...to take 4 mo baby on glamping hen do?

[TomBowler]

I am MoH and bride asked me before I got pregnant but she knew we were TTC. I have offered to step down.

Baby is EBF. I don't pump and haven't tried a bottle. Not totally against it though.

Would be arriving on campsite Fri afternoon. I would boob DD to sleep about 7ish. Deploy video monitor (our group has excl use of campsite and DD and I have own tent). Return to group for silly games.

Saturday morning breakfast and It's A Knockout. Lunch. Saturday afternoon outdoorsy activity I wouldn't be able to do (pelvic floor, say no more) so will chill at campsite. Sat evening boob DD to sleep and Butler In The Buff coming to serve cocktails and not games.

Sun morning breakfast in farm shop.

Dont do it, i guarantee your baby will hit the 4 month sleep regression and you'll find yourself up all night in a tent.

What will happen is others in the hen party if they are decent human beings will start helping you with the baby but secretly grudgingly and it will spoil the wknd.

Either take a step back from this one or can your DP go with you and then you can just pop back to feed baby. I dont think its safe to leave practically a newborn alone in a tent with a monitor.

That doesn't make it any less daft

I don't care if it's baby Jesus you're BFing, you'd be completely self veneered to bring them to a hen weekend CAMPING.

Self centred*

No way could you think this would be ok. Boob to sleep? What an awful saying.

I for one am loving self veneered. Couldn't put it better myself.

Oh Jesus; do not suggest your dp goes as well . Just tell them you have a four month old baby, therefore you won't be joining them on the hen weekend.
They'll be both relieved and delighted, believe me.

You would leave a 4 month old in a tent on its own while you go partying!!!! YABU
What if something happened! Can you imagine the headlines!
Don't go. The bride will probably be pissed but I think she would be even more pissed if you ruin her hen do.

Boob to sleep...

YABVU. Ridiculously so.

YABVVVU

In all likely good OP will go anyway and ruin everyone's weekend anyway.

But just to add I boob baby to sleep, im not understanding the dislike of that term

I had to miss both my best friends' hen dos because of breastfeeding. It sucks (arf) but that's the way it is. Wouldn't have dreamed of taking the babies along with me.

No one wants a baby on a hen do, people want to relax and have a good time and are less likely to be able to do that with a baby there. Just don't go.

Boob is not a verb, for a start.

Don't be so ridiculous

You would leave a 4 month old in a tent on its own while you go partying!!!! YABU
What if something happened! Can you imagine the headlines!

This above is a stupid comment as you have already said tent, camera, nearby etc.

But Jesus no don't take a four month old either camping, or on a hen do, or especially both!!!!

Sometimes with kids you just have to accept you can't do stuff because you wouldn't have any fun yourself, would fuck it up for everyone else, and be quite mean to your child.

This is one of those times.

Nobody wants your baby on the hen do, and anyone who says they don't mind is lying.

YWBVVVU to do this. It would ruin the brides hen do by changing the dynamic considerably.

I feel so sorry for her that you're even considering this.

Feed the baby to sleep. Breastfeed the baby to sleep. Nurse the baby to sleep...anything but 'boob to sleep'...

YABInsane, anyway. You can't leave your tiny baby alone in a tent.

Really, really depends on baby.Spent weekend recently with a group where a woman had her young baby with her.Baby slept and fed pretty much.
Obviously a screamy colic baby would be different.

I was very much of the strap-baby-to-your-front and crack on school of thought but no! You can't stay the night. You could put in a cameo for the lunch then go home?

If I arrived at an adult weekend away and someone had brought their baby, I would turn round and go home. People who have children will be looking forward to a weekend without them, and people who don't have children won't want to spend a weekend with someone else's.

It's a Hen weekend, brasty. It really, really doesn't depend on the baby.