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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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emwithme · 07/08/2017 09:21

You cannot beat a baby/toddler in a kilt. Wee boys in kilts and sporrans need to have their tiny sporrans emptied several times because drunk old people me keep putting money in them.

I'm not particularly a fan of grown men in kilts, there's far too much "unintentional" bum/ball flashing (but that could just be representative of the kilt-wearers of my acquaintance)

LagunaBubbles · 07/08/2017 09:22

Do we really need the endless use of 'wee'?

Very rude. You dont get to dictate on a world wide forum how others who are Scottish speak on the internet Im afraid, if you cant handle that maybe you shouldnt be here.

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 07/08/2017 09:23

I have a hobby that involves spending a lot of time with men in kilts/trews/tartan in general. I think trews are much better and easier to pull off for all ages. I don't think kilts or trews look smart on enough on an adult unless you commit to it, either- black tie or full lace jabot etc. Either that or worn a la Prince Charles with tweeds. For your DS, If you really want to or are ordered to do a kilt, get him a ghillie shirt, much comfier for a toddler! But personally, I'd say tartan trews, white shirt and dicky bow are the least nappy-revealing option if you must.

I'm also now going to spend the day singing Maris Wedding Grin

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 07/08/2017 09:24

I'm feeling unsympathetic, OP as I have spent the last few weeks putting together a steampunk outfit for my 2 year old for a wedding! A kilt would be almost too easy.

Gieitlaldy · 07/08/2017 09:25

Get the impression the OP is off sulking somewhere as she didn't get the response she wanted..

Haste ye back OP!

teabagsmummy · 07/08/2017 09:25

when my ds was 2 he wore a kilt to my best freinds wedding he was adorable, i got the kilt and sporran for £22 from a shop up the royal mile in Edinburgh he just wore white socks from gap and his kickers.He kept getting his photo from all the tourists who thought he was adorable

MidnightAura · 07/08/2017 09:26

I think yabu! It's a kilt, what's wrong with that? Any outfit you buy your DS he will outgrow quickly. If your DH is keen on it, I think that should be taken into consideration.

We didn't have kilts at my wedding but wouldn't have bothered us had anyone worn one.

Gieitlaldy · 07/08/2017 09:31

I love Indian weddings, gives me a chance to wear a sari.

RiverTam · 07/08/2017 09:32

She hasn't got the response she 'wanted' because, as soup pointed out, when it's a kilt rather than anything else, a bridezilla dictating what 50% of her guests wear is tolerated. Which says quite a lot about some of the people on this thread.

Neutrogena · 07/08/2017 09:33

YANBU - ridiculous suggestion from bride and groom.
No-one cares what a 2 yr old would wear.
Dress him how you want (or even better, don't take him and then you can have fun without worrying about the wee mite)

NauticalDisaster · 07/08/2017 09:35

YABU - your son should wear a kilt. It's not expensive to buy one for a 2 year old and potty training isn't suddenly harder in a kilt than trousers. You are just looking for excuses not to put him in a kilt.

And to the pp who said she would never let get husband wear a kilt, hiw about letting your husband decide by himself what he wants to wear? Being a grown man and all!

EmotionalTeaspoon · 07/08/2017 09:36

Well, so far no idea why OP doesn't like kilts, whether her DH has (been allowed to have) an opinion on this or whether it's the kilt itself or the fact that if someone tells her to do something she'd rather do the exact opposite that's the issue. Be interesting to know.

Also, what's with everyone saying 'little'? We get it, you're EnglishWink

Cough you're not related to the poster on another thread who felt uncomfortable about people speaking Welsh in Wales?

squoosh · 07/08/2017 09:37

We didn't have kilts at my wedding but wouldn't have bothered us had anyone worn one.

Well yes. Because it would have been a bit diva like to demand that men wear trousers only...

BewareOfDragons · 07/08/2017 09:38

He'll look adorable, and children's kilts are very inexpensive. My DH is Scottish; I am not. My boys wore little kilts to special events when they were tiny ... they were adorable. It's a Scottish thing. You married a Scot. Get a grip.

Ceto · 07/08/2017 09:40

"And yes, I also do not like doing it just because someone said so."

That's daft. Do you also not like turning up on time for weddings "just because someone said so"? No-one is making you go or take your child. But if you're accepting their hospitality it's only polite to go along with what they want to help them make their day a good one.

SoupDragon · 07/08/2017 09:40

We didn't have kilts at my wedding but wouldn't have bothered us had anyone worn one.

Well yes. Because it would have been a bit diva like to demand that men wear trousers only...

LOLOL

BlondeB83 · 07/08/2017 09:41

He will look gorgeous!

RiverTam · 07/08/2017 09:44

So it's diva-like to insist men wear trousers (has any bride ever done that?) bit not to insist they wear a skirt? Riiiighhhht.

RiverTam · 07/08/2017 09:45

Sorry, I used skirt again, and that time it was an genuine mistake Blush! I need another cup of tea.

SoupDragon · 07/08/2017 09:45

I think you missed the point.

squoosh · 07/08/2017 09:47

Yes. It is diva like to say male guests must wear a kilt just as it would be diva like to ban kilts and say only trousers can be worn.

Simple logic.

SoupDragon · 07/08/2017 09:47

Which was that insisting a man wear either is behaving like a diva.

CoughLaughFart · 07/08/2017 09:48

You dont get to dictate on a world wide forum how others who are Scottish speak on the internet Im afraid, if you cant handle that maybe you shouldnt be here.

That's a bit OTT isn't it? I don't think expressing a distaste for something means I 'can't handle it'. Anyway, everyone has disagreed with me, so I doubt anyone is feeling dictated to!

SoupDragon · 07/08/2017 09:48

I don't actually have a problem with dress codes.

However, this thread has gone completely against the normal run of wedding dress code threads for some reason.

AvoidingCallenetics · 07/08/2017 09:50

Generally I don't think brides/grooms should make requests that cost their guests extra money. Most men have a suit, so that keeps the cost down and frees up more money for women to spend on their outfits.
I guess if most Scottish men own kilts as standard then it's not such a big ask of Scottish guests, but I don't know if they do.

I think it's probably okay for the bride to ask Scottish guests,but not get pissy if guests elect not to. I think it isn't reasonable to ask non Scottish men. I think people do have a right to choose their own clothes.

That said, the OP's little boy is half Scottish, she can get a kilt without it costing a bomb, so I'd be inclined to just mske the eoman happy and do it.

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