My girlfriend ditches my hen to go with husband to stag do: AIBU to consider dis-inviting them to the wedding?

[Restlessandwild]

Still trying to process but there it is. Last night was my hen do. Same time as my DHTB stag. All arranged long ago in my home town. Said friend invited to hen do, her DH to stag. They don't know my DHTB well but we have been friends since late teens (am 30yrs old). Her husband confirmed stag do attendance straight away. She made excuses (kids, etc) reg my hen. Today I find from other stags, etc that she actually tagged along with her DH with the stags?!? The only one there not a stripper and a wife, etc. Feel terrible, since they are essentially MY friends, but I had no idea. Just feel like picking up the phone and telling them to get lost and not bother coming to the wedding now... AIBU?

[not2impressed]

I fail to see why you would dis-invite her? Would she not just rock up uninvited anyway.

[Tandia]

I don't understand how she had childcare issues prior to the hen, but her dh accepted the invite to the stag? If she's your friend and he is only friends with your df because of her relationship with you, why was he not staying home with the kids? Are they not his kids? If they are, that speaks volumes about their relationship.

I hope we will still get to hear the outcome of this despite the daily fail sticking their shitty noses in.

[Wonders71]

I can just see my husbands face if i said i was going to go out with him and his mates on a stag do! What kind of person does that!

W.71

[Wonders71]

I can just see my husbands face if i said i was going to go out with him and his mates on a stag do! What kind of person does that!

W.71

[MsJolly]

Oh dear...

[FamaLamaDingDong]

m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1658541667513291&id=115060728528067

Also on yahoo via Facebook

I hope their posting hasnt caused uneccessary upset for op

[MsJolly]

No return.com?

[MsJolly]

Have you responded this morning OP?

Yours adoringly,

MsJolly
F.U.C.K.O.F.F.D.A.I.L.Y.F.A.I.L.W.A.N.K.E.R.S
Sixer (Pixes); Piano (grade 3)

[rightwhine]

I hate it when the op never comes back.

[DooRight]

Placemarking

Rgds
Mr D Right (Owner - "Dog the Judge would most like to take home" [3rd])

[Hmmalittlefishy]

I have a colleague who comes as a pair (of twats) and always invites her 'd' h to every occasion. I could see him making a hen do very awkward or vice versa.
This close to the wedding its more hassle for you to uninvite. I would stick them on the toilet table not Sat next to each other and ask one of your friends to intercept with 'important bride business' if she tries to speak to you.
Have a good wedding

Kind regards
H. M. Fishy

1. O.W.L.S. 6 N. E. W.T.S. Quidditch captain 2001

[HistoriaTrixie]

"we just don't like to do anything separately"

Yeah RIGHT. Do they by chance have one of those couples FB pages, like, for ex, AndyBrooke Lastname? I bet SHE doesn't like to do anything separately because, as other people have said, there are trust issues. I wonder if she really was just planning on staying home and then found out there'd be a stripper at the stag do, and she told her partner either he took her with or he couldn't go. I used to have a friend like that and it was awful. She even insisted on doing the voicemail greeting on his cell phone in case any women got ideas (he changed it the next day).

Later taters,
H. Trixie BA MA EdD.
Tri-State Regional Spelling Champion, 1982-1985
3m Springboard Diving, Blue Ribbon Winner 1986-1990

[Kerala2712]

Must be a REALLY slow news day.

[MissionItsPossible]

FanwankTheAbsurd

Publish is too generous, I think it would be more accurate to say they have print screened this.

The names Possible.
Mission It's Possible.

[mrsRosaPimento]

She doesn't trust her dh.

[Skylander01]

I agree with pitying her! I have been that insecure girl with a manslag of a fiance. Saying that, I would never have turned up when he was on a stag do - or Friday nights out with the lads for that matter. Instead, I stayed at home sobbing into my pillow imagining him with all sorts of models. I actually ended up anorexic over all this because in my mind I was fat and that was why he cheated on me, so if I could just be slim he would stop cheating.

Now married to a thoroughly faithful man. Yes he can be a bit boring, but I would rather have boring than going mad with jealousy, such a negative emotion.

The problem with your wedding is that everytime you look at her you won't be able to stop yourself from thinking about what she did. You don't want that emotion on your big, important day - so I would explain why and disinvite them both.

[Andylion]

If people include the phrase "Fuck off Daily Mail" in their posts, they won't print an excerpt, is that correct?
Maybe every OP could remember that?

[UtterlyFcked]

!

I suspect your pal may well have an inkling by now OP

[FanwankTheAbsurd]

Dear Op,

Sad to say that, unfortunately, those cunts over at the Daily Shite have decided to publish this.
Twats.
www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4768890/Female-friend-ditches-hen-party-groom-s-STAG-DO.html

Sincerely,
She who got reported by Martin.

[gingergenius]

maybe she just prefers male company

This would be fine, had she said so instead of pretending she didn't have childcare etc as to why she couldn't attend the hen do she was invited to, but miraculously managed to sort it out for the stag do to which she WASN'T invited!!!!

Yours
G. Genius
LMPA
ROFLMAO PMSL

[UtterlyFcked]

Weird

I feel a bit sorry for her DH though if you uninvite? Obviously he wanted to go to the stag and get to know your DH better, he made the effort to go.

Being the top drawer twat that I am, I would still invite him and not her

Kind Regards
UtterlyFcked, PHD, LMNOP

[FuckYouLinda]

It was attention seeking and rather pathetic.

But if you give her an uninvite it's also attention and she gets to play victim. So at the wedding stick her at the furthest table away and bribe a nephew to 'accidentally' run into her arse with a chocolate ice-cream cone so it looks like she shat herself and she cant get up and dance all night.

Yours
F.U. Linda
PADI Open Water Dive Certificate 1995.

[arnoldbarnacles]

This is the kind of thing I would have done when I was (a lot) younger. But then I was a bit of a tit at times in my twenties. Agree with the posters who said to take her for a coffee and see what's going on. Then you can make a judgement as to whether the friendship really is over before you torpedo it by disinviting her to your wedding. I expect she has no real idea that she might have upset you. She probably just really enjoyed the attention of being the only (clothed) woman on a stag do. Self awareness won't be her strongest suit if she didn't realise how unwelcome she was there.

Best of luck, your friend, Arnold Barnacles, Octonauts Captain, sea creature rescuer and all round polar bear hero.

[Albatross26]

I wouldn't uninvite her. She'll probably be embarrassed about seeing all the stags again! Just be pleased you're not so insecure in your relationship

Sincerely,
Mrs Albert Ross
BA (Hons), MA, FGMS, 4th place 800 metres (1998), member of Monster Munch club

[placemark123]

I feel so sad that I have reached the end of this brilliant thread.

Def don't mention her in the speeches as she'd lovvve that!

Yours in haste- adieu! Adieu!

Countess of Placemark
P4 knitting prize, 1985