AIBU to think it is really cheeky for dd's friends to put their undies in our wash basket

[NormaSmuff]

and i should refuse to do it/bin them?

I have two boys 13 and 17. If their friends come straight from school to stay I put there uniforms and undies through the wash. Likewise if they come straight from football their kits go through. So they go home with clean things- I never thought of
It as a problem

Also one friend who would wet the. Bed- I would wash his nightclothes before he went home too.

They are knickers. They won't bite you.

Unless they are embroidered with NormaSnuff washes my grundies then yabvvvu. It's a pair of pants would you rather they were festering under your dd bed?

I'm always confused by comments about kids doing their own washing. I mean, DD can use the machine and puts it on pretty regularly, has done for years, but it's not to wash 'her' washing - it's because a (family) wash needs doing with a mix of hers, mine, whatever random sleepover socks...
Surely getting each person to do their own means overuse of the machine and detergent?

I wouldn't wash anyone's knickers it's skanky. She's not a child at 17 can't understand why anyone thinks a 17 year old is a child. They can marry at 16 and join the army.

That comment is weird in every single particular, Chester.
Skanky?
And what ha S the army to do with it?

I wouldn't wash anyone's knickers it's skanky.

Eh?????

I suppose you have to remember that there are lots of mumsnetters who freak out at the idea of anyone touching their clean pants.........

OP, is it something that all your DD's friends do or is it one particular friend? It sounds from your posts that you are dealing with a lot of pants on a regular basis - rather than a one-off pair that has gone astray. How are all the lost pants returned to their owners after every sleepover, could you not ask your DD to have a word when/if she returns them. And why is it only their pants and not their sweaty t-shirts etc.
I can't get my head around the idea of leaving my pants at someone else's house on purpose - mostly because I would want them back and it makes sense to keep them with me.

Chestervase1 I wouldn't wash anyone's knickers it's skanky
Are you single and childless Chester??

Eh what washing other peoples pants is skanky eh what

Only weird thing is you still do your 17 yo washing. I also can't remember all of my own knickers so would never realise that they weren't your DD in the first place. Maybe your a big knicker obsessive OP?

I once mentioned on here that I had got in my neighbour's washing because it had started to rain, and loads of people said they would have washed it again if they had been my neighbour.........

I once mentioned on here that I had got in my neighbour's washing because it had started to rain, and loads of people said they would have washed it again if they had been my neighbour.........

That's bonkers! Unless you look and smell like Worzel Gummidge, and appeared clutching their smalls to your chest?

@cardibach it's the same amount of washing, just you're responsible for your own laundry. You don't put on half loads and most people can adequately read the instructions on dosing laundry detergent. I'm one of three girls, from about 12 I did my own laundry. Mostly after a shrinking of favourite top incident. I decided I'd rather take the fate of my clothes into my own hands..

I know, Angela. Mad, isn't it?

Only weird thing is you still do your 17 yo washing

Why on earth is that weird? Do people cease being part of the family at 16/17

Do people who live in he same house really wash their clothes separately

Jesus mumsnet is one odd bastard of a place sometimes

It's part of learning to take care of yourself @migraleve. I was obv part of the family. And then I lived in a shared house and still washed my own clothes....

Never viewed laundry as so important to familial bond! Mumsnet IS weird. Apparently people can't fathom different domestic set ups..

I wouldn't notice.

All my kids brought other kids clothing home from their school residential trips this year and I washed it all without noticing. Older two noticed when putting their clean laundry away. Youngest's friends' dad handed me a (washed and ironed) bag of DC3's clothes which prompted me to check DC3's clean washing as I put it away and return various items (washed but not ironed :o )

I don't think your DD's friends put them in your wash, I think they forget to pick them up off the floor and pack them and your DD just shoves all dirty clothing from her floor into the wash, asothers have said.

I do think a 17 yo should be doing her own washing though

It's part of learning to take care of yourself @migraleve.

Oh right. Well mine all know how to and often actually do some washing. But fuck separating everyone's washing because they are old enough to do it themselves. Do partners get treated the same in this 'learning curve' or is it just the offspring?

reetgood me too, identical reasons (my mum boil washed and tumble dried all children's clothing despite washing her own stuff on delicate cycle and having a special drying set up for it) so as soon as I became concious of my body and clothing I took over my laundry so as not to have to wear very clean but shrunken items! Also so as to actually get my own clothes back (also multiple sisters).

@migraleve I had my own basket, in my room. No need to separate! Let's not forget I was the one to instigate it.

This is really offending you isn't it :D