AIBU - You don't bring a toddler to a hen do?

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Okay, so maybe I'll be flamed by this but hopefully not.

Summary: I am organising hen do for good friend along with another friend of the bride. I don't really know the other friend, and I don't really know many of the other women who are coming because they're from different groups - ie her work, her old saturday job, her neighbour etc

Anyway I've worked really hard to try and organise everything - which is usually a nightmare anyway as people don't reply to confirm things etc etc, and have sorted out some activities etc and some lovely accommodation as well as dinner for one of the nights and a night out.

I've been out of action a little for a few days this week as I'm seven weeks pregnant and managed to get a bug that was going round, so I wasn't hot on messages and didn't see a few til yesterday.

The long and short of it is - despite everything being arranged, booked and paid for and taking place in two weeks, one of the women has now announced she will be bringing her toddler daughter and her partner because her daughter won't sleep unless she's there and her DP can't handle her tantrums when she gets hysterical, so they are both coming. DP will be there to watch her during the day at the accommodation, and they will all be coming to the meal on the friday night but we have to put the time back so it fits around her DD's feeding routine or something.

She also said she now needs a private room as she'll be with her DP and daughter - originally it's been organised in a beautiful converted barn and people are sharing, it was all previously discussed and agreed.

I'm a bit taken aback that I've just been told this - and the other woman who I'm organising it with has agreed - but it's too late for us to change the accommodation, I can't magic up an extra room and I think a toddler and partner at dinner is going to ruin the dynamic...

It's all a surprise for the bride so I haven't said anything to her as don't want to stress her out - my feeling is to go back and just say no, sorry this has all been prearranged as you know and this won't work....

Or am I being unfair?! I don't have children [yet] so I don't know if this is one of those things where actually people are going to say oh if her DD isn't sleeping then she has to work around that...

If it was a quiet, chilled out one then maybe - but there's going to be the classic hen do games, drinking games, a night out...it just seems a bit weird?

Gah. I hate hen dos. I'm going to be busy for the next one, washing my hair or something.

Nah the games will be things like

'Pin the tail on the bitchiest person in the group?'

'Pin the tail on the person who thwarted my little family's weekend away?'

Am I the only one slightly worried that "classy" games might lead to an "oh my dh has just messaged me dc won't settle so he's brought her up in the car, you guys don't mind them coming in for a bit since we're only playing -insert classy game name here- oh good I'll go get them"

Cue dh and dc entering with bags for the night?

No? Just me?

WTF??? Op, in NO WAY are ubu! Is this woman, mad, stupid or mind boggingly selfish? (Think she may be all 3).
No one will wants a toddler and a man there - what is this woman on?
Bless you op, I'm sure she/they will not end up going - Really hope you get to enjoy it and feel better very soon. xxx

MotherofBeagles nothi g would surprise me.I think the ok better have a back up plan like someone escort Godzilla to hen party.Just in case of stragglers.

Op, thanks for extending the invite.

Is it true you have David Guetta booked to do the music? Also, will there be sniffer dogs? Asking for me friend xx

I have some lovely psycho ferrets going spare .Better than any guard dog.Shes most welcome to my d them.

Hahahahahahahahhahaha demanding friend is hilarious! Looking forward to hen-do update. So ething about weddings does tend to make people a little bonkers. My cousins friends had a massive row on her hen do over who was closest to her and who should have been picked as bridesmaids. 8 of them, drunk, screaming and crying on brighton seafront.

My sisters and I have an understanding re being each others bridemaids (as in who would be maid of honour for who etc) and none of us plan to ask anyone else so I'll be avoiding this shit altogether when DP and I get married.

Ps, cousins hen do isnt even the worst I've been on..

Chevalier, my friend had the sisters bridesmaid pact too. So far she got married about 4 years and had her three sisters as bridesmaids, youngest sister recently got married and had no sisters as bridesmaids, just friends. Get it in writing

I can't believe the cheek of entitledhen. I have no words.

Please could I bring the Apocalptic pony? I'm sure she'll fit right in - she's such a good laugh!

Am particularly enjoying the rapidly expanding menagerie soon to be joining you in your converted barn, OP. Sounds like a zoo!

I wouldn't like to take bets on her just turning up with child and partner, though. She does seem particularly stubborn.

Can I bring PhD pooch?

Blindfolded condom on the dildo (or stripper!)

Ummmm.... MaxwellDog feels these other dogs will cramp her style so you need to uninvite them please OP.

Fuck you, FenellaMaxwellsPony from DDog (and not a dog-friendly one). I thought we had connected (and DDog was immensely looking forward to the 'connection' from your Ddog's nose to her lady parts), but you've ruined all that. You will never undo the hurt and pain, I'm going to start a thread about you. AND Squoosh has been good enough to hire our limo. You have literally spoiled my special Hen weekend, you selfish arse.

I'm coming anyway, and - get this- at the hen: I'm coming for you... I'm plucking those willy straws right out of your hands to suck on myself. I'm blocking your view (YOURS) of the stripper. I'm going to beat you at every single game. AND I'm going to kick your dog when you're too drunk to notice. I might even pee in your fucking yellow hummer

my Ddog would also like to come but please - she must be treated like a princess at all times and must have some sort of attention at all times or she will think nobody loves her, I'm sure the bride to be won't mind accommodating? Oh and she hates cats and other dogs so they must leave her alone at all times.

But OP you are bringing your baby!

OK maybe in uterine but it still COUNTS.

Poor little husband can't possibly cope with his own daughter. Who on earth lets their husband look after their own kids?

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Oh how this thread has made me laugh

Well done O & bride-to-be, CFNM (cheeky fucker nightmare mum) sounds like exactly that!

I've finally RTFT.

Could I please bring DH and 2 youngest DC? One will bore you to tears with Pokemon and the other one will run around like a loony and stand on chairs, if yesterday was anything to go by. You won't even notice they're there.

This is so funny!!! Honestly, I thing you are BU. I mean how could one man and a small child ruin an women only weekend........just hilarious to even for one little second think this was acceptable!

Tell her that everything has been organised, if she wishes to do all she is asking for tell her she'll have to arrange it herself, also try and Get her to put herself in the bride to be shoes, how she would feel if there was a toddler at her hen do if she were to marry. Tell her the strippers planned for the meal 😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃

BTW you're not being unreasonable, hence dos are NOT for kids

@KeepServingTheDrinks FINE. MaxwellDog says your dog can still come. But she's not thrilled about it!

Right,you lot-listen up!! I'm flying in from Cyprus for this, so I expect preferential seating in the limo...I'm allergic to cats and dogs so please ensure they are nowhere near me,and I will need a run for my chickens and rabbits,looking forward to meeting you all