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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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fevversbetterout · 08/08/2017 20:03

Och, c'moan. Let wee BridieMczilla have her day. It's easy to get a kilt cheap. After all, your compatriots are dragging her country out of the EU. A wee price to pay, don't you think?

Borodin · 08/08/2017 20:03

Booboo66

I don't think the bride is dictating, she's asking as she has a dream of the men and boys in kilts in her photos.

No. The OP says this

Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children.

3out · 08/08/2017 20:07

I love kilts. DH (also Scottish) does not. He refused to wear one for our wedding, and that's totally fine.

DS was part of our friend's wedding party and wore the full outfit (14 months). He looked fantastic!

I wouldn't expect everyone to wear a kilt though, especially if they have no Scottish connections. In fact, it would be looked on quite badly here and would illicit a response of 'who the does he think he is, wearing a kilt? He's got no right to wear a kilt. He's not Scottish'

pinkstripeycat · 08/08/2017 20:08

We are never likely to get invited to a Scottish wedding and I am so jealous - I love a kilt and on a little one will look adorable. Sounds as though there are plenty of options to hire or buy cheaply. Go on OP take the plunge - get your boy a kilt - you might wish later that you had (especially when you see the photos)

Is that what a sporran is for - money? I didn't know that. You learn something new every day

Borodin · 08/08/2017 20:10

Ohbehave1

It's the B&G day. Why not, just for once, think of what they want for their big day rather than the fact you "don't like being told what to do" hmm

The OP never mentions that she doesn't like to be told what to do, and I wonder why you brought it up? She mentions the cost and the lack of reuse, but the problem seems to lie in "Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding?" which I wholeheartedly agree with.

fevversbetterout · 08/08/2017 20:21

Borodin, the op says this: DH doesn't have a kilt so he would have to buy or hire one for himself. Wedding is in another country so if we hire it's not like we can return them the very next day and I think they charge per day? Also I am not expecting DS to be fully potty trained by then and if he has an accident that kilt would be ruined. And yes, I also do not like doing it just because someone said so.

Ohbehave1 · 08/08/2017 20:22

Borodin.

DH doesn't have a kilt so he would have to buy or hire one for himself. Wedding is in another country so if we hire it's not like we can return them the very next day and I think they charge per day? Also I am not expecting DS to be fully potty trained by then and if he has an accident that kilt would be ruined. And yes, I also do not like doing it just because someone said so.

Read the last line, which is really what this whole
post boils down to.

Benedikte2 · 08/08/2017 20:23

What fevversbetterout says!
It's doubtful Bride is insisting unless she's said either wear a kilt or don't bother to come. Or maybe the wearing of kilts is compulsory!
Or maybe the OP feels the wearing of a kilt will emasculate her DS?
As other posters have said "wee" is frequently used in NZ where there was a large presence of Scots and Irish in colonial days.

Booboo66 · 08/08/2017 20:24

Is she really 'insisting' though or has she just requested it and OP has described as insisting as she doesn't want to

Aibe · 08/08/2017 20:29

I love seeing people in kilts (I'm Scottish DH is English) we went to a christening and put our 3 month old in a kilt. we just borrowed one from a friend and put it with a wee shirt, waistcoat and tie with little timberlands... he was so flipping cuuuute! DH wasnt keen on a kilt at first but he loved him in a kilt in the end. 😁 you can also rent kilts if that helps 😁

manicmij · 08/08/2017 20:35

Being Scottish My view is that the bride is being ridiculous expecting all males to wear a kilt. Why is she not I dusting females wear a long white floaty dress with a tartan sash. Or is this some very posh affair in one of the elite hotels and the bride is trying to impress goodness k owe who! Personally I wouldn't bother either hiring or buying unless my choice.

ClamBakeSnake · 08/08/2017 20:37

Very sexy Hoolie. I bet a lot of single ladies got lucky that night.

KennethCat · 08/08/2017 20:37

I'd far rather see a toddler in a kilt than trussed up in a suit. They always look so uncomfortable ridiculous and the suits are invariably way too big , trousers turned up about twenty times and inevitably a hot, uncomfortable, child. But the parents think their offspring look so adorable. They are wrong.

ClamBakeSnake · 08/08/2017 20:39

I'm a Pearly Queen. I insisted everyone dress like this at my wedding.

Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?
fevversbetterout · 08/08/2017 20:40

pinkstripeycat My dad,(Scot) told me the sporran was for keeping your oatmeal dry in, but he often said whatever came into his head, for a laugh. He had to wear the kilt for the first time to a cousin of mine's wedding, twenty odd years ago. Much harrumphing ensued, till we squeezed him into the hired kit. He went off and bought the full monty afterwards. Looked great on him. If there's a scrape of Scots in your family background, put your lad in a kilt, if you and he like.

ClamBakeSnake · 08/08/2017 20:40

But the parents think their offspring look so adorable. They are wrong.

Same with parents who put their tiny child in a kilt. It looks ridiculous. Put them in a pair of trousers and a nice top. Job done.

givemestrengthfella · 08/08/2017 20:42

Get your wee boy a wee kilt. And kilt socks. The cutest thing IN THE WORLD is kilt socks on wee chubby legs. Fact.

My two wore kilts to a family wedding when they were 2 and 4. They came away with £40 each in their sporrans, so that more than covered the kilt hire and they got a trip to the toy shop!

Also, all men, no matter what height, shape or size, look bloody fantastic in a kilt so I'm sure your DH will look super handsome.

Win-win situation! Go the whole hog and get yersel a tartan sash while you're at it! Grin

Original poster
PinkyPie2012 · 08/08/2017 20:42

DS will be the only toddler boy at the wedding. Other boys will be older, in their teens I think. I don't like kilts just like I don't like men wearing sandals with socks. I don't think it's cute or adorable. I don't know many people who want to spend money on something they don't like (even if it's cheap kilt from ebay).

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lynney88 · 08/08/2017 20:45

So you don't accept your DHs and this your DSs heritage? Plus the bride has requested this as it's also part of her heritage- she's not asked you to jump off a bridge.

YABU

lynney88 · 08/08/2017 20:45

Thus*

fevversbetterout · 08/08/2017 20:51

Pinky, Ha! sandals and socks are not the same as the kilt at a wedding. You stated that it is a Scottish wedding. If you can't get onboard with it, just don't. I think you're a bit unreasonable, but I'm just an unknown on MN, as are you. What a fuss. I hope the bride isn't your sister in law to be.

ClamBakeSnake · 08/08/2017 20:52

How did all the poor Scots cope with respecting their heritage before wearing kilts to weddings became de rigueur a couple of decades ago?

Notrightnowww · 08/08/2017 20:54

Booboo66

"she has a dream of the men and boys in kilts in her photos"

Ah, but at a Scottish wedding there is always a 'kilts' photo - the bride and all the men/boys in kilts. One photo. Looks fab. Doesn't dictate what everyone wears to the wedding - if you're not in a kilt, you're not in that photo!

fevversbetterout · 08/08/2017 20:55

givemestrengthfella, you're not wrong aboot blokes in kilts - all shapes and sizes..

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