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AIBU to be upset with work colleagues?

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PhyllisNights · 04/08/2017 20:00

It was my last day in the office today. I'm now officially on maternity leave.

I'm very disappointed with what my colleagues arranged for my send off, though. They promised we would do something exciting. I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange), but we ended up just going to an Italian at lunch time.

I'm very upset. I won't be back at work for a year. I've been there for years and I expected something more. I didn't even get any gifts or a slice of a cake. All I got was one card shared from the office!

When work colleagues leave they get a massive send off with work lunches, gifts, cards & a night out. I'm not expecting a night out drinking given my condition, but I wanted something more.

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Allthewaves · 04/08/2017 21:39

oh my this has to be a wind up. No one could be this pretentious or grabby.

Babyroobs · 04/08/2017 21:39

At my current place of work people go completely over the top bringing a huge hamper in and filling it with gifts for baby and mum to be. Considering there are 60+ people in my workplace I find it all a bit over the top especially as it happens on subsequent babies as well as the first ! they also get leaving tea with cake etc . Funnily enough this all started just after I had my last baby, but such is my luck !!

schoolgaterebel · 04/08/2017 21:41

To be perfectly honest, they need me more than I need them. I could easily get a better job. Might lead them up the garden path for a year and then not return.

I can't think why they wouldn't shower you with gifts OP, you sound lovely

LordPercy · 04/08/2017 21:42

What a weird OP...someone lead to towards the baby shower hate that phrase/concept thread please!

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PhyllisNights · 04/08/2017 21:42

@Willow2017, I'm disappointed in you. I quite liked talking to you in the past and thought you got me to a point.

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MadamePomfrey · 04/08/2017 21:43

Oh Phylliss. Do tell us about your baby shower did it live up to SILs??

MrsNathanDrake · 04/08/2017 21:44

Oh, yes please! Baby shower details please!

NotACleverName · 04/08/2017 21:45

No one could be this pretentious or grabby.

This is Phyllis, though. She's about to birth the most specialist snowflake to ever grace the earth. And all her friends are jealous of her or some bullshit like that.

RhubardGin · 04/08/2017 21:47

PhyllisNights

On the extremely off chance you aren't on the wind up, you do realise that we're all just making fun of you?

Do you really lack so much self awareness?

I've read through your other posts and all I can say is...wow. And that's not a compliment!

Babyblues14 · 04/08/2017 21:51

I'm starting maternity leave in two days, been here 5 years and didn't get a thing from my work and I didn't expect to either. I'm leaving for 9 months, I'm not eloping.
I don't understand why people expect to be treated differently or giving presents because they decided to have a baby.
Your being ridiculous. And if I was you I would be grateful I got anything with an attitude like yours.

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PhyllisNights · 04/08/2017 21:51

Honestly? I believe I've made a bond with a few people on here.

Some people take the piss and others show faux-outrage, but I don't care.

I'm genuinely upset about work and I can't shake it off. I'm not one to overshare on social media like Facebook so I enjoy this forum as an avenue where I can let off a little bit off heartfelt steam without suffering the consequences.

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VeryCunningStunt · 04/08/2017 21:54

I don't understand why people expect to be treated differently or giving presents because they decided to have a baby

Yeah, but not everybody decided to have a "baby [that] feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!"

If you're just having a bog-standard ordinary baby then the best you can expect is a kick up the arse on your way out, and rightly so. Hmm

BentleyBelly · 04/08/2017 21:54

My work don't make a fuss for people going off on mat leave. They normally do a card and collection once baby is born though.

Willow2017 · 04/08/2017 21:55

I haven't said anything that several other posters haven't said!

And I haven't said anything that wasn't true. In every post you have ever done you expect the world to revolve around you and it doesn't

Chill out you are on mat leave enjoy it stop expecting so much from other people and you dont be disappointed.

MommaGee · 04/08/2017 21:56

Phyllis why do YOU think they didn't get you anything?

NotACleverName · 04/08/2017 21:57

I'm genuinely upset about work and I can't shake it off.

Jesus christ get a grip.

BigApple11 · 04/08/2017 21:58

Oh Phyllis I'm glad you're back I was just thinking about you this week and wondering if you e had your messiah baby yet....

Sorry you're feeling so hard done by...can your DP whip you up some fahitas? It is Friday after all ...

RhubardGin · 04/08/2017 21:59

Do you really lack so much self awareness?

That's a yes then 😂

WeDONTneedanotherhero · 04/08/2017 21:59

Just read through the baby shower thread.........this all now makes complete sense GrinBiscuit

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PhyllisNights · 04/08/2017 22:00

MommaGee, honestly? My director has never liked me. I went for her role and she came in externally and seems to have felt threatened ever since.

The way she was going on about doing something special for my matetnity only for it to end up being barely nothing? Almost feels mocking in hindsight.

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mummymummums · 04/08/2017 22:00

I just have to post so I can see what OP says next Grin
This is what I think - I think they'll be getting you something absolutely sooper dooper when the baby is born. Something you deserve. HmmSomething that might make you want to take baby on a train and tube to see them. Despite your reluctance - think train and cab if too hard.
If not, then it seems they can't stand you. To be fair, you're right, people going on maternity leave do usually get a bit of fuss made of them (not a baby shower though). Even unpopular people. I think something will transpire after baby is born. If not, then something's up and tbh I'm not sure I'd like you much if I worked with you but I could be wrong.

GinIsIn · 04/08/2017 22:02

So she feels threatened by you because you weren't good enough to get the job she got....? Confused

ChickaaaaannDipppaaaaassss · 04/08/2017 22:03

HR so vair important?
Love, I sit in a chair and shout at people to shut up most of my day. Think pissed off receptionist, but with more clout and swearing.

I'm actually vair important.

I'm on the sick at the moment mops feverish row all planned and shit. Didn't get no card or flowers plucked by Tibetan Pixies.

The fuckers!!!

Awaits this thread to reach the dizzying heights of hilarity that the last one did

Motoko · 04/08/2017 22:04

So, when's the baby due?

Babyblues14 · 04/08/2017 22:04

Maybe your director doesn't like you because she is jealous of how amazingly popular you are...