My girlfriend ditches my hen to go with husband to stag do: AIBU to consider dis-inviting them to the wedding?

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Still trying to process but there it is. Last night was my hen do. Same time as my DHTB stag. All arranged long ago in my home town. Said friend invited to hen do, her DH to stag. They don't know my DHTB well but we have been friends since late teens (am 30yrs old). Her husband confirmed stag do attendance straight away. She made excuses (kids, etc) reg my hen. Today I find from other stags, etc that she actually tagged along with her DH with the stags?!? The only one there not a stripper and a wife, etc. Feel terrible, since they are essentially MY friends, but I had no idea. Just feel like picking up the phone and telling them to get lost and not bother coming to the wedding now... AIBU?

Was her DP not mortified that she invaded ruined the stag do?

Why is Martin a cunt, what have I missed?

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My DP feels bad for me, but says otherwise thought it was funny and felt sorry for the guy. Other friends were quite pissed off, though.

She ditched you and lied etc and went to stag do instead and ruined it for your STBDH and all the others. Cah. Change her invite to evening only.

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I think id definitely text back and say that 'actually, love, the blokes all felt very awkward and felt that the dynamic of the evening was ruined. Why did you fucking do this, you self obsessed bitch? PS: You're no longer invited to my wedding, you weirdo'.

I mean, feel free to edit, but that's pretty much what I'd be thinking.

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Ah she's one of those...
I wonder why she doesn't have alot of female friends

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OP so did she just rock up like 'hi guys!' with no explanation? The mind boggles!

Sit them next to the loos

Or alternatively .... she just prefairs the company of her partner to yours, perhaps she finds the idea of spending the evening with you or your friends not as interesting as spending it with the "lads".

Either way the fact that your are now considering "dis-inviting" her from your wedding is infantile and suggests that you're quite child like, which may explain her actions.

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SL Parasite.

This would have really annoyed me OP. Good luck resolving it amicably

And in conclusion. She is cray cray

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Mrs D

You could just text back - Well I was hoping you'd have come on the hen night, seeing as I invited you and you managed to get childcare sorted.

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Sack the doss cunt!!! Toxic waste at its best.

Yours in henship,
SBV

Definitely ask her why she decided to rock up to DP's do completely uninvited - 'not liking doing things separately' is utter bullshit

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But what does your dh say about it all?
Does he want them off the wedding list now?

Perhaps hook her up with Martin?

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This is truly bizarre behaviour on her part. DP was at a stag yesterday, there's no way on earth I'd have invited myself along?!

You have to tell her it was weird and everyone felt awkward and embarrassed for her. It will feel horrid but she can't go through life thinking this is acceptable behaviour.

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'Many reports'?

Wow

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Totally cringeworthy behaviour, I'd be embarassed for her, but she clearly has the hide of a rhino.
I'm certainly more embarassed for her DH. He'll never live it down!

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Probably not relevant, but if she is a long time friend of yours and they don't know your DP well, why did her partner immediately agree to go on the stag do and she was left to deal with childcare? Surely she should have got first dibs on going out. Maybe she crashed his night out as revenge!

winewolfhowls thanks for the suggestion but don't think she's on mumsnet. Plus, not sure I'd wish him on anyone! My DHTB is very laid back, so in a way, not much help... Wedding is next Saturday, so already feel a bit emotional, overwhelmed and hangover Loosing friends of 15 years on top of that is making me feel physically sick (nothing to do with last "hen" night, of course).