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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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allthegoodusernameshavegone · 08/08/2017 18:46

Get a baby sitter and have a great child free event with lots of fizz !!

ittakes2 · 08/08/2017 18:48

Wow really? I'm sure you could get a cheap one on ebay or elsewhere. YABU

caoraich · 08/08/2017 18:57

Is the wedding in Scotland?

If so, I recommend you wait until you get there and seek out the nearest Tourist Tat shop when you arrive. I recently picked up a 3yo kilt plus socks for the princely sum of £3.99 in the shop on the way out of Waverley. It was a silly souvenir for a friend's kid, but to be honest would be absolutely fine for a wee one at a wedding. Nice soft cotton as well, so much more appropriate. The tartan wasn't one I recognised but that doesn't really matter. Just get a regular shirt which you can re-use for any other smart events while it still fits.

Borodin · 08/08/2017 18:59

TennisAtXmas and JustCarefullyAirbrushedPotato

I'm guessing not, because they aren't people, and there's no tradition that I'm aware of, for dogs wearing tartan.

My point is that there's no tradition of either two-year-olds or dogs wearing a kilt. To my knowledge, that is.

Are you comparing children to dogs?

I'm saying that surely the little boy can wear "normal" clothes if even the dog is allowed to?

MuvaWifey77 · 08/08/2017 19:00

My son wears it every year for Hogmanay at Gleneagles . He hates it ! lol he's 6 though so he wears a proper heavy one with al the attire like daddy.
But if you don't want your own child to wear something then don't .
He is so young, there shouldn't be the need of him wearing an specific attire. In my opinion when it comes to our own children unless you are putting them at risk then nothing is unreasonable it's yours , mums know best.

fatimashortbread · 08/08/2017 19:00

If the wedding is in the US you should be able to hire a kilt outfit for your husband we only took my son's kilt outfit (12 year old ds). Cheap kilts for the 2 year old are available online.

ceecee32 · 08/08/2017 19:03

If your DH is wearing a kilt it would be lovely for him to be like his dad.

BettyFrillyKnickers · 08/08/2017 19:03

I have no Scottish heritage in my family. What excuse can i use to dress my wee DS is a cute wee kilt?

We also have no formal occasions coming up. Sad

Those photos posted of toddlers in kilts are ADORABLE!

Borodin · 08/08/2017 19:10

I'm sorry Whiterabbitears a couple of people have misunderstood me, so perhaps I'm being cryptic today.

I disagree borodin it IS heritage and its not day to day, just for a few hours. I also think describing Scottish dress as 'fancy dress' is a bit rude.

My point is that it's not heritage for two-year-olds and I agree with others that I don't like seeing the very young in adult clothing. Toddler girls in bikini's, anyone? It's fine for the grown men. Proper kilts were worn into battle, but they were nothing like the elasticated tartan skirt that this little boy will probably be dressed in.

I'm not sure either what dogs wearing tartan has to do with anything, that's not traditional at Scottish weddings is it? Unlike men and boys?

I've already explained this one. Neither two-year-olds nor dogs traditionally wore kilts, and it makes as much sense to me to dress the boy that way as it would to give dogs the same treatment.

ItsNachoCheese · 08/08/2017 19:19

Yabu whats not to like about children in kilts? They look adorable. Here is my ds trying his on for a wedding we went to last year.

Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?
Borodin · 08/08/2017 19:19

Those photos posted of toddlers in kilts are ADORABLE!

I'm sorry to go off-topic, but how is that different from the objectification that feminists complain about? Those boys are much more than cut-out paper dolls for us to dress up and gush about.

Lyle49 · 08/08/2017 19:20

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Judydreamsofhorses · 08/08/2017 19:20

I'm Scottish and always think it looks odd seeing men not in kilts at weddings here. One of my friends married a Londoner and his friends all wore tails to the wedding - the photos look like two different parties have merged together.

(I say "wee" a lot too. At work "hang on a wee second" is one of my most-used phrases in the classroom.)

Frazzled50yrold · 08/08/2017 19:22

Boden tartan trousers are gorgeous, could they be a reserve choice , my boys loved them

Lyle49 · 08/08/2017 19:23

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Figgygal · 08/08/2017 19:23

I'm Scottish my husband is English and we live in England we went to a wedding last year up in Scotland and ds got to wear a kilt he looked amazing and loved it he still talks about it. I think it's a bit ott them demanding all male guests wear one not everyone likes them (and you're entitled not too) but if that's what they want sorry it's their wedding and you should respect that

Figgygal · 08/08/2017 19:26

Oh and you can hire the whole thing really easy from slaters that's what we did

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/08/2017 19:28

Why don't you like kilts OP? Is there actually a reason?

Touchmybum · 08/08/2017 19:31

N Irish here and we say "wee" a lot; it is the most versatile adjective. I know there are others, but I like "wee". Not as much as some though; you could go into a hairdresser's and the conversation could go thus:

Hairdresser: Be with you in a wee minute.
Customer: Thanks.
Hairdresser: I'll just put a wee gown and a wee towel on you there, can you come over and sit at the wee basin.
Hairdresser: Hope the water's not too hot on your wee head. Do you want a wee drop of conditioner?

Or in a shop:

Cashier: Is that everything for you? Would you like a wee bag? Here's your wee change.

Let your wee boy wear the wee kilt, OP. You may not be Scottish but there's Scottish blood in the wean's veins!

Touchmybum · 08/08/2017 19:32

Oh and in north Antrim, one would say, "houl on a wee minute" instead of "hang on a wee second" :)

mummmy2017 · 08/08/2017 19:34

Playing Devils Advocate here.
Will he be the youngest walking boy of the group?
Will you be Ok, if all the other boys wear the kilts and get fused over more than your son?
I know little boys look cute in anything, so what ever you want him to wear is fine, but a kilt means you don't have to hunt for an outfit style for him as it will be buy it and let him wear it.

Notrightnowww · 08/08/2017 19:40

YANBU.

I'm Scottish, I think wee boys are cute in kilts. What is unreasonable is the couple getting married dictating what the guests wear! Especially if not 100% Scottish!

Winniethepee · 08/08/2017 19:44

Acht......yabu......get him a kilt. Research best deal and get it for less than twenty quid.
You're respecting a cultural tradition and getting invaluable photos for adolescent tormenting.

Booboo66 · 08/08/2017 19:56

I don't think the bride is dictating, she's asking as she has a dream of the men and boys in kilts in her photos. If the child has an accident the kilt won't be any more ruined than any other outfit in fact possibly less so than trousers. Kilts for a 2 year old are inexpensive so don't see any reason really why you'd refuse!

Ohbehave1 · 08/08/2017 19:59

Yet another moaning wedding post.

It's the B&G day. Why not, just for once, think of what they want for their big day rather than the fact you "don't like being told what to do"Hmm