AIBU buy they copied our wedding dance

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Background-
Group of friends, all couples, friends for about 4/5 years. DH and I got married last year and this particular couple came. Earlier this year, all couples together watching films and the song that came on when the credits rolled so DH and I decided to recreate our dance after a few drinks. A few days later female friend said to me that that was actually the wedding song they have planned, they had completely forgotten we had used it at our wedding (how could they?! Our dancing was amazing, lol) and did I mind? Of course I said no, it's a song, who has ownership of a song etc.
Fast forward to their wedding this weekend, and they used said song, but also had exactly the same dance routine. I mean, everything identical (we went to lessons and learnt it). Isn't that a bit weird? Like less than 12months later they're doing the same dance routine to the same song? Even if they went to lessons to learn it (but they say they haven't had lessons) then they could ask for a different routine ?
I know you can't have ownership of a song (or a dance) but AIBU to expect that you at least do your own version? Mutual friends attending both weddings so if they care (probably don't) it would be pretty obvious.

This must be a wind up.

The cringiest bit was the fact you recreated the dance for your friends after a few drinks. Reminds me of Monica and Chandler from friends recreating their childhood routine 😂.

Choreographed wedding dances are soooo YouTube-circa-2007. They make me cringe. I'd be grateful your friend did it too so at least you can share the shame!!!

PS I bet it was I've Had the Time of My Life...bet you any money

YABU ! I find the whole wedding dances so so so cringe worthy . Honest sets my teeth on edge just thinking of you and dh re enacting it haha

Why are weddings so bloody theatrical these days ?? Sorry but I just don't get the whole big show so many Newley weds put on these days

Oh gosh... honestly, no one cares about your wedding or your dance as much as you do. I can pretty much guarantee it takes up very little head space for them.

Well I love weddings- I'm surprised how many people here seem to hate them! (Don't go?)
DH and I really enjoyed learning to dance on the run up to the big day. We couldn't imagine anything worse than the awkward 'couple shuffle' so we decided to learn a few basic fancy steps. So no it wasn't a big dirty dancing style dance to show off, but a few nice steps that look good but I imagine are fairly easy to teach, to a song that meant something to us.

No way would my dh even entertain doing a fully choreographed dance haha we did do our first dance but just the boring slow dance and then everyone got up and partied. We had a huge barn dance as we r farmers and it was not in the slightest but weddingy or fancy . It was just a proper good knees up . We even had a tractor and trailer ride for all guests from the church . People loved it and still rave about it now 10 years later . My BIL however is the type of "man" to do the full blown cringeworthy shebang of a choreographed dance . I honestly can't get past that you and dh did it again for friends a year later

I love weddings but cringe at your dancing thing.

Who really cares? Other people's weddings are instantly forgotten!They are a chore. Having to take dance lessons to dance at your wedding however....

My BIL and SIL had an owl deliver their rings. I wonder what people may say to that

Sounds like a hoot!

The choreography will belong to the dance teacher unless you paid extra to have a bespoke dance created

I have seen some amazing wedding dances, but I have a lot of friends who are trained dancers & teachers.

Sad that they couldn't have been original and chosen their own wedding instead of a copy of yours.

I say this after one of our guests copied our entire wedding. It was a very bad copy though.

When you say that you went to lessons and learned it, do you mean that this is some kind of established routine that has been done by other people before, in movies or whatever?

If so, it's not "your" dance, is it? You learned someone else's moves, and danced them to someone else's song.

If, however, you invented some kind of interpretative dance that was entirely original (and I'm thinking Big Lebowski original here), then YANBU.

Assuming you know all the moves still, you and DH should join in their dance 2/3rds of the way through .....

Look, no one remembers your song because they were cringing so much while you were performing it, their eyes were closed.

please don't say it was dirty dancing

Same @NotForSale. We thought it would be more "cringe" (as everyone seems to love saying) if we got up and only swayed. DH loves dancing but asked could we learn something so he felt confident as he'd never been to classes or training. So we took private lessons.
Glad I'm not friends with half the people posting here. But I think they feel the same about me
Your true friends will remember your dance. I even remember the first dance at a wedding of a woman from work who I barely knew!

Your true friends will remember your dance

Dying

There's a video on YouTube somewhere, surely?!?

Come on, op! Link

Oh god first dances are cringey enough without being choreographed. I can barely remember our own first dance song and we only got married in 2015. Can't remember anyone else's song or how they danced. Really and truly no one but you cares about or remembers your first dance.

FFS. I am really happy about our small wedding with barely any dance, barely any alcohol where people spend most of the time talking, taking walks in the lovely garden and just generally enjoying the company of others instead of being preoccupied with sticking to a precise schedule and plan where everything had to be 200%.
I have some lovely memories of sitting and chatting to my relatives and friends, all sober. I couldn't care less if someone copied our whole wedding down to my dress. All that hooha around weddings is ridiculous.

Choreographed wedding dances remind me of the phrase

" Remember you are individual - just like everybody else "

Me and my partner haven't got married because, quite frankly, we find the whole thing a bit 'attention seeky' , and there is nothing more attention seeking than a choreographed first dance.

Has anyone been to a wedding where the bridesmaids and grooms get involved as the happy couple have a ' fake argument' on the dance floor?. That was probably the most cringeworthy thing I have ever seen.

As for people bigging up their own dancing - People don't do this because it is bragging, and often such self adoration is completely misplaced.

Was it Riverdance? Please tell me it was Riverdance.

Oh goodness. I like weddings but if the couple in question started some serious, choreographed first dance, I'd crawl under the nearest table with embarrassment.

Was it 'Thinking Out Loud' by any chance? That seems to be 'the new dirty dancing' one.

One of the better weddings I went to, no first dance at all. All awkwardness avoided!

First dances are not part of any English tradition. Weddings were followed by a meal, speeches, cutting of cake and then couple left for honeymoon. Evening parties/discos are an addition since early 1970s. Something brought over from America I suspect. As for first dances nanny would have said, 'You are just being showy offy!' Most dubious taste.