Ok WIBU at cinema?

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Went to Electric Cinema (as a treat) to see Dunkirk.
Lady next to us on the sofas was talking to her daughter throughout.
I asked "Could you be quiet please?"
Her "I'm trying to explain the historical importance to my daughter"
Me "Could you do it later I'm trying to watch?"

Silence

Then when the film ended I dashed to the loo and the woman said to her daughter " Very good film shame about that rude woman"
DP comes back with "She wasn't being rude YOU were being rude for talking!"

At which point I came back and caught the tail end and said "If you wish to impart information to your daughter please do it before or after. NOT during! And I do have a 16 yr old daughter and I'd say the same to her. It's not my fault you felt the need to educate your special snowflake during the film that everyone else had paid to watch" (disclaimer was 3/4 way down a bottle of white wine)

OK WIBU or was she rude?

She was rude. The film is shit though

I should add that if my mum was still alive, I'd have had to explain it to her. That would probably have annoyed modern audiences but seeing as she had a dog in the fight, you can all go hang.

My father, then her fiance, was one of the men plucked from the beach at Dunkirk He did the rematch on D-Day.

Christopher Nolan's interpretation of Dunkirk is remarkable in taking an incredibly moving episode of recent history and extracting all emotion from it. His obsession with dicking about with time as a filmmaking technique also made it hard to follow

The film is shit

I don't really go to the cinema anymore because people just can't behave properly. Went all the time as a teenager, 20's and early 30's.

Then suddenly, half of the punters would arrive after the film had started, have loud conversations and use their phones.

I just wait for things to come up on Sky now.

YWNBU. She was BU. The argument afterwards wasn't ideal but fuck it. None of us are perfect.

I took it as the special snowflake comment was not a slur against the daughter but towards the mother for how she treats her, by showing her that nobody else's feelings or needs count

You wouldn't of been unreasonable IF you'd just left it at the first comment- however you then went to far which did sort of you make you the unreasonable one

The Electric in Birmingham? Were you on the sofas?

I enjoy watching Christopher Nolan dick about with time.

I never go to the cinema. People can't behave. ££££s to sit by strangers talking, rustling, dropping food everywhere and getting up and down every 5 minutes. Plus presumably to compensate for all that the film is then TOO LOUD. No thanks.

I don't think you were being unreasonable at any point. She was talking, THEN she had the audacity to call YOU rude. I'd have challenged that, especially if she got bitchy with my partner. She might think twice before doing it again.

It sounds as if she made the comment about the "Rude woman" in a way to ensure the DP heard. So talker continued the fight, not the OP/DP.

Not unreasonable at all, I would have done the same

When I came back from the loo she said to me "Look what you've done you've upset my daughter!"

Which was when I made the snowflake comment which I do accept was probably U.

Yes we were on the sofas.

so the daughter managed to sit through a film in which many people died or were terribly injured without being moved but was upset because she and her mother were spoken to about talking through a film. Hmm, think cinema lady has not got her parenting priorities right here.

Bloody hell, if I'd paid to sit on those sofas to hear someone else give a history lesson I'd have been livid.

OK, talker was definitely the one who escalated and continued things. And interesting the snowflake comment was post upset daughter.

I think snowflake refers to parenting not usually child too.

Yep it was aimed at her parenting style not her DD

Electric Cinema is a lovely cinema. I saw actual Harry Styles there (at a screening of the film about his album). Fab place.

Nice dripfeed op. Strange the comment about you upsetting her dd didn't make it into the extensive transcript in your op...

And if the dd was upset then 'snowflake' was clearly aimed at her. Nice.

That's hardly a dripfeed, Corbynsbum.

Of course it was aimed at the parenting style.

I'd imagine the daughter was slightly mortified embarrassed by her mother's behaviour.

Yes. HUGE dripfeed there OP.

I think if you post a transcript then when challenged about something you said then come back with "we'll she said this first" when that wasn't included in the op that counts as a dripfeed. And makes me doubt whether it was said. We'll have to agree to differ.
Seems to me like the op wants a pat on the back for saying the kind of thing people say in their heads when people are talking at the cinema. I'd be very surprised if it happened as it's written here if at all

So the daughter was upset because you asked her mum to stop yapping? His was before the snowflake thing?

I don't think you were unreasonable.