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AIBU to think it is really cheeky for dd's friends to put their undies in our wash basket

135 replies

NormaSmuff · 28/07/2017 07:48

and i should refuse to do it/bin them?

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DearMrDilkington · 28/07/2017 07:49

Why? It's only underwear. I'd just wash them if they needed them washed.

NormaSmuff · 28/07/2017 07:50

age 17
should it make any difference

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DearMrDilkington · 28/07/2017 07:50

Unless of course your daughter and her friend are in their 20s! That would be weird.

AllTheWittyNamesAreGone · 28/07/2017 07:51

Its just pants, no different to yours or Dd's

NotMyMonkees · 28/07/2017 07:51

Why are they doing this? What do they do with the rest of their washing?

DearMrDilkington · 28/07/2017 07:51

Oh, that's a bit weird. I gathered she was a child!

How long has she been at yours for? She's old enough to wash her own pants!

NapQueen · 28/07/2017 07:52

How do you even know they are her friends? Do you know every piece of underwear dd owns?

NormaSmuff · 28/07/2017 07:52

well yes i do napqueen

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IndigoApple · 28/07/2017 07:53

I often find strange pants in the wash. I think DDs friends leave them on the bedroom floor at sleepovers and DD chucks everything in the wash on the rare occasions she clears under her bed. They're 17 as well. I don't think her friends get them back Grin

NormaSmuff · 28/07/2017 07:53

just an overnight stay

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NormaSmuff · 28/07/2017 07:53

that might be what is happening here indigoapple to be fair

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Bonez · 28/07/2017 07:55

Don't be petty. Just wash them and give them back. Or don't wash them and give them back.

AuroraFloyd · 28/07/2017 07:55

Bit weird, I even hate it when MIL or my step mother offer to do some of our washing when we stay at their houses because I don't like the thought of them handling my underwear! Totally unreasonable of me as it clearly doesn't bother them.

So I'd just wash the undies and say nothing.

AngelaTwerkel · 28/07/2017 07:56

How many pants are there and is this a daily thing?

I couldn't get the slightest bit worked up about this one unless they started turning up each day with their smalls.

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 28/07/2017 07:58

Well it may be a bit off putting to find a strange pair if oants in your basket but I'd just get in an wash thrm.

Pengggwn · 28/07/2017 07:58

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Winterview · 28/07/2017 08:01

Did they leave them on the floor and DD put everything in the basket without thinking?

I would just wash them and hand them back at breakfast with a smile.

I've had adult guests put socks and pants in my wash basket (always men though!) I think sometimes they see a laundry basket and pop things in it on autopilot before they get in the shower! It amuses me but I don't mind. I do 2 loads of laundry a day anyway so a few extra bits doesn't make a difference.

mrswishywashy1 · 28/07/2017 08:08

Do you think the rest of your washing will catch knicker cooties if you wash them? Hmm

blueskyinmarch · 28/07/2017 08:13

I have 2 DDs and when they were teens i used to find random items of underwear and clothing in my wash basket all the time. I just washed it and put it in DD's room for her to return to her friends. Never even gave it a thought. I also washed DD1's boyfriends undies etc when he was staying. I can't understand why this would be any kind of an issue.

NormaSmuff · 28/07/2017 08:13

To me my undies are personal, i would not leave them at other people's houses

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Namechangetempissue · 28/07/2017 08:14

YABU. It's knickers not a handwash jumper or supersize duvet. It's not like you need to do a special wash for them.

Pengggwn · 28/07/2017 08:18

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CosmicPineapple · 28/07/2017 08:20

I would think they just ended up in the wash not that she expected you to wash them.
Its not something i could get worked up about tbh.

NormaSmuff · 28/07/2017 08:20

exactly, i feel it is presumptuous.

just entitled teenagers i spose

there have been other items of clothing but the knickers get on my nerves, plus i wouldnt notice the other items so much

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AgentProvocateur · 28/07/2017 08:23

When mine were teens, there were always random items of clothing in the house. I've still got a bag of unclaimed stuff somewhere. Just wash them. It's no biggie.

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