AIBU to think it is really cheeky for dd's friends to put their undies in our wash basket

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and i should refuse to do it/bin them?

If the friend is just staying over night then I would think it was weird but if she is staying over for a few days then perhaps not. Maybe her mum washes for her friends when they stay so she just thinks it's normal.

No, I wouldn't wash her knickers, eew!

Does your 17 year old not do her own laundry? Clearly my parents pulled a fast one on me... :)

That's disgusting. What horrible young women. Check your dd hasn't said 'Oh, stick it in the wash, Mum will do it'. Why are they taking their clothes off at your house? Put an end to sleepovers and that should be the end of the problem.

Are they going in the fully automatic washing machine with a pile of other stuff or are you expected to cart them down to the stream with the other washerwoman and beat them clean on the traditional washing stones?

Chips are you being serious

Surely that means they feel welcome and at home in your house...that's nice.id be pleased my kids friends felt at home here...sadly nothing could be further from the truth in our house,but that's a whole other thread

I think it is weird to assume any one else is happy to wash your dirty grundies. Host may or may not mind. No way would I have done this. YANBU.

I would wash them and give them back maybe next time a friend comes over shout are these your knickers they are a pair of pants not toxic waste

As other people have suggested it's likely that they were camouflaged in the general mess that is a teenagers floor and got swept into the washing when your DD 'tidied up'.

I think you are BU bordering on the petty even to notice it. My YA daughters undies are such tiny little scraps of fabric that I am hard put to recognise them as garments let alone identify the owners.

I'm astonished that a random pair in the pants can provoke such a strong visceral reaction in you. I'd love to have the sort of life where something like this riles me.

Just wash them and be done with.

While it is neither disgusting, nor makes much extra work for OP, it is a weird thing to do if only staying one night. Come on, would any of us do it staying one night at someone's. Once could be absentminded, more often, completely thoughtless. I would be tempted to build up a collection and hand them back with a great flourish!

My Dds pants are so tiny i thought they were ripped bit of lace off something girlpants dont take up much room in the washing machine do they

It's a pair of pants, not nuclear waste........

Completely fine. She might have started her period or had accident ad been too embarrassed. Wash them and put them on her bag or give them to df to give to you.

chips4teaplease are you serious?? Why are they taking their clothes off at the OP's house? Did you miss the fact that that they stayed over? Would you wear the same pair of pants on day 1, overnight and on day 2?
However hard I tried I wouldn't be able to work myself up about my child's friends underwear in my washing.

Dd sorry

your real issue is surely that you have a 17 year old incapable of doing her own laundry? Lazy minkey!

at those using words like "eeww" and "disgusting ". Is this cos they cover "ladies bottoms". Presumably the girl hasn't shat in them. Why is it so disgusting??

It's quite simple. Just burn the undies. Double bag the ashes. Give them back to the girl and scream "how dare you leave your undies here you presumptive caaaaaah - never darken my door agaaaaaain"

I guerente that will end this issue.

I probably wouldn't notice if they were Dds or not i did buy their underwear at 17 but i usually forgot what they looked like by the time they got to the washing machine

Why are they taking their clothes off at your house? I expect OP's house is the
Place For Debaucherous Fun where they all take off their clothes and clean ones on because only dirty or desperate people would wear the same knickers all day, overnight abs into the next day

Teenage girls change their clothing constantly. It is just what they do. They also swap clothing on a regular basis too. My 19 yo uni student DD says she and her friends pretty much have communal wardrobes!

Chips are you being serious
Absolutely. I have never put my underwear into some other woman's washing.

It was more the "disgusting why are they taking their clothes off" comment I was not sure if you were serious about.

Do you expect guests to sleep fully clothed in the clothes they had being wearing all day/not to shower?

How very odd you are Chips