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Ok WIBU at cinema?

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BrevilleTron · 28/07/2017 19:15

Went to Electric Cinema (as a treat) to see Dunkirk.
Lady next to us on the sofas was talking to her daughter throughout.
I asked "Could you be quiet please?"
Her "I'm trying to explain the historical importance to my daughter"
Me "Could you do it later I'm trying to watch?"

Silence

Then when the film ended I dashed to the loo and the woman said to her daughter " Very good film shame about that rude woman"
DP comes back with "She wasn't being rude YOU were being rude for talking!"

At which point I came back and caught the tail end and said "If you wish to impart information to your daughter please do it before or after. NOT during! And I do have a 16 yr old daughter and I'd say the same to her. It's not my fault you felt the need to educate your special snowflake during the film that everyone else had paid to watch" (disclaimer was 3/4 way down a bottle of white wine)

OK WIBU or was she rude?

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BrevilleTron · 28/07/2017 19:39

OK. I did actually say the "Special Snowflake" comment and I accept I WBU to defend him. However.
DP doesn't have DC and he was getting aggro from the woman as I had gone to the loo.
He got involved because she was calling ME rude for asking HER to be quiet.

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GrumpyOldBag · 28/07/2017 19:42

I'm impressed that you managed to put away 3/4 bottle of white wine by 7.15 pm!

And a teeny but jealous that you watched Dunkirk at the electric which used to be my local (while i watched it at a multiplex in Swindon)...

inkzooka · 28/07/2017 19:44

YANBU, but the special snowflake comment was both bullshit and unwarranted, so YABU for that.

I do wonder if the daughter had SN/difficulty understanding things, but it can be saved for after.

Auspiciouspanda · 28/07/2017 19:44

I don't think continuing to escalate a situation is ever reasonable, right or wrong.

upperlimit · 28/07/2017 19:44

That doesn't make any sense unless, I suppose, he has mobility issues that meant he couldn't just get up and leave at the end of the film. He was obliged to defend you to random noisy woman. What does him having kids have to do with him dealing with random noisy woman.

Anyway, it's just one of those things. Don't worry about it. Nothing bad happened.

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BrevilleTron · 28/07/2017 19:44

Sorry Grumpy but as I've just finished work for two weeks my alcohol tolerance has increased lol. The film was excellent.

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Trills · 28/07/2017 19:46

You were being unreasonable to continue the discussion and use the word "snowflake". You are done. Just leave. Don't escalate.

You were not unreasonable to ask her to stop talking during the film.

upperlimit · 28/07/2017 19:48

Sorry, 'he wasn't obliged' and apparently I have forgotten to use question marks.

It just sounds like everyone was in a pissy mood.

JaneEyre70 · 28/07/2017 19:48

I was just going to ask if the film was good.....tempted to go tomorrow to the screening rooms Grin

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BrevilleTron · 28/07/2017 19:49

DP doesn't have mobility issues. He was waiting for me to come back. The DC issue was highlighted as she said to DP " You obviously don't have children" to which he replied "I don't she does"

As I came back to my seat to collect our coats she was having a go at DP so I defended him and explained again that talking during a film is rude.

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leighdinglady · 28/07/2017 19:51

You started calling her daughter names?! Yes that's rude. Incredibly so. Up until then I was with you.

SuperPug · 28/07/2017 19:51

You're my new heroine Grin
That cinema is bloody expensive. She should have waited until it comes out on BluRay if she wants to give an additional historical lecture.
Perhaps her daughter isn't beyond doing some reading herself. Jesus...

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BrevilleTron · 28/07/2017 19:53

I didn't call her names I said. "If you feel the need to educate you special snowflake please do it after the film. "

I call my DD my special 'monkey nuts"

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SerfTerf · 28/07/2017 19:57

Eurgh. Why do people do it? That and the nachos.

Did she say anything else after "snowflake"?

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BrevilleTron · 28/07/2017 20:01

No she shut up we left. I don't care if she thinks IWBU it's the fact that she waited til my DP was on his own to comment. I will defend my DP as he would defend me.

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TefalTester123 · 28/07/2017 20:01

Print one of these and take it with you next time:
Code of conduct http://www.bbc.co.uk/5live/films/codeoff_conduct.pdf

bakedbeansandtuna · 28/07/2017 20:01

I think you were completely in the right, and if I was sitting close by I'd be thinking 'Thank fuck someone has said something'. Some people have no consideration for others around them.

Trills · 28/07/2017 20:01

Your DP could have picked up your coats and moved somewhere else. There was no need for you to "defend" him.

You are all (all 3 of you) the kind of person who chooses to extend a disagreement rather than move away from it.

So you all bear some responsibility for the continuance of the argument.

She was wrong to be talking in the film. You were not wrong to ask her to stop. But the rest is all of you being unreasonable.

TeaCake5 · 28/07/2017 20:03

Talking in cinemas is selfish rude behaviour. Yanbu

JoshLymanJr · 28/07/2017 20:05

She broke The Code - YWNBU. Code violators should be dealt with...

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BrevilleTron · 28/07/2017 20:05

OK I accept that I maybe should not have escalated it. However.

I won't tolerate rudeness and it means getting involved in an argument then I will.

But I accept and appreciate your comments

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reuset · 28/07/2017 20:08

God no, you were completely fine, OP. I expect others were glad you spoke out.

I've done similar at the theatre.

inkzooka · 28/07/2017 20:08

I mean, you must realise that calling YOUR child a nickname is different to calling somebody else's child a special snowflake which is just a really stupid insult Hmm

Aridane · 28/07/2017 20:09

Ugh - I cringe at what you apparently said after it was all over,

StaplesCorner · 28/07/2017 20:10

Thing is though, if you are going to see a film like that, surely if your child is not familiar with the story (my DD aged 14 is very interested so has looked into it and for that reason cannot face the film) then you need to explain it all well in advance. Although she probably just thought it was a Harry Styles film. I think she was very rude.

I once asked a young boy to stop kicking the back of my DD's seat, during a children's film. She was then about 8 as was the boy. I said exactly this, very quietly "can you stop that please? thank you".

At the end of the film maybe 45+ minutes later, the boy stood up behind us with his father, we all side stepped out of our respective rows of seats to the aisle and at that moment the father shoved me down the stairs.

There are arseholes everywhere.

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