Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

[PinkyPie2012]

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

It's Kimmy. That was one of her least "interesting" posts.

Oh is that her thing, telling people they need therapy? As they say in Maryhill, 'what a pure bawbag'.

Oh is that her thing, telling people they need therapy?

No, I found that refreshingly mild compared to some of her efforts.

Ah that's sweet Butchy. The thought of cock stained kilts must have brought out get softer side.

Spoke to my DH, he will be wearing a kilt, I never said he can't btw. He also suggested we get a kilt for DS but it wouldn't be the end of the world if he doesn't wear one. I am certainly not some tradition hater full of attitude and what not, I just don't like kilts, personal preference. I think 2 year old boy will look cute and adorable also in suit or any other smart outfit and he definitely won't ruin a wedding day for bride and groom if he doesn't wear a kilt.
Anyway, we haven't decided on the outfit for DS yet, will do it when it comes closer to time.
Thanks for the input and opinions.

@PinkyPie2012 it was another poster on the thread who said she wouldn't let her husband wear a kilt, it was clear from your OP you didn't say that.

Small children are soooooooo cute. Mine loved it because my relatives were stuffing money in their sporrans! I did have to bribe them to put it on though.

Got mine from here www.littlelegsbabykilts.co.uk/Home.html

Isn't saying kilts will be worn establishing the dress code?

In an English wedding everyone knows it is probably morning suits for the wedding party / wedding guest dresses etc.

At a Scottish wedding it seems normal formal wedding wear for men to wear kilts.

It's establishing the cultural dress code. Not at all like telling all women to wear pink for the photos.

My kids often wore outfits from DH's culture for his family's formal occasions. It goes with being a multi cultural family.

He's not a man! He's a toddler. Dress him how you wish.
I'd go with new cloth (not tshirty) soft comfortable trousers, BECAUSE HES A TODDLER NOT A DOLL. & a shirt, to look smart ish!
With the obvious spare bag of changes!
He'll probably pull faces or refuse to look at a camera for formal shots anyway and will naturally look cute if people pay him some attention.

Weddings have dress codes. I wouldn't be at all surprised to be asked to wear a sari to a Hindi wedding (I'd expect guidance on getting one or lending of some). It's completely different from being told to wear a particular unflattering shade of salmon pink satin which seems to be what other posters are comparing it to.

Bit surprised by reactions. Normally B&G insisting on guests wearing specific item is controlling and overbearing. However because its a kilt and it will look cute you should go along with their batshit crazy request.

He should wear what you and your dh want him to wear

All this it cost too much (ask Scottish relatives to pick a cheap one) and he might have an accident (surely you'd put him in pull ups) are a just a very unsubtle way of saying you don't want to.

If you feel so strongly, you do have the option of declining the invitation.

I cant wait for the next bridezilla/groomzilla thread where dress is dictated by B&G and the majority of MN get annoyed and say how very dare they dictate what guests wear to their wedding

A lot. of double standards going on here

I fully get your need to spam, but at least make it consistent Cindya1

What does your cousins teachers daughters budgie make per hour?

😂

And does she make kilts?

I'd let my son wear one. I think they are lovely.

YABU and you know it.

Just hire it. My 2 yo looked adorable in his. Anyway, I doubt they're insisting. On my invitations I had wording something like, the bride kindly requests men to attend resplendent in tartan, but i didn't give a shit where people didn't. As our family is mostly Scottish, the majority did and would have anyway.

YANBU and you know it.

Total double standard because the garment in question is a kilt and everyone looks lovely in a kilt. Which is laughably untrue.

your son is half scottish. Wearing a kilt is none negotiable! Let him & DH share their tradition with pride

Id hire one he will look adorable

I'm Scottish and would insist on kilts for the men and boys for my wedding also.. It's a Scottish tradition and many other people add traditions to their weddings also.. My son is in a kilt at every opportunity because we find he looks so cute.. His last kilt was £19.99 from eBay and much cheaper than a trouser suit.. Very good quality too.. It's their big day and they deserve effort and to have their wishes met.. You might melt when you see your wee one in a kilt :) xx

In answer to your question OP, YES you are being unreasonable. Your son is half Scottish, his dad will be wearing a kilt, why, oh why, are you trying to exclude your son from his heritage? Buy him a little kilt, it costs less than £20, and allow him to have photographs of the day to look at when he is older.