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AIBU?

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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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scrabbler3 · 07/08/2017 08:39

I'd buy one on eBay and then sell it on afterwards (put a nappy on him). I bet he'll look fab. I think it's the respectful thing to do. Tartan trousers/waistcoat is an ok compromise but does look a bit like lip service tbh.

tomatopuree · 07/08/2017 08:39

Why do they call it a kilt....? Because that's what happened to the last person who called it a skirt

RiverTam · 07/08/2017 08:40

No. Are you being deliberately obtuse? The point I was making is that that is the impression I'm getting from the OP is that she regards it as a skirt and she doesn't want her son in it. Sorry for not putting that in words of one syllable.

MeanAger · 07/08/2017 08:41

A load of the weans will be in kilts.

ButchyRestingFace · 07/08/2017 08:43

My favourite Scottish word is shoogle, use it all the the time 'jist gie it a wee shoogle'

Yer coat is hingin' on a very shoogly peg the now.

FlyingElbows · 07/08/2017 08:45

Hunners ae wee weans!

Another good Scottish word is "awayantikafucktaeyersel" which should be fired straight at anyone who complains that those pesky Scotch (aaarrrgghhhhh) are being a bit too Scottish!

My husband looks fucking great in a kilt. Just thought I'd share that.

MiladyThesaurus · 07/08/2017 08:45

If MeanAnger is right (and I think she is) and it's the OP's SIL getting married, then I'd imagine it's not a request that's gone beyond the family. So all men and boys, probably only refers to her father, brother(s), and nephews.

Both my children wore kilts to my sister's wedding. DS2 was nearly 2 and looked adorable. DS1 was about 11 and also looked great. (English) DH didn't mind at all, although he wore a suit.

I got round the itchy kilt and socks thing for DS2 by putting him in tights under the kilt.

RitaMills · 07/08/2017 08:45

Kilts are great, little boys in kilts are adorable and I like tartan trousers. It is a new one being told off for the use of 'wee' I use it all the time on MN, even on non Scottish related threads. I'm Scottish and I tend to write how I talk on somewhere as non formal as a forum.

And to the poster who wouldn't allow their grown up man of a husband to wear a kilt WTAF? Does he tell you how to dress too or is is just one sided?

SoupDragon · 07/08/2017 08:47

This thread is hilarious. Most other threads where a couple have specified a strict dress code would be full of people shouting "bridezilla!" and saying that you shouldn't dictate what people wear.

But because this is a kilt all is absolutely fine.

As an aside, I think a 2 year old looks seriously cute in any formal wear, there's nothing about a kilt that makes them look cuter.

Writerwannabe83 · 07/08/2017 08:53

This thread is hilarious. Most other threads where a couple have specified a strict dress code would be full of people shouting "bridezilla!" and saying that you shouldn't dictate what people wear. But because this is a kilt all is absolutely fine.

100% agree and thought the exact same thing as soon as I read the original post.

I've even seen some comments on MN that unless the bride pays for the bridesmaid dresses she has no right to enforce a dress code on them and and many have agreed...

Why can kilts be enforced on MN but any other kind of dress code instruction is laughed at and labelled as entitled and Bridezilla like?

Everyone's YABUs are confusing me because they go against a typical MN Ethos about wedding etiquette and enforced dress codes.

I'm with you OP - if someone wanted me to dress my child a certain way for a wedding (especially seeing as he's only a normal guest) then I'd be telling them to bog off unless they were prepared to pay for his 'required' outfit.

llangennith · 07/08/2017 08:54

Ah so it's an attitude problem. You don't like being told that to.do. Well it's not your wedding and if you've been invited by virtue of being married to your DH then be courteous enough to honour the bride's wishes.
Oh, and try to bring up your DS with a better attitude.

MeanAger · 07/08/2017 08:54

there's nothing about a kilt that makes them look cuter.

Ahh surely it's the wee chubby knees?

Notreallyarsed · 07/08/2017 08:55

Lovely anti Scottish snidey remarks throughout this thread

OP, I reckon your DH has a choice in this too. Or he should, it's not just your choice. If you're worried about your wee one being uncomfortable it's easy enough to get a kilt with a ghillie shirt (the shirt with laces instead of buttons) and you don't have to get brogues, he can wear his own shoes.

CloudNinetyNine · 07/08/2017 08:58

Don't dress him in a kilt and sit out any Scottish ceilidh dances - that'll learn them!

squoosh · 07/08/2017 08:59

if you've been invited by virtue of being married to your DH then be courteous enough to honour the bride's wishes.
Oh, and try to bring up your DS with a better attitude.

Take the stick out of your bahookie.

KentMum2008 · 07/08/2017 09:07

DH is Scottish, I'm English and when we got married he wore a kilt. My (English) DS age 8 also wore one and was hands down the cutest fuckin thing you've ever seen in your life. What is your objection to them? It's one day, take some trousers for DS to change into after the ceremony if you wish. But trust me, he'll look so bloody adorable you won't want him to.
DH paid quite a bit of money for his and DS kilt, but it was our wedding so we didn't mind. There were plenty of much cheaper alternatives on eBay, or you could hire one.

For what it's worth, DH looked unbelievably hot in his kilt, I've genuinely never fancied him so much as I did that day. Can't wait for the next family wedding so he can wear it again

StatueInTheSky · 07/08/2017 09:08

i reckon the GF should awa an' bile her heid

and maybe the OP should join in...she's obviously spoiling for a fight!

Small boys in kilts are always, without fail, the hit of any wedding. My two boys, plus dd on one occasion fairly stole the show...kilts, jacobean shirts, and a fancy white blouse for dd.

anon333222111 · 07/08/2017 09:10

Ahhhh! He'll look so cute! What's wrong with buying the flipping kilt! You don't have to buy a super expensive one! U can pick them up for antenna!

Sorry OP, but YABU!!

anon333222111 · 07/08/2017 09:11

'a tenna' not 'antenna'!!!

KentMum2008 · 07/08/2017 09:11

Also, totally don't get all the anti-Scottishness either. DH moved to England when he was 13 and has more or less lost his accent. But occasionally, when he's either pissed off, pissed or when we're, you know, doing it the accent comes back. And it's hot as hell.

StatueInTheSky · 07/08/2017 09:13

i was chortling at all the lovely scottish suggestions and explained to dh...he offered

"awa an' tek yer face fer a shite!"

for a suitable retort.

FrancisCrawford · 07/08/2017 09:14

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NikiBabe · 07/08/2017 09:15

Why do they call it a kilt....? Because that's what happened to the last person who called it a skirt

Brilliant!

How much would a smart outfit for a wedding cost anyway op?

I cant believe how belligerent the op is being over one day when she'd have to spend money on a smart outfit anyway.

squoosh · 07/08/2017 09:15

Is she being belligerent though or are you exaggerating?

Notreallyarsed · 07/08/2017 09:19

Dinnae fache yirself, hen

Oh I've not heard that since my grannie was alive you've made my day!

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