I have learned a lot from reading the feminism boards on mumsnet.
My real life experience in my upbringing was never of the outright sneering misogyny type. My father was a good hard working man who would never have raised his voice to my mother much less raise his hand. But he was very guilty of the 'men think about big important things and women need protecting' school of thought. He needed some guidance in treating women as equals but he certainly wouldn't wish women any harm.
However, the open hostility towards women is something that I see a lot in discussion and it has really shocked me. Newspaper comments sections online are particularly 
because there seems to be a lot of men who can not say anything nice about women at all. They want children, but they resent women having maternity leave. They resent women who stay at home to look after their children because they are lazy parasites. But they resent women in the workplace who are parents because they might occasionally need to take leave because a child is ill etc. So they don't want women to work, but they don't want women to not work. They want children, but they think that the women who bear the children should be financially and emotionally responsible for those children. Oh, but despite hating women so much, they still want sex. With women. 