Ok WIBU at cinema?

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Went to Electric Cinema (as a treat) to see Dunkirk.
Lady next to us on the sofas was talking to her daughter throughout.
I asked "Could you be quiet please?"
Her "I'm trying to explain the historical importance to my daughter"
Me "Could you do it later I'm trying to watch?"

Silence

Then when the film ended I dashed to the loo and the woman said to her daughter " Very good film shame about that rude woman"
DP comes back with "She wasn't being rude YOU were being rude for talking!"

At which point I came back and caught the tail end and said "If you wish to impart information to your daughter please do it before or after. NOT during! And I do have a 16 yr old daughter and I'd say the same to her. It's not my fault you felt the need to educate your special snowflake during the film that everyone else had paid to watch" (disclaimer was 3/4 way down a bottle of white wine)

OK WIBU or was she rude?

It's because they care more about their profits than your enjoyment of the film

Yep. Which is why I treasure places like the BFI Southbank, where they don't allow food or drink beyond a bottle of water in the auditorium. And my local, which has ushers who actually sprint down the aisle to police people who talk or have their phones on.

It's increasingly rare, though.

"Look what you've done you've upset my daughter!"

Oh i do so much love it when idiots manipulate by dragging their kids into crap situations they themselves have created.

The DD was embarrassed at her DM's behaviour!

YWNBU, she was being a total tit and outrageous that she sought to involve your DP while you had popped to the loo.

My frustration with situations like this is that there is never an usher in any screening I've been to so if you've asked someone to stop talking as they're spoiling the film for you and they don't give a toss, you have to leave the auditorium to find someone to sort it out, missing some of the film. I think the instruction to turn off phones, stop talking etc should be a bit more detailed as some people think if they whisper, it doesn't count as no one can hear whispers. That's what one woman told me when I objected to her continual commentary behind me. How about a short animated film explaining what is and isn't disruptive in a cinema? Some people need it spelling out!

Mark Strong does the bit telling you to turn off your phones etc

Lovely voice that man

It's increasingly rare, though

It is. I agree that's how it should be, but I don't know what the BFI's profit set up is. People are entitled to make a profit but they shouldn't be allowed to prioritise that profit over anti social behaviour.

A theme of threads about poor cinema behaviour is often about the sea of popcorn and other litter you wade through on the way out. Posters often say how disgusting it is and why shouldn't people put their rubbish in public bins.

However, I live in a borough with a lot of cinemas which attract thousands. Why should I, through my council tax, pay for the disposal of rubbish generated by businesses who sell their customers stuff that they know will largely be dumped rather than consumed to turn profits? Customers who will probably go home to their own boroughs and whinge about rubbish collection?

So I think it's preferably for people to dump rubbish within the premises so it can be disposed of by the generator of that rubbish at their own expense.

My local council is very hot on tracking down businesses that generate rubbish and allow it to spill out onto the streets or public bins and hitting them with massive fines.

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I used to be judgmental about people leaving their litter at their seats but my local has recently started telling people to leave it there, so it can be recycled properly

Of course it's not unreasonable to shush politely during a film. Everything after was totally unrequired and made you as bad as her. I'm guessing the best part of a bottle of wine had something to do with it?

I thought the film was good. Not fabulous but good and well worth a watch. Anyone expecting the typical Hollywood block buster is always going to be disappointed.

Well my Dd and myself went to see Dunkirk yesterday and I must say it was brilliant and quite emotional at times, I can see it getting quite a few oscars.

Now when we were watching the film some women to the right of us must of had her phone out as it lit up the area she was sitting in and she was told to put her phone away, then 10 minutes later she did it again, the staff a the venue were quite firm with her, put your phone away or leave the cinema.

The second time she got the message and didn't get it out again, but seriously at the start of the film on the screen it says to switch off your mobiles to avoid disrupting people's enjoyment, I mean who goes to the cinema and then spends their time fiddling with their phone.

The venue handled it very well.

tricky.
I personally don't expect silence in the cinema in the way I would at say, a live chamber -music performance. But people still need to be considerate to other viewers and not make excessive noise, so it's hard to say whether I think YWBU initially as It's not obvious how loud and instrusive the woman was being or for how long, because you say she was talking "throughout" the film but it seems when you asked her to be quiet she stopped talking. Also, I find "sushing" quite rude so I can see why she felt offended and made that passsive-aggressive remark to her dd.
There was really no need for your Dp to chip in as she wasn't addressing him and your follow up was rude IMO, even accounting for the drip feed.
But no need to lose sleep over it, nobody's perfect.

Yoda I bet they've been threatened. Businesses have to pay an extra charge for commercial waste and I marvel at the fines my local authority would levy on a business premises such as a multiplex who allowed customers to dump rubbish generated by them.

My husband has a small shop. He disposes everything generated by the business as commercial rubbish, for which he pays a premium.

As a favour, he once gave someone who was moving some big cardboard boxes. He asked them not to throw them away when they'd finished with them but to return them so he could dispose of them. He explained there would be a problem with the council.

They ignored him and he was hit with an £80 fine when one of the boxes turned up in domestic rubbish. He'd removed his own address labels but the logos on the box made it clear who it had originally belonged to. The council scrupulously check. Luckily they only traced one box, not the other five, because he'd have been looking at a £400 fine.

The person who did it didn't reimburse him. He doesn't give boxes out any more. People think he's mean. Most of us don't understand that there is a cost to disposing of rubbish. I didn't, until he got fined. But it makes sense. Polluters have to pay

Other people in the cinema really piss me off with their talking, wrassling of sweet wrappers, on phones, an empty cinema and someone sits right in front of you. My list is endless. There really is no better feeling than going to the cinema and finding you are the only person there.
Yanbu at all and I would definitely have said something too

Bimbobaggins
A friend of mine is enormously intolerant of any noise in the theatre. Any play we see has her huffing and tutting especially at anyone rustling sweet wrappers. But her laugh is so loud and shrill that it's embarrassing. I don't see comedies with her now.

Christopher Nolan's Dunkirk is not your typical Hollywood blockbuster but it is deluded to suggest he and his film is without huge mainstream industry backing.

Most people appear to like it. I don't. That's not to say that people shouldn''t see it in order to make up their own minds. But as many people on this thread are concerned about the prices they pay for cinema ticket and the risks of it being ruined, I'd advise them to stay away. Everyone was quiet in my screening but in other cinemas the risk of the majesty of the mumbling being ruined by natterers might be too great.

As a war film and not a Hollywood blockbuster, I recommend Went The Day Well? It was made in 1942 and is about an English village fighting back when invaded by German soldiers. It's really exciting and has a very violent moment involving a housewife, a Nazi and a meat cleaver.It's all suggested though. It also has a young Thora Hird. It turns up on Channel 4 and BBC2 a lot

I think you were in the right but I wouldn't have insulted her daughter by calling her a precious snowflake?! I remember going to see a show at the theatre with my children and a woman in front of us felt the need to explain every scene to her daughter. Even my own children were feeling frustrated so in the end I let the woman know we couldn't actually hear a thing and talking all the way through the show was very distracting. She apologised and stopped, I don't think she realised how loud she was talking!