AIBU to think that there are a lot of people on here who are really quite rude?

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I'm just a watcher from the sidelines really, but I have to say there are times when I read a post and some of the harsh and quite frankly hurtful things people say really do shock me. Am I being too sensitive???

It's definitely changed. Anyone that says it hasn't is delusional.

I agree it is symptomatic of the whole SM.
the Guardian comments section can be atrocious as well as the Independent, I dont read anything else

it is the way of the world now.

It is what aibu is like, unfortunately.

The longer everyone accepts it, especially hq (I've reported a few posts that haven't been followed up), the longer it'll go on.

I don't mind a bit of lively debate but there's no need dor personal attacks.

I also agree with the person who said use other forums. I've taken that on board

ConstanceCraving can you honestly not see the irony of you posting on a thread about people being rude? You've already called me hun and now you are suggesting I'm delusional?

People are very judgy on here. They forget they only part of a story no matter how long the original post may be and sometimes I think people are really up their own arses in a way that just doesn't work in real life. You also get people being very opinionated on subjects they clearly have no idea about.

Sometimes I think 'thank god I don't know these women' and 'thank god even more they are getting their anger out here, rather than with me and my children when we are out and about'.

What's your beef with me Womblingthree?

YANBU. A lot of people on here really aren't very bright though and the two things (being rude and being stupid) tend to go hand in hand!!

Pigface whilst I'd LOVE to agree with you, I also think there are some incredibly bright people who can be breathtakingly rude!

nakedscientist I shouldn't have been unkind

Fair enough Coddi

There is a difference in being honest and having tact.

I also think replies depend upon the posters own insecurities. For example if someone is asking is my dh being unreasonable and the honest answer is yes, a poster who starts telling the op to get a grip etc etc and that they are being unreasonable may be doing so because their own dh behaves like that.
Deep down they despise they despise the behaviour themselves but as their dh does it tbey try to seek justification.

YANBU. A lot of people on here really aren't very bright though and the two things (being rude and being stupid) tend to go hand in hand!!

Says the person who has completely missed the irony in this statement...

Some people on here have a real superiority complex, and seem very bitter. Others are just honest.

Or when someone asks a question and gets replies telling them they are wrong to be doing x,y or z in the first place. Starters for ten: immunisation, private/grammar schools, in laws, benefits, private healthcare, unusual baby names, Jojobows...

I suppose it can be helpful but in a lot of cases it's just someone having a go at someone else's life choices. Then followed by 'it's an open forum and you asked...'

As if you needed an excuse to be rude CoughLaughFart

Some people are so nasty on here, doubt they're so rude in rl

I think if people were so rude there be a lot more fistfights in public. I think it's just the keyboard talking.

I don't like posters who question solid facts.
For example a poster might say should I go ahead and rent property x the positives are a the negatives are b it's £400 per month.
Que a poster calling the op a liar as there isn't anywhere you can rent for £400.

I disagree op.

For a start we all know rude people in RL and so of course there are rude people on the internet.

Aibu has always been a debate hence the title. Yes some threads go too far but that's usually when posters post aibu and take massive umbridge when other posters tell them they are.

Mumsnet has changed over the years thankfully as it used to be a collection of left wing liberal London centric mummies and nothing wrong with them but it was boring. Much better now with many more political opinions and posted from all walks of life.

If you start threads here you are probably going to get flamed at some point and that's fine.

In my experience those really needing help get it 100% on here and other sections and thankfully very little 'Huns and xxx'

Also it isnt just AIBU. I started a thread in chat and was told i was being U?! I also got a biscuit from one poster after telling her Ihad been sexually abused by a relative - who does that? I was then told by another poster that they were glad they werent invited to my wedding. This was on top of being called grabby, entitled and being completely misquoted. That isn't to say there arent some lovely people on here, but let's not dress up bullying and nastiness as 'plain speaking'.

*In my experience those really needing help get it 100% on here and other sections and thankfully very little 'Huns and xxx'^

I agree with that. There are some really helpful and supportive posters on MN who give their time and energy to those who need it, often staying on a thread for days/weeks if needed. The huns imo are the ones who post and run giving very little in the way of support and quite often just appear to tell a poster that they'd " fucking tell her straight " and that they " wouldn't put up with that fucking shit " which is a waste of time and not helpful in anyway way.

The biscuit must have been either a typo or a mistake reply to another thread surely. Hope you reported it anyway Aye

I just think there are very rude people IRL so you are bound to find very rude people on here ... it's also easier for them to get away with it because they are hiding behind their keyboards. I honestly don't think that a decent, kind person IRL would become a nasty individual on the internet ... I personally wouldn't because I would consider the feelings of the person on the receiving end ... words can be very hurtful and some people just throw them around willy nilly without due consideration because they are not nice