CFN patio doors onto my private garden thread #3

[Wattyyyy]

Okay I thought I'd start this for when they inevitably show their faces!!

Sorry all the threads have different titles

I have a slight update - I managed to catch the nice neighbour at the other side (I think he'd heard the commotion and was loitering about waiting for me )

He was gobsmacked! Apparently he's lived here for thirty years and has never heard anything like it. I told him I'd keep him updated and he asked if i wanted to come in for a cup of tea, I politely declined hahahah. Glad I now have a nice normal neighbour on my side!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2990400-New-neighbour-using-my-private-garden?pg=40&order=

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2990757-Neighbour-new-door-private-garden-thread-2?pg=40&order=

1 and 2 you're on 3

@Vango

you seem to be saying that you stood up for yourself and re-claimed a garden that, in part, belonged to you? Am I right?

Yes,

Yet in the same posts you also appear to be getting wound up about the fact that the OP is doing what she can to protect a garden that legally belongs to her? Is that also right?

Definitely not.

I encouraged OP to protect what's legally hers.

I didn't encourage her to be snakey or undignified in the way she goes about it.

I have the privilege of being physically imposing which is why I took the actions I did.

My 4'11" 63yo mum uses her privileges of intelligence, wisdom and class to maintain her dignity whilst also getting the job thoroughly done.

I'm allowed to express my disdain at at a fellow MNers attitudes.

But just so that we are absolutely clear I do not for a single second advocate any person endangering themselves. No property is anywhere near worth that.

Crying here over 'get a goose' and PARKLIFE.

This thread is magic!

@LoisWilkersonsLastNerve Just an hour? You must be a speed reader!

Crying here over 'get a goose' and PARKLIFE.

This thread is magic!

Is it terrible of me that I'm glad I had to pick up DD early from nursery so I can continue watching this thread from the comfort of the sofa rather than when trying to pretend to be working?

I think Newdaddie is deliberately being a wind up merchant. No-one can be that stupid.

Place marking. I need to know how this end. Kick ass op.

Hope you have a lovely night with your friend OP!

Best thing to do with someone like newdaddie is put them on "user ignore" however as a relatively new MumNetter on a tablet, I can't seem to find that option. Generally when you ignore them, they go away.
Advice, please?! Or is there no User Ignore option on MN?

There is no User Ignore option on MN and MNHQ have point blank stated it won't be added.

Tango

I think he would as he already said in thread #1 or #2 that if he could get away with taking someone elses land to increase the value of his he would. CFB!!

Wow. So many posts since I last had time to check this morning! Had to skip reading the full thread and stick to (mostly) op updates. Missed one about moving the sofa though apparently.

Well done op. No shame in it if you've moved the sofa to see out without then seeing you though. Logical and common sense. Now you can see out and sit comfortably!

I have the privilege of being physically imposing which is why I took the actions I did.

My 4'11" 63yo mum uses her privileges of intelligence, wisdom and class to maintain her dignity whilst also getting the job thoroughly done.

^ If anyone wonders why we still need feminism.

newdaddie in what way is moving her sofa so she can see if the CFNs enter her garden snakey and undignified? It seems sensible and intelligent from where I'm sitting.

I don't think you quite understand how uncomfortable most of us would feel as lone women in this situation. Uncomfortable and even scared in our own homes which are supposed to be safe places. When you have a neighbour issue it's quite disturbing how differently you are treated by CFNs as a women than as a man. I've seen it often with DH being deferred to when I am insulted, as have many of my friends and neighbours.

PS- stating that you have the privilege of being physically imposing makes you sound like a horrible bully who by definition lack dignity.

newdaddie

You obviously have NO IDEA what it is like to be a woman. In ops situation I'd do exactly the same. She is concerned for her physical safety. She is a woman and not as physically strong as a man. Mentally and emotionally she is most likely much stronger. Would you like me to rip the piss out of you for having inferior emotional and mental strength?

Ugh how unbecoming.

I'm assuming newdaddie is posting from the drivers seat of his white van.

I know we're supposed to ignore newdaddy, but seriously? The OP was perfectly correct in contacting the planners, as the structural integrity of the building may have been compromised, and the CFNs weren't at home for a polite conversation first. She is perfectly entitled to move furniture around in her flat however and whenever she pleases. She's also perfectly entitled to put her own safety first!

Nothing sneaky/snakey/underhanded was done by OP at all .

sigh I'm asking really nicely and yes, I know people can post what and when they like, but could we please try to ignore Newdaddie on this thread? Please.

@Newdaddie - Like all Superheros, you must learn to user your Superpowers for Good, not Evil

I have net curtains (don't judge me) this means I can see the whole street but they can't see me.
Is that 'snakey'?

@newdaddie

"I have the privilege of being physically imposing which is why I took the actions I did."

Most definitely "man-spreading" I'm cringing on your behalf!

(Puts stirring spoon away)

@Wattyyyy nice garden you have there. I reckon it'd look even nicer with a horse on it.

I think we needn't a club for Cheeky-Fucker-Survivors. We could have badges and everything. Only took me months to get rid of my pony-squatters, hope it all gets sorted for you sooner.

I've been looking out of my window today too. So ashamed of my snakey behaviour.