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...to take 4 mo baby on glamping hen do?

583 replies

TomBowler · 01/08/2017 23:18

I am MoH and bride asked me before I got pregnant but she knew we were TTC. I have offered to step down.

Baby is EBF. I don't pump and haven't tried a bottle. Not totally against it though.

Would be arriving on campsite Fri afternoon. I would boob DD to sleep about 7ish. Deploy video monitor (our group has excl use of campsite and DD and I have own tent). Return to group for silly games.

Saturday morning breakfast and It's A Knockout. Lunch. Saturday afternoon outdoorsy activity I wouldn't be able to do (pelvic floor, say no more) so will chill at campsite. Sat evening boob DD to sleep and Butler In The Buff coming to serve cocktails and not games.

Sun morning breakfast in farm shop.

OP posts:
Redglitter · 01/08/2017 23:56

Bride is ok with it in theory

Id put money on her just being polite and feeling she can't say no

Floggingmolly · 01/08/2017 23:57

Wombling has summed it up in a nutshell.

intergalacticbrexitdisco · 01/08/2017 23:59

A lot of things are ok in theory, though. Jeggings, bubble tea, threesomes, you know.

Hudson10 · 02/08/2017 00:00

You can't take a baby on a hen do!
FFS.
So what if you'll "boob her to sleep at 7pm?" It's still totally unreasonable, as it'll totally change the dynamic of the get away.
Just no.

Mrskeats · 02/08/2017 00:02

You lost me at butler in the buff. Bleugh

Hudson10 · 02/08/2017 00:03

You can't be serious

I wouldn't be so sure. MN has opened me up to a whole world of cheeky fuckers/ entitled and self absorbed/ etc viewpoints out there!
Fascinating what goes through people's heads.

Ontheboardwalk · 02/08/2017 00:03

If it's only 40 mins away could you not settle baby at home express if you can, them go to the campsite for an hour or two (hopefully longer) on the two days?

reetgood · 02/08/2017 00:04

YABU, yes. I can't imagine that being good times for anyone.

At a recent hen weekend we had a few new mums who came by for a few hours. Some skipped it. One took the opportunity to stay somewhere nice nearby with her partner and baby, and was able to drop by and see us for a bit too.

PS nowt wrong with bubble tea

Hotheadwheresthecoldbath · 02/08/2017 00:04

What's the point of going to a hen party if you can only had a few drinks?Everyone else will be letting their hair down and you will be watching your baby monitor.If you're only 40 minutes away then skip the camping bit and go over for the lunch next day.

Hudson10 · 02/08/2017 00:07

Please don't go bring a child of any age will change the dynamic of the group and you'll be forever known as "that parent" step down gracefully from the hen do

Yep to this. Over 10 years ago (pre kids!) we had a party, you know, get together with drinks and dancing/general getting pissed and merriment.
One of the group who was the only one with a baby insisted on bringing the baby to the party, much to Confused Hmmof everyone else.
It DOES change the dynamic. Especially when she was "shushing" everyone because they were making too much noise as baby was trying to sleep. Hmm
Should have left baby at home with babysitters then or not come! She is now forever known as THAT parent. Don't be that parent.

AboutAGallonofDietCoke · 02/08/2017 00:08

Mmmm I say no it's a god awful idea.
One of my birthdays a friend of mine invited
A) someone I don't like
B) A's young sprog
Without asking me.
Day quickly went from boozy girly lunch to baby being passed round table, muchos cooing, talk of birth etc etc. No one really had a drink and half the group fucked off home early.
Completely ruined the dynamic of the day. I've got children myself and it would have been nice to have a child free day with the girls.
Bride will probably feel a horrible cow if she says no, and so will say yes, she'll watch the dynamic of the trip go downhill and resent you for it.
It's a bad move....

MozzchopsThirty · 02/08/2017 00:09

FGS no no no

What is wrong with women who can't leave their baby for one or two nights and thinks that everyone else loves their baby as much as they do!

I'd be livid if I turned up to a hen do to find someone had brought their baby Hmm

Hudson10 · 02/08/2017 00:09

Bride is ok with it in theory

In theory? Telling choice of words there. I wouldn't be so sure that she is OK with it!

reetgood · 02/08/2017 00:10

@hothead I spent a recent hen weekend completely sober. I'm pregnant. There was loads of us though, it was fine. I think the caring for baby bit might be more of an issue/ distraction than booze, surely :D

AboutAGallonofDietCoke · 02/08/2017 00:10

X posted with hudson
Basically as she posted....

GreenCarnation · 02/08/2017 00:11

I'm wondering if anybody has thought how the baby might feel about mozzie bites and waking up alone in a weird place with strange drunken screechy noises. Just from the 4 month old's point of view it sounds like a ridiculous idea.

It's a no from me.

deadringer · 02/08/2017 00:11

Yabvvvu.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 02/08/2017 00:15

Yabu it's not fair on anyone else, hen party's are for fun a screaming baby is not fun.

Hudson10 · 02/08/2017 00:16

or can your DP go with you

It's. A. Sodding. HEN. DO!! No babies, no boyfriends and babies.
FFS.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 02/08/2017 00:16

And yy to boob to sleep being ducking awful.

intergalacticbrexitdisco · 02/08/2017 00:16

@green that would entirely be my point. I've never been on a hen 'do' because cultural reasons, but I'd still not take my baby anywhere they would be scared or uncomfortable.

Only1scoop · 02/08/2017 00:17

Of course you can't ....although I'm sure everyone would be polite and make the right noises.
'Boob to sleep'
Grim Confused

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 02/08/2017 00:17

Fucking fucking fucking not ducking stupid auto correct wanker.

Hudson10 · 02/08/2017 00:19

I think the caring for baby bit might be more of an issue/ distraction than booze, surely :D

That's the thing, as well. As a parent myself, if I was on the hen night it'd mean that I'd left the kids at home with DH, their Dad.
Enjoying a rare night out with friends. If I was there and I knew one of the party had brought a baby and had left it in a tent to go join the adult activities, I wouldn't be able to relax!

plantsitter · 02/08/2017 00:22

God I don't know why everyone has to jump in to be mean to the OP. There is a human being behind the words on the screen you know, no need to be bloody vile.

I wouldn't do it though. Fuck everyone else, it just sounds like not even remotely anything like fun for you. Have you had this baby yet? Have you forgotten what 4 weeks post natal feels like? Don't do it!!