AIBU buy they copied our wedding dance

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Background-
Group of friends, all couples, friends for about 4/5 years. DH and I got married last year and this particular couple came. Earlier this year, all couples together watching films and the song that came on when the credits rolled so DH and I decided to recreate our dance after a few drinks. A few days later female friend said to me that that was actually the wedding song they have planned, they had completely forgotten we had used it at our wedding (how could they?! Our dancing was amazing, lol) and did I mind? Of course I said no, it's a song, who has ownership of a song etc.
Fast forward to their wedding this weekend, and they used said song, but also had exactly the same dance routine. I mean, everything identical (we went to lessons and learnt it). Isn't that a bit weird? Like less than 12months later they're doing the same dance routine to the same song? Even if they went to lessons to learn it (but they say they haven't had lessons) then they could ask for a different routine ?
I know you can't have ownership of a song (or a dance) but AIBU to expect that you at least do your own version? Mutual friends attending both weddings so if they care (probably don't) it would be pretty obvious.

I think you're unreasonable to have a song, have a dance, have friends who have a dance, imagine that mutual friends would notice or care and to make this thread about it all.

It's not like you had been planning that dance but they did it at their wedding before you got the chance to do it at yours. If it reflects badly on anyone it's them, not you.

Ooooo, some bitterness there Corycopia!

It's a bit weird to completely copy you, but I would be flattered that your dance was so amazing that they had to copy it.

Meow Corn
I agree. Definitely weird to completely copy you. Friends probably wont remember though.

If your dancing was so amazing it would've been more memorable

Lol @ cornycopia, I do agree though, choreographed wedding dance routines are horribly cringe-y, and no matter how amazing you think your dancing was I can guarantee that the majority of people watching you would not remember anything about the routine and probably not the song either. Because for a lot of people it's really just not that interesting. So most people would not have noticed.

Anyway, I doubt they would have remembered the routine from watching you do it once after a few drinks. Any chance they'd hired the same choreographer?

Imitation is the highest form of flattery.

Was it 'I've had the time of my life's from Dirty Dancing or 'You're the one that I want' from Grease?

If so, they've been done by millions of brides and grooms the world over. Not original and not entertaining.

It was the Birdie song wasn't it?

Get a life springs to mind.

More in the world to worry about that a stupid dance that was mimicked and you are having a hissy fit over it!

I really really hope it was the Birdie Song

Or Saturday Night by Whigfield?

Is there a chance it is a fairly standard routine dance teachers teach to anyone wanting to learn a wedding dance?

Or is actual the dance fir the song?

I agree with Corn! It's like 7 year olds in a playground!

"That's OUR dance! We did it first!"

YABU
I doubt I'd remember any of my friends' first dance songs or dance routines, if they had one. No-one will have noticed apart from you.

Nothing worse than seeing people try and do dance routines for their wedding dance just comes across as cringey sorry especially as you did it again recently. I agree with pp I bet the guests who couldn't remember the song you used let alone the dance routine.

Was it exactly the same choreography? If so, it's highly unlikely that they remembered it after seeing you do it twice. Not unless it was very simple. It's more likely that your instructor taught you something generic and they've had the same lessons.

You say that serendipity but my choreographed dance was literally amazing.

I do have a dance background though. It wasn't cringe in anyway and was a cha cha routine. I dunno why people assume everyone is out there doing the funky chicken. And so what if they are, people need to relax their anuses

Sorry Algebraic - people would be polite to your face, and I don't doubt that you can dance very well. It's not about the standard of the dancing. The whole concept of a wedding dance routine makes a lot of people cringe, it's just not appealing to our sensibilities at all. You could be bloody Vincent and Flavia and the majority of people watching will just not care or remember.

Shouldn't matter to you though if you enjoyed yourself, surely your wedding was for you not everybody else anyway! Who cares what other people think if it's your style, sounds like you had a fab time.

Btw you know if your anus is relaxed then shit comes out, right?

You lost me at "wedding dance", to be honest. Arse-clenchingly cringeworthy!

serendipity is right, wedding dances are horrendously naff and make most if us cringe in embarrassment on thw couples behalf.
I agree with PP, chances are its a standard routine churned out to lots of couples wanting this kind of thing. As for not remebering your song, why would they?! How many wedding dance songs of other people can you remember?!

my choreographed dance was literally amazing

Oh dear.

Yikes. It's the mutual friends having to endure it several times I feel sorry for.

People actually do this??? Too funny!

Back to topic. YABU. Noone else is going to remember, or care, who danced which way to what song.

Most weddings are absolutely identical despite the couples being convinced of their originality. I like a wedding, though have not yet had to experience a dance routine, but the fact is they all blur into one. Let it go.