Anybody else on holiday with a miserable bastard husband?

[Nettletheelf]

I seem to have found myself on holiday with Victor Meldrew. Tell me that I'm not the only one.

On a hot Mediterranean island suggested by DH. We return to the UK tomorrow, after a week's holiday. Just him and me: DSD and DSS are too old to go on holiday with us.

I'm 45, he's 52. Both very fit and healthy. Happily married, except on this holiday, when I have been tempted to murder him!

His complaints during the week have included the following:

1. Too hot. We're in the fecking mediterranean in August. Of course it's sodding hot.

1a. Too hot to sleep well, thus making him "a bit grumpy".

1. Beach too sandy (I HAVE NOT MADE THIS UP). Sand too fine and gets stuck to things, causing dismay.

1. Beach, specifically sand, too hot to walk on.

1. Has been "too full" to properly enjoy dinners at range of lovely restaurants.

1. Claimed to be 'delirious with the heat' today after leaving air conditioned coach for two hours in historic town.

1. We went on an organised long walk through an area of outstanding natural beauty, just up his street, I thought. He was disappointed in it. The gorge was "too stony".

1. Following gorge walk, his legs were "a bit sore" when descending stairs.

1. Foreign chocolate not up to UK standards.

1. World heritage site "a bit boring" and "just a load of stones".

10. Doesn't like "being told things by people" i.e. tour guide with expert knowledge of ruins.

Etc etc. I'll spare you the rest.

Is this inevitable? Do they all turn into whinging bastards? We know loads of them, and I always thought DH compared well. He doesn't!

It's enough to put me off going on holiday with him again.

Do I need to put LIGHT HEARTED, LIGHT HEARTED to prevent people telling me that my marriage is over and I should leave him? I have, just in case.

Tell me that I'm not the only one!!

M J.D. Some posters are more entertaining than others when they come on to derail a thread. You are not one of the entertaining ones.

You're in Cyprus aren't you?

August is insane there.

No, I'm usually the miserable bastard of the family - I love the concept of a holiday way more than the reality. Sand is always just a bit too sandy and it does get bloody hot. Gorges usually are a bit too stony tbh.

Is he the holiday organiser? Because I think that's where holidays go tits up for me - all everyone else has to do is get in the car and be driven to the airport. I'll have booked the flights, the accommodation, the car hire, printed off directions from airport to villa, identified nearest supermarket, found euro coins for the tolls, you name it. This makes me bitter and resentful and thus grumpy. Next year it's someone else's turn.

WineAndTiramisu: I can't talk for the OPs husband, but it's reasonable to expect seasonable weather and average temperatures for the location in question, is it not?

Best,
M.JD

Ha! I get 1, 1a, 2, 3, 11, 13, 14. Shall we send our DP/DH on holiday together next year Nettle?

Just a thought

Regards

Ms H Ra

Oh dear and he's only 45.....

I've got a GOM too (grumpy old man)

I have one of these, we definitely prefer different types of holidays but when I suggest we go separately with friends he gets all offended at the idea I don't want to spend time with him. I'm usually left to book holidays so I organise what I like and he has to put up with it.

You're on, SheRa!

I'm the one who is only 45. He's 52. Is 50 a watershed of narkiness, I wonder?

Jointly planned and organised holiday after he picked the location, so no source of resentment there I'm afraid!

Condensed milk? Surely not. Would anyone really put that in coffee?

My MIL is like this. If you ask about her holiday she'll tell you they had a lovely time but then only tell you about all the shit things that happened. Oh, and her recent birthday meal was ruined because her food (although delicious) was served on a wooden board and "I just can't stand scraping on a wooden board"

What the fuck Martin J.D are you 'regarding..Thats really annoying to read.As well as patronising.

Mines very similar. We are in Majorca atm and it is very hot

I make sure we go away with friends now so I have someone to have fun times with 🥂

martinJd WHY do you always put your initials after posting? It's really odd!

Best EBL

Obviouschild I went to school with Arabic girls who would add half a tin of condensed milk to their coffee. Then they would add 3 sugars no wonder there was a general health initiative about diabetes risk!!

The Southern Mediterranean is always hot in August, temperatures of up to 40 degrees. I have no sympathy for anyone who actively plans a trip to such a place in August and complains of heat.

AT, MD

dustarr73 : I'm not "regarding" anything?

Cheers!
M.JD

I'm sorry but I laughed too. My husband has a touch of this.

When I tell him to wind his neck and stop whinging in he gets all grumpy and says " just let me be, I don't know why you can't let me be" like he's five.

He also develops a desire to sleep all the time. At home he will be up till two in the morning and up at the crack of dawn, on holiday he wants to go to bed at nine, get up at nine for brekkie, go back to bed after brekkie till noon, spend a couple of hours out, go back to bed for a couple of hours late afternoon, then go out for dinner, back to room for nine and ready for bed.

Genuinely don't know why he doesn't just book a b&b up the road and sleep for two weeks. When I asked him that I got " why don't you just let me be...." sigh, apparantly the heat makes him tired.

We're due for a holiday row soon and we aren't going anywhere until October!

It'll feature one or more of the following topics:

Car packing
Route taken
Timings
Food
Activities (timings, appropriateness and levels of fun)

Ah i can't wait!

I adore the grumpy sod really

Obvious - is my dm your mil? You never hear about the actual holiday, but in great detail about the journey there and back, the weather, and the grumbles. And also how someone she met on the beach knows Jayne from tunbridge wells who we once knew donkey years ago.

@Ellieboolou27 He's doing it to edjumacate all us stupid wimmins about politeness. At least that was the implication I had from another thread.

I'm afraid my DH is a heat lover so it's usually me skulking around an airconditioned hotel room moaning. Which is why we very rarely go anywhere hotter than Devon, poor love.

Day 2 here.

Mine is 37 and he has a cold. We are getting hourly updates on his condition.

Also, the on-site Spar doesn't sell potato waffles. Again, he's 37.

"Sand too fine and gets stuck to things, causing dismay."

Very refreshing OP as I think most people have such high expectations of holidays and we are bombarded with Facebook posts of edited highlights of the 'fabulous time with that fam' from others that it can make you feel inferior when you go away and things aren't just tickety boo. My DH, who I am happily married to btw, gets ever so grumpy pre holiday because he's a planner and an 'arrive too early' person and I'm a bit more laid back so we clash. I only have to see the 'holiday folder' make an appearance and I feel like a naughty teenager again wanting to drag my heels!

You mean educate?

Cheers!
M.JD

Hahahahaha yes, Bluntness, we have the early bedtime too. Had to put my foot down and tell him that I was not going back to the hotel at 9.30 pm during my summer holiday. Had to watch him sit outside a bar moaning that he didn't like the local beer.

Also, my DH, like yours, would happily spend every afternoon sitting around reading in the hotel room, with the curtains closed, from 2 pm to 7 pm inclusive. What is it with them?