DH on holiday

[Holidayhell1]

NC for this.

We are currently on holiday, all inc. as you tend to do, we've found our 'spot' to sit at each day, next to a pool and under some trees. Nearby are a couple of women, who happen to speak the same language as DH's native language. Both women have been blatantly eyeing DH up (he's very fit and classically good looking). Our DCs have noticed it, they make it very obvious, one in particular goes in the pool the minute DH does.

He told me a couple of days ago he'd joined in a conversation they were having (in the language) the other day as he was getting food. I was irritated and said wtf, you refuse to even be friendly to neighbour's at home. He knew I was annoyed with how openly they were showing their interest.

Last night he stayed at the bar after me and the DCs went back to the room. (About 1030/12) at 0045 he still wasn't back and not responding to texts or calls. Me and a DC trudged up to the bar and there he's sat, happily drinking and chatting to one of the slappers.

He says I'm spoiling the holiday by being upset, and that it was an innocent drink, he wasn't doing anything. I say just because it was just a drink, it will have signalled interest on his part, and it's deeply disrespectful and humiliating to me.

AIBU? Is my reaction OTT? The DCs are furious with him and told him he was 'untrustworthy and cheating'. He's gone off on his own.

Kind advice please 😔😔

Glad you've sorted it out OP.

Hope you're holiday continues without further "events".

Maybe stay at home next year 😂

I can't believe the hard time you got op!!!

The DC struggling with having been caught up in an earthquake, who'd have thought it... should think most adults will be too tbh!

Being pissed off at a DH not shutting down obvious flirtation from another woman that is going on day after day, strange that

Hope you DH sorts himself out after your discussion. Hope the DC are ok too what a horrible experience.

In the aftermath of the quake that we were in, the Ex and I slept with our passports under our pillows just in case we were buried in another quake

the Ex barely slept for days for the worry. It's a MASSIVE thing to experience.

i am glad you have reached an understanding with your H OP, It'll be interesting to see how things are handled today.

I guess it depends on whether you trust your husband or not

Just because he's chatting to them, it doesn't mean necessarily he's giving them the come on. Maybe you need to give him some credit and trust him?

OP you have handled yourself with decorum and humour on this thread. It is quite obvious that you were perceiving the situation correctly and had every right to feel upset. I hope you get to enjoy the rest of your holiday with a bit of peace and quiet as you and your DCs deserve it!!

I can't believe the hard time you have had here op! I'd be pissed too. I'm glad you've talked but frankly I would never ever have my
Husband go the bar while I sort the kids every afternoon or just go to town without taking the children or working out my child free time. Add in his lack of sympathy over the earthquake for the kids and I don't think he's all that even without the flirting and sulking.

You haven't read most of this thread, have you user147?!

Read my last one on here re. Trust.

Quite like this weeing business.

I'm glad he stopped huffing off long enough for you to chat/sort it out. Your DH hasn't come out of this well to be honest, and it's not just the flirting, barflying stuff.

Husband go the bar while I sort the kids every afternoon or just go to town without taking the children or working out my child free time. Add in his lack of sympathy over the earthquake for the kids and I don't think he's all that even without the flirting and sulking.

To be fair to dh, I like going to the room for a couple of hours each afternoon. It's 2 hours where I am not thinking about the sun, have ac and can snooze readmn relax.

A bug out bag is a bag of essentials to run with in the event of an earthquake. Dh actually got a makeshift one together the night of the big one (6.7). Passports, money, warm clothes and phones. In case things really go tits up and you need to get flown home in a hurry.

You haven't read most of this thread, have you user147?!

A lot of people don't bother rtft then come out with judgey sanctimonious statements when all they have to do is read the info provided. Grrr!

Glad you've talked it through.

Huh, the things you learn.

You couldn't keep your children out of it, could you? Yes yes I suppose they could see him chatting with the children but it YOU who clearly bitched and whinged about it. Shitty parenting

OP, next time make sure you blindfold your children.

I love holiday hooray's mind reading. Because I'm pretty sure nowhere on this thread have I said I bitched and whinged about it to anyone!

(My kids don't read MN - do yours? Shitty parenting).

I will make sure I tell the lovely innocent lady to wait until the DC are in another pool before she moves her sunbed directly in front of him (3 ft away - not crowded) and removes her bikini top (no one else topless).

Mea culpa

Glad to hear you've talked it through with your DH and he's accepted he was being unreasonable. Much better to communicate than sit and let it fester (not saying that's what you were doing!)

I hope your children aren't too traumatised by all the weeping and wailing you've obviously been doing in front of them

They're just embarrassed by the weeing really, Robot 😜

They're single, your dh isn't. Your dh is on a family holiday and should want to be with his family. When you went back to the room he should have wanted to go too. Why does he want to spend time with those women? He's after a holiday fling?

Not rtwt but your dh is being a dick imo, yanbu, it would bug the hell out of me too. The other women should butt out and your dh should concentrate on having a family holiday. It is disrespectful of your dh, to chat and drink late at night in a bar, without you, with women who it's obvious have got a crush on him and have annoyed you with their actions regarding him.

You said the children were furious with him and called him untrustworthy etc

Clearly you've been bitching about him.

Mrs Rosa - agree that ops dh has been a fool for flattery but these other women aren't innocent. If I was on a girls holiday and was single, I would not be targeting a good looking married dad. I would worry it would look like I was trying to snare him and piss his wife and kids off too, so I'd find some single guys to chat to and eye up instead. Likewise if I was the dh I wouldn't sit chatting and drinking with two guys who had made it obvious they remixed me, out of respect to my dh and family and because I would worry it looked like I was courting their attention and wasn't interested in my dh.

Both as bad imo.

*fancied not remixed!!

Yeah it sounds like DH is being a bit selfish and unreasonable. The fact he is trying to make the issue seem like it's totally fault is a bit wrong. He should be enjoying the holiday with you, not with strangers at a bar. Hope you get things sorted

Omg so much bile from holidayhooray

Clearly you've been bitching about him.
Someone is definitely bitching.

They said it unprompted hooray. Kids have eyes, ears and rather too many opinions sometimes and their view of relationships is rather simplistic.

Maybe read the thread?!