Ok WIBU at cinema?

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Went to Electric Cinema (as a treat) to see Dunkirk.
Lady next to us on the sofas was talking to her daughter throughout.
I asked "Could you be quiet please?"
Her "I'm trying to explain the historical importance to my daughter"
Me "Could you do it later I'm trying to watch?"

Silence

Then when the film ended I dashed to the loo and the woman said to her daughter " Very good film shame about that rude woman"
DP comes back with "She wasn't being rude YOU were being rude for talking!"

At which point I came back and caught the tail end and said "If you wish to impart information to your daughter please do it before or after. NOT during! And I do have a 16 yr old daughter and I'd say the same to her. It's not my fault you felt the need to educate your special snowflake during the film that everyone else had paid to watch" (disclaimer was 3/4 way down a bottle of white wine)

OK WIBU or was she rude?

SWBU 100%

Not rude up to "It's not my fault...", little bit rude after, but every bit justified imo.

YANBU. I also hate it when people talk in cinemas or concerts or lectures etc

You weren't BU telling her to shut up while the film was on, but no need to get involved in an exchange after it had finished.

She was. Talking during cinema = no no

As in she was hell-of-a-lot ruder in the first place and needed telling.

You weren't unreasonable to tell her to shut up, initially. All the long winded drama stuff after the film is unnecessary pomp, just get up and leave.

Thank you bored I'm not usually confrontational but.

It was a great film. And I cried. And there was no need for her to talk through it.

Apparently I 'upset' her daughter (15+ at a guess)

I'm sorry if I did but.
I'd paid to watch the film. Not to listen to mumbled commentary.

You were fine until you chipped in after your DHs comments. That was just ranting.

You were totally reasonable until the "not my fault" bit about snowflakes. And then you were rude.

She was rude to start with, but two wrongs don't make a right.....

Yep, as soon as the credits roll, you get out asap.

She needed telling. Not sure I wouldn't have mentioned the special snowflake bit, though.

She should have explained the history to her dd beforehand.

She broke the code!

True. I accept I may have been rude whilst defending my DP who was getting the worst of it when I got back.

Away and behave, you didn't really say 'special snowflake' did you?!

Yanbu to pull her up for talking but yabu for posting your fantasy mn perfect rant

It was fine to ask her to be quiet. I don't think your DP had to intervene when she called you rude to her DD, and you definitely didn't need to call them snowflakes - that was rude especially since she had stopped talking when you asked her.

YANBU

If her DD required that much 'in film' explanation than she was probably too young to see it.

Yeah, there's rude, which is fine, and then there's long winded nonsense. If you need to get the final word in then a swift "fuck off" will suffice.

I don't think ywbu in the slightest!

Of course you weren't being U to tell her to pipe down.

The way you carried on afterwards was ridiculous.

Not unreasonable at all but unreasonable to use that fucking term 'special snowflake' ... it brings my hackles up.
But I would have said something too

She was totally being unreasonable. She should've either spoken to her dd before they went in or if she wanted to give a running commentary, waited for the DVD to come out and done it in the comfort of her own home.

Had something similar when we went to see the Lego Movie. We were sat in front of a young boy and his dad and the boy was shouting out every lego set he had when they came on the screen. Instead of the dad saying 'shh' he would go 'YES, THAT'S THE MILLENNIUM FALCON, ISN'T IT, MATTHEW? AND WHO IS THE PILOT OF THE MILLENNIUM FALCON, MATTHEW? YES, THAT'S RIGHT, IT'S HANS SOLO, ISN'T MATTHEW?'

True. I probably should have done the Fuck Off but was slightly upset as she'd had a go at DP. Yeah the "Special Snowflake" comment was unreasonable but I was angry she'd had a go at my lovely DP

I don't think you were unreasonable at all.

She needed telling, well done OP.

I was once seated next to a woman who was so bored by the film she felt the need to get her laptop out. I actually hissed very loudly "you are fucking kidding me" and her boyfriend gave her a glare and she put it away.

on our way out, we heard her boyfriend say to her "how could you do that, I was mortified" and she said "well I was bored! and you wanted to see it not me".

at that point I could not resist saying something. It was a very packed cinema so we were all filing out very close together IYSWIM, so not a shock to either of them that others could hear their conversation. So I said to her "for future reference, for those of us who do actually want to watch the film, having someone tap away on a laptop next to you is impossible to ignore, I hope you won't do that again".

And she glared at me and said "you made your point the first time" and I said "well I'm not sure it got through as you are now trying to justify yourself". At the point the crowds got a bit thinner but of course she and I both ended up going to the ladies....she was huffing and puffing so clearly annoyed.

then we all saw each other again outside the ladies and gents and she carried on whining to her boyfriend that she was bored and what did he expect. Bizarre.