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Original poster

Aibu to think my date should have bought me a drink? Tight arse?

320 replies

Miamiabeer · 05/08/2017 10:01

Met a guy got on well.
Had two dates previous and split the bill 50/50 and always have done as I think the man shouldn't pay BUT last night we went out to the pub and I was ordering a cocktail and him a pint.
I said "oh il get this round and you can get the next"
He said "your cocktail costs more than my pint"
I didn't even think about the price,I just thought rather than us buying drinks separate.
So I just got the drinks separately.
I would of happily got a cheaper drink or got him a more expensive but at this point I was a bit taken back.
My cocktail was £4.25 and his best £3.65 so not a lot of difference.
Now I'm thinking he is a bit tight?

OP posts:
Increasinglymiddleaged · 05/08/2017 14:58

Wouldn't do anything,expected me to do everything (if you know what I mean) said his back was hurting and his legs and sent me on top

So not only is he a tightwad he's also crap in bed Grin. C'mon op smell the coffee

ScaramangasThirdNipple · 05/08/2017 14:59

He probably rinsed the condom out, folded it up, and put it back in his wallet ready for the next lucky laydee.

Zaphodsotherhead · 05/08/2017 14:59

I second dumping him and telling him exactly why.

He won't take any responsibility, of course, he'll just say that you were a bitch and expected him to pay for everything, but at least you'll have had your say. And, you never know, if enough women tell him how tight he is (and what a selfish lay), he might just get the message!

ShelaghTurner · 05/08/2017 15:09

What a catch...

ToadsforJustice · 05/08/2017 15:19

ScaramangasThirdNipple Grin

Aeroflotgirl · 05/08/2017 15:21

This might be a wind up, but depressingly, there are men out there like that as some of you have encountered.

paxillin · 05/08/2017 15:21

Dump. Life is too short and he's not good enough.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 05/08/2017 15:22

I'm not judging you for sleeping with 'a bloke' on the third date (that would be MASSIVELY hypocritical 😂) but I'm judging you for sleeping with this bloke AT ALL. How on earth did that happen? He's tighter than a ducks bum & that's NOT sexy.

Ruuunnnnnn

MadMags · 05/08/2017 15:29

Hang on, did you shag him after he got himself a pint, AND refused to go into a round because of 55p?

I am judging you. Not because you had sex after date three, but because you had sex WITH HIM. Ugh! You can't be surprised it was shite!

ScaramangasThirdNipple · 05/08/2017 15:30

Maybe the OP just really needed some cock.

I'm sure there won't be a return match though, will there OP?

demirose87 · 05/08/2017 15:41

Dump him asap and don't take it any further, soon enough you will start to resent him. Beginning of relationships are all about impressing each other and having fun. If problems are showing this early, it's not worth taking it any further. And make sure you tell him why.

Notreallyarsed · 05/08/2017 16:05

And I'm guessing OP had to pay for the condom because it was for her benefit and not his

@Nike you've made my day Grin

Spadequeen · 05/08/2017 16:10

Why are you still seeing him? You have to start believing in yourself a lot more. If he's like this now when people are usually still at the trying to impress stage what the hell would he be like later?

Get rid

lilydaisyrose · 05/08/2017 16:13

Its 60p! Not 55p!

Gotanewusernamenow · 05/08/2017 16:17

I would have listened to all these excellent comments/advice had mumsnet been going in the nineties.

I went out with a couple of tight wads,and it was miserable.
Don't bother with him again.

Sarikiz · 05/08/2017 16:20

Dump him. He is a tight arse a very unattractive trait.

AlwaysBeBatman · 05/08/2017 16:30

Please, please dump! If he's this bad during the honeymoon period where he's still presumably trying to impress you, just imagine how entitled, selfish and tightfisted he'd be when you're an established couple?

He'd have to have been truly spectacular in bed to warrant sticking around 😏

Original poster
Miamiabeer · 05/08/2017 16:36

Sorry for late reply been out shopping ...
I don't think il see him again,I don't know what got into me,had a few drinks and he is quite fun (minus the lazy streak and tight streak)
Could I see myself marrying him -no

OP posts:
Ghostontoast · 05/08/2017 16:41

...drinks you had to mostly pay for!

supersop60 · 05/08/2017 16:42

And in the early days people are usually on their best behaviour - it can only get worse.
Onwards and upwards OP

Deadsouls · 05/08/2017 16:45

I'd have asked what he was implying by making that comment and make him spell it out

IHopeYourCakeIsShit · 05/08/2017 16:51

Maybe the OP just really needed some cock Oh dear lord Grin

Aeroflotgirl · 05/08/2017 16:57

Op have some standards and respect for yourself. Of course hes not marriage material, nor is he boyfriend material either. Are you so desperate, that you would sleep with him after all that, and consider a relationship with him!

Aeroflotgirl · 05/08/2017 16:58

Its no fun being round a rude selfish tight arsed miser.

crazykitten20 · 05/08/2017 16:59

Then after he drank that he went to bar and came back with just a pint for himself ..

And you saw him AGAIN? After this ^^

And you sound surprised at cocktail-gate.

Bin him. He's a cockwomble

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