me off going on holiday with him again.

Do I need to put LIGHT HEARTED, LIGHT HEARTED to prevent people telling me that my marriage is over and I should leave him? I have, just in case.

Tell me that I'm not the only one!!

My DH did this a few years ago. Sorrento was "too hot altogether" in July. Managed to keep the miserable git routine up for the whole week until we stepped off the plane at Gatwick.

Actually the highlight of my holiday is usually foreign supermarkets - I bloody love them. If I could spend longer looking at aubergines and the biscuit aisle I'd be less grumpy about the sandy sand.

Same here. I ❤️ €8 bottles of Amaretto too.

How you haven't murdered him god only knows lol Id be tempted to have an extra week there on my own and send him back to UK.

I've cone to believe over the years that men don't like many places that aren't their specific comfort spots. YANBU

Also I plan, book, pack, sort out car park, make every possible decision about holiday so it's All My Fault if anything goes wrong.

OMG. I hear you sister.

We also left our wet holiday in Cumbria three days early this year.
We have come to the conclusion that our family isn't very good at relaxing holidays.
Have also realised that in order to keep the status quo, wifi is a definite. necessity on any break away our family has.

Dd hates walking in the countryside (well that ruled out the entire Lake District then), DH wasn't satisfied with low level ambling along kind of walking....he wanted steep, Helvellyn type walking....even though I'm mega unfit and have anaemia.
DS just wanted to stay in the cottage and play Minecraft.
I just wanted to go to Center Parcs!

On the plus side, DH agreed the hotel bathing platform in Sorrento was a major plus - because you could get in the sea for a swim without getting sandy. But the kids complained about how salty the sea was.

Ex h complained that;

Tenerife beaches looked like a bloody tarmac car park.

The coliseum looked like b&q builder's yardt

Er no you can't be married to VM because I am. Why are you going on holiday in August?

@dustarr73 ignore @MartinJD, he/ she/ it comments on every post with a load of rubbish, attempting to antagonise everyone.

cocoloco 😂😂😂😂😂

My dh is Pollyanna at home and loses the power of speech when we go to my mum's. Ok, I know Portsmouth isn't the most exciting of holiday destinations but he loves walking along the seafront and seeing the sea. We go every summer (live in Brussels) and the same thing happens every time. He sits in the chair saying nothing. When he thinks we are ready to go out (without asking if there is anything that needs doing to actually be ready to go out), he will go out to the car. If we don't come out after five minutes, he comes back in and sits back down in the chair. Still saying nothing. And then when we go out, we lose him at least half a dozen times! Thank god for mobile phones!

I had a word with him before we left this time and asked him not to do it and he still did it. He's not coming again (I've decided).

I am irrationally annoyed with M.JD. It's spoiling my enjoyment of mumsnet.

Oh fuck. That paragon of virtue Martin has turned up again to give us the benefit of his wisdom.

Kind regards

Alexa. SRN. BHS. M&S. Mouse Monitor 1962

My eyes slide past those messages. Like meditation, it can be learned.

Op I think you are in Crete...
It sounds very trying, you have my sympathies. Perhaps you are in fact on holiday with Martin JD, given the levels of contrariness he displays. Has your hubby taken to signing off with is initials and saying cheers! At the end of every emotional intelligence-free exchange?
Best regards
Tired BF

Nettletheel I'm ten years plus on him but if you want someone who'd love to be there then next time if yer need some ungrumblin company;)

OP I feel your pain. I was once lucky enough to have my sister offer to look after my hordes of DC and booked a last minute beach holiday for DH and I.

1. The sea was "too obvious"
2. The (famed, local) fish were "too fishy"
3. Wasn't it a shame that you couldn't see the planes flying over the hotel.

Also, Martin I currently have thrush.
It is probably receiving more of a warm welcome than you are on MN.

SWALK
KKAWT (Countess)

FFS. If we report Martin enough will MN kick him off?

FrancesTurpington their teeth!

petalflowers Well they do sound similar but can't be the same person- chatting to somebody on the beach is far too positive a story for my MIL to tell. On her last holiday they had one day of rain. I swear I only know what they did on that day (it was awful apparently). She didn't mention a single thing they did the rest of the time.

Every time I read "Cheers!" I have 🥂

Am rather dhitfsced now.

Oh thank you MNers, I am not alone and that makes me feel immeasurably better!
After over twenty years of tolerably good marriage I've just got back from a week of seriously contemplating divorce. My DH is usually pretty affable on holiday once we've had the obligatory Grumpy Day near the beginning of the break but this year the sod just couldn't seem to see the good bits for looking :-(

To be fair our family holidays are complicated and restrictive. They are carefully planned based on what we learned worked/didn’t work last year (not to mention booked by mutual discussion and agreement) due to an autistic, travel sick dc but the alternatives would be horrible for everyone, no matter how nice the location. I just wanted him to be able to enjoy some parts of our holiday (as I did) but he seemed resolutely determined to be unmoved by any nice things going on around him all week :-(

What's this new shit signing off with your initials?

OLB

WTAF

FWIW DH starts three (3) weeks of holiday as of today.

One of those is in a holiday cottage with his family. Say no more. Threads will be started, oh yes they will.

I've told him I plan on pedicures, coffee and cycling for a good amount of the time he's home for the other two weeks. I'm a SAHM and haven't had a break for seven frigging months.

He told me we have to do a deep clean of the house first

Sorry.

Regards,
OLB.

It is very clear to me that Martin isn't a man. It is most likely a regular female user. Kind of sad when you think about how crap their life must be to bother...

olb I hope that was 'we' the way the Queen uses it. Make it so.