To be put off him by his exs and kids?

[Tinasally24]

I met a guy thought he was nice,had a few dates and he asked me to become official.
Here is the thing,he has 2 kids with two different women,1 he never sees because she won't let him and he hasn't been to court (the boy is 8) ..why isn't he fighting for him? Then he said the bitch has just started taking maintenance off me now..(so has he not paid in 8 years?)
All these thoughts in my head,what has he done that has stopped his ex not letting him know his own son.
He told me he used to be wild and through Facebook I seen he has had about 8 gfs in a few years.
He admitted he cheated on his eldest Childs mother and he is forever changing jobs after a few months.
So is he flakey?
The thing is when we are together he is great,he showers me with attention,makes me feel good.
We get on like a house on fire.
The other day he asked if I wanted children etc
Should I let that put me off?

Go for it op! I bet you're the one who can change him! He just needs the love of a good woman!

Not.

I'm sure he's lovely right now. He has no reason not to be. But sooner or later you'll have your first argument, and I bet it won't be a respectful one where you agree to differ...

Stay with this guy and you are facing a future of being another bitch who had his kid and won't let him see it (you could bend over backwards to facilitate contact - you'll still be the bitch who won't let him see his kid because that's where general sympathy lies. Way more rewarding than actually being a parent.)

Value yourself more

Don't walk away OP

RUN!

People who have five minutes to spare and have been on too many threads where the answer to the dilemma is really pretty obvious may enjoy John Finnemore's therapist sketch

"ocean-going, copper-bottomed arsehole"
Ha ha, love this.
OP, I want to add my voice to all those who say I believe you're better off out of this one. I've been there - someone makes you feel like a million dollars to begin with. They can see you like it, they can see it's winning you over. But they have their own agenda really. They may even on some level genuinely want it to work. But they got issues that precede you, ones that you can't fix. This sounds really not healthy for you.